Replacing ceremony reader?

Sonita12

A friend of mine just informed me yesterday that she didn't realize my wedding was on a Friday, though I had asked her to read and told her the wedding was on a Friday in September, and sent out STDs in October (little annoyed).

Anyway, she can't make it to the wedding at all. I know it's an enormous faux pas to replace a member of the wedding party, which I would NEVER do, but is it equally as wrong to replace a reader? No one (other than the readers) knows who is reading and what they're reading.

I would never want anyone to feel like they're the second choice and I would be fine with just omitting the reading altogether. I do know, however, that this friend I would like to ask would be super happy to do the reading.

In advance, I appreciate your advice. You girls are great. Thanks!

baystateapple

I could be wrong, but I really think this is nothing like replacing a WP member.  If you are having a ceremony that involves readings, you have to have a reader.  You do not have to have a certain number of BMs or GMs.

I would ask someone else.

[Deleted User]

It sounds like it is a really beautiful reading and you wouldn't want to look back on things and regret not using it.

With over 2 months to go, I think it would be perfectly fine to ask someone else. They would have plenty of time to practice & become familiar with it, so its not like it is super last minute.

tpender13

Ditto PPs. I would ask someone else to read.

achiduck

I think it's fine to ask someone else to do the reading. It sounds like your first reader bowed out because of work/other time comittments so it's not like you guys had a falling out or something. I agre with baystateapple, it's not as "serious" as replacing a WP member.

Judith233

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_replacing-ceremony-reader?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:21fff0a0-5b7f-4e82-8444-29893e107f83Post:ece7303c-a263-4497-9b93-f2a646d83c7f">Re: Replacing ceremony reader?</a>:
[QUOTE]It sounds like it is a really beautiful reading and you wouldn't want to look back on things and regret not using it. With over 2 months to go, I think it would be perfectly fine to ask someone else. They would have plenty of time to practice & become familiar with it, so its not like it is super last minute.
Posted by MissySue20[/QUOTE]

This

Sonita12

Thank you all very much. As usual, sound advice I'm definitely going to follow. My friend and I are going to a baseball game tonight and I'm really excited to ask her to read.

It is a beautiful reading; a poem by Maya Angelou titled "Touched By An Angel."