Two mother-son dances

mraesmith

My fiance would like to do a mother-son dance with his Mom and one with his step Mom. I think its a little much, am I wrong? He feels that since his step Mom has been in his life for 17 years he should, but they're really not that close.

cupcakesfrosting

Make sure neither of his Mom's would be offended if:
1) He does one song, but dances with both of them. Biological Mother first, then halfway through, Step-Mother.

He should be able to make this decision, especially if it means something to him.

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mraesmith

I think he wants to do two whole songs, thats why I think its a lot but I didnt think of the switching thing! Thanks for the idea! Yeah sorry about the double post...

cupcakesfrosting

Even if he does want to do two songs, it should be something that, if he feels strongly about, should be up to him. My Step-Father has been in my life almost 13 years, and when I get married next year, I will be dancing with him as well as my Biological Father.

cupcakesfrosting

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_two-mother-son-dances-1?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:23df4693-0c0c-4c73-b997-7b23cf93b882Post:c658f4b0-39b0-4d13-87cb-cf1b02a26c9b">Re: Two mother-son dances</a>:
[QUOTE]You could also see if he is OK with dancing with both of them, but not making everyone WATCH both dances. There is nothing that says he can't dance with either of them during the rest of the dance.
Posted by mrs.jesse[/QUOTE]

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AutumnFair

If your FI has two songs already in mind, you could ask your DJ if he could set it up so that it only plays so much of both the songs and just have one transition into the other (seen it done many times). 

skippylouwho

It will be about 3 or 3 1/2 minutes out of your life while for each dance. If he wants to dance with both of them and they are ok with it, it's his choice.  You can greet guests, get a drink, go to the restroom while he's dancing.

jackie8582

My brother just did this at his wedding, he had the same song played twice and everyone though it was really sweet. I am doing the same thing at my wedding but I have separate songs picked out for my dad and step dad.

marisah83

I think it is sweet that he wants to dance with both of them.  My best friend's husband was adopted, but he always maintained contact with his biological family.  He danced with his adoptive mother and then his biological mother at their wedding.  The DJ transitioned from one song into another, and it went really smoothly.

mraesmith

Thanks for the advice guys