Im anal about my headcount. So I sent our STD and about half of our guests are so excited for us and happy to attend that they instantly told us they were coming. Now, I wondering about the other half? Do people usually tell you if they are NOT planning to come at all after recieving a STD?
Formal invites will go out soon but Im obcessed with the headcount. Is this normal or am I starting a ticker until I loose my mind the whole thing.
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[QUOTE]Im planning to send everyone including the wedding party invitations. Im just impatient and would like my final headcount NOW.
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good lord, chickie - in the words of Fishy - CALM DOWN.
You have 5 months. An STD does not equal that they have to RSVP...did it give folks a way to RSVP? That'd be weird if it did, IMO. Also, some people haven't planned September yet.
Best piece of advice I can give you: Your wedding means WAY more to you than it does to anyone else. Chill.
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[QUOTE]I havent hounded anyone. I wont make any calls until after the RSVP date. Our guests are about 90% local so travel isnt involved. Im just anal about headcounts. I cant invite friends over with knowing the EXACT number.
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Anal, party of you.
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Im gathering that i need a drink. Im going to focus on other details of the day.
[QUOTE]Im gathering that i need a drink. Im going to focus on other details of the day.
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Atta girl. Good luck.
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Actually I have the exact number that DAY. I will know for sure who comes and who cannot make it when the day gets here. LOL. Im calm now.
[QUOTE]Im gathering that i need a drink. Im going to focus on other details of the day.
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<div>Yes to the first part, no to the second. Honestly, if you focus as much time on your wedding as you make it seem on here, then you need a wedding intervention. You are focusing on things you have no control over right now, like how many people will actually come. </div><div>
</div><div>You need to start enjoying more wine or drinks, and stop fretting about the small details that will change a million times between now and September. You shouldn't let your wedding consume your whole life. Not only will it drive you and everyone around you nuts, it will just lead to disappointment on the wedding day and when it's over.</div>
[QUOTE]Actually I have the exact number that DAY. I will know for sure who comes and who cannot make it when the day gets here. LOL. Im calm now.
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Well yes, but I thought telling you that might send you over the edge if you were worried about not having the count this far out :)
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Maybe a break from wedding planning period will be helpful. It will drive you nuts if you don't pace yourself.
Your invites shouldn't go out until about 2 months before the wedding. My wedding is about 3-4 weeks before yours and I have yet to send out invitations. Unlike you, I didn't send STDs, but did start getting RSVPs already because I and my mom let definite, for-sure invites know about my website, and some of them have RSVPed there. However, you're not going to get any semblance of a final count until just prior to the wedding. Budget for 100% attendance, and if you have fewer than 100% at the final headcount, it will save you money when you give your final payment to your caterer and other relevant vendors.
So, in short, it's not worth worrying about. Sip some wine, do other non-wedding work, watch some Mad Men. That helps me :-).