Self-appointed MOH burns out bride

jemmini6

I want to believe you are a troll (ie, you are both the crazy MOH poster, and now the frustrated bride poster, and made up this whole scenario to get a rise out of people), mostly because I feel bad for you if you aren't. 

If you are real, I think you really need to grow a pair (no offense) and tell her to back the F off or you'll call the police.  She's getting into serious stalker territory.  Also, don't include her in anything wedding related, don't even invite her to the wedding...you really need to cut all ties with this person.

misshart00

My only thought about her being a troll is would a troll wait a whole month before giving the other side of the story? Usually it's just a few days apart.

RebeccaB88

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[QUOTE]My only thought about her being a troll is would a troll wait a whole month before giving the other side of the story? Usually it's just a few days apart.
Posted by misshart00[/QUOTE]

This, and usually trolls want to argue their point with us, or come up with other ways to be oppositional to everything we say, and rarely are they able to keep their stories straight.  OP is sounding way more reasonable than this.  She's having a long engagement, knows it's way too early to pick her bridal party, so she hasn't, knows it's too early to start serious planning, so she hasn't, and is pretty chill about the whole wedding thing.  The only thing she's freaking about is this crazypants friend.  (With good reason.)

ITA with the suggestion to seek legal advice.  Either your city's free legal aid services, or if you have a friend or family member who is an attorney, Find out what legally you can do about this.  And totally call the cops on her. Sounds like she isn't going to listen to you at all. 

aragx6

You sound reasonable and funny. I hope you stick around. Sounds like you might need more advice going forward, but we also talk about non-wedding-related things too.

RisaCtoFox

I wish I was a damn troll so I wouldn't have to deal with this. Who knew getting engaged would come with the same amount of drama as jr. high? It's pretty obvious that I do need to "man up," ( no offense taken, jemmini, you're 100% correct) as this problem may not have escalated to this level if I had squashed it from the beginning. But, really, I never in a million years saw this coming! I did flip out on her when she showed up at my house and I thought it was an emergency (mostly because that's what she was yelling out). Obviously it didn't do any good, and I need to take this to a higher authority. And thanks, aragx, I like the vibe here. You guys are really helpful and I can definitely see myself sticking around!

jemmini6

Good luck OP, keep us posted!

dazyabbey

I want to know what happens...

m tulli

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[QUOTE]Didn't we have a wackadoodle posting a few weeks ago that said she was the self-appointed MOH for a bride who had done nothing with a July 2013 wedding? Interesting...
Posted by ILoveMilkDuds[/QUOTE]

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[Deleted User]

Yes, please come back and update us!

pearlaqua

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[QUOTE]I wish I was a damn troll so I wouldn't have to deal with this. Who knew getting engaged would come with the same amount of drama as jr. high? It's pretty obvious that I do need to "man up," ( no offense taken, jemmini, you're 100% correct) as this problem may not have escalated to this level if I had squashed it from the beginning. But, really, I never in a million years saw this coming! I did flip out on her when she showed up at my house and I thought it was an emergency (mostly because that's what she was yelling out). Obviously it didn't do any good, and I need to take this to a higher authority. And thanks, aragx, I like the vibe here. You guys are really helpful and I can definitely see myself sticking around!
Posted by RisaCtoFox[/QUOTE]

I've only known one self-appointed "MOH" in the past and things did not end well. She and bride are no longer on speaking terms after years of MOH selfishness and crazy drama (one of the highlights was the wedding speech where the MOH talked about herself the whole time and referred to the bride in creepy possessive terminology). This same "MOH" wrestled the title from the bride's family member. She balked at even sharing the title, having MOH next to her name in the program was like Gollum drooling over the preeeeeecious.   Good luck. I believe you're real because weddings of BFFs can bring out the psycho in some.  For my friend and this MOH, the wedding was the beginning of a lot of nutty behavior, probably stemming from the MOH being sad that her friend was getting married and she wasn't.

What does FI think about your "MOH"???

bonge

I think you are going to have to end this friendship & take further measures against her. I believe you because i had someone doing the same crazy type crap. She lives in a different town,w e were friends a long long time. She started following me here & on my blog, sending my posts to people. Now i finally have proof & screenshots of her following me. I got a tracker to show the ips, where they come from, how long they spend on my blog etc so i can prove it if i ever have to go to the cops. I also warned her in a post so that i gave warning. 

Anyways make sure you document everything, hearsay won't get you anywhere.