Guest List Break-ups!

Lmg524

Hey girls!

Some of the couples on our guest list who RSVP'd "YES" have since broken up! They haven't informed us of their new RSVP status. Is it appropriate to clarify with them who's still planning on attending the wedding, or if they are bringing another guest (for the sake of the headcount and place cards)? How can we be sensitive to their situation and still clear things up?

Thanks so much!
Love, Linds

georgia_bride09

That's awkward.

I would just call the "primary" guests and ask them if they're still bringing guests. You should also try to get names so your placecards can reflect the correct people.

Beachy730

We had one couple that was engaged and broke up after the invites had gone out, and there was no question that he was our friend, and she was the "guest."  When I called him just to talk and he told me about the break up, I said well for the wedding, the invitation is for you, and you are welcome to bring whoever you want.  If you can just please let me know a week or so before so that I can put their name on the place card.  And he totally understood, and let me know who it was. 

PirateintheSky

It sounds like you still want them both to come. I would call each one of them and "check" on their RSVP.  Just tell them that you are trying to come up with a final head count and you need to know if/who they intend to bring with them.  If they had planned to not come because of the break up they will probably tell you then.

twilight.rose

In this situation, I think it's appropriate to call and get clarification about who will be attending.

If both parties of the former couples are still planning to come, call both to see who is still planning to bring a guest, as that could add quite a few to your head-count, and you need to be sure you can accommodate everyone.

TurtlesAllTheWayDown

Yeah I had that happen to me last week. My friend RSVPed for her and her "guest" (new boyfriend) and they broke up the next day.

I'm personally going to wait as long as I can. My wedding is in October, so around the RSVP deadline in late September I'm going to clarify if she's still bringing anyone. I wouldn't do it now - the person was just in a breakup and they don't know if they're bringing anyone - unless you really need to have your numbers into the caterer ASAP.