grooms man = date standing up???

cherbein

Why is it that family's cause such drama for weddings?  Weddings are happy times that are about the BRIDE and the GROOM.  If you are not the bride or the groom you should just happily do what they ask of you and assume NOTHING.  When I hear a friend is engaged I don't even assume I'm invited yet alone a bridesmaid.  Everyone has to make cuts on their guest list and bridal parties should be your nearest and dearest friends.

I had a friend who was really close with her sister in law who was supposed to be a bridesmaid and then pulled out because her husband didn't like the groom, then was back in, then out, then banned the kids, then declared they were not coming and the wedding shouldn't happen.  My friend eventually just kicked them all out of the wedding party and just sent them an invite.  She went on with her planning and had a fantastic wedding that the drama people ended up attending at the end so that the rest of the family would speak to them.

Your sister in law is being a witch and it was wrong of her to assume she was in the wedding.  I am having my SIL and my FSILs as bridesmaids, but I know them all very well and consider them sisters (my fi and I have been together 5.5 years at this point).  If I didn't feel that way, I wouldn't have them and I wouldn't feel bad about it.

Don't let a few crazy family members ruin your big day.  Everyone else is just happy for you.

hollylu28

i think it is an old fashioned thing becuz my grandmother told me the other day that FI brothers wife should be standing up since his brother is his BM (i told her no obviously)  but she seemed to be under the assumption that thats the way it was supposed to be done...maybe this girl just has some reeeeeally old fashioned values???  (my g-ma is 88)

LD1970

Wow, what a mess.  Sorry your SIL is such an ass and your brother is kowtowing to her.  VERY not cool.  And no, you're absolutely not wrong.

miah_23_ncb

im jsu curious why she fells she needs to stand up too. this is weird

Richelle79

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im jsu curious why she fells she needs to stand up too. this is weird

i think she is hurt because she is not the one marring us, she is ordaned by native american culture but has no say in white mans law. when i asked my brother to stand up at that time something should have been said or requested if that is what they were expecting and this whloe thing would have been avioded, and no one would be standing up anyway.
this is all starting to be a bigger pain then i want it to be and seem not worth it in addition to this ordeal one of my uncles called me today asking if my dadd was giving me away 3 of my uncles and their wifes will not be attending if he is and both my aunts and their husbands will also not be coming that is all most the whole family on my side, what to do at this point?