Faux Pas on Our Reception Cards!!!

PinkGold&Roses

I have a very busy work schedule right now so my FI has graciously taken over a lot of the wedding to-do's.  I ordered our invitations and he made the reception cards to go with the invite.  It turned out really well but on the reception card towards the bottom he put where we are registered at.  I told him it wasn't good etiquette but he said it was fine and convinced me.  We just sent them out and now I feel bad...I don't want it to look like we are hinting that our guests have to buy us a gift...did we really screw up??? I have seen registry info on a lot of invites around here but it sounds like you girls think its horrible so now I feel bad.

aleighk1

Well it is poor etiquette, but you've already sent them out so there's not much you can do at this point.

Mrs.B6302007

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[QUOTE]I have a very busy work schedule right now so my FI has graciously taken over a lot of the wedding to-do's.  I ordered our invitations and he made the reception cards to go with the invite.  It turned out really well but on the reception card towards the bottom he put where we are registered at.  I told him it wasn't good etiquette but he said it was fine and convinced me.  We just sent them out and now I feel bad...I don't want it to look like we are hinting that our guests have to buy us a gift...did we really screw up??? I have seen registry info on a lot of invites around here but it sounds like you girls think its horrible so now I feel bad.
Posted by PinkGold&Roses[/QUOTE]

Well, if you have already sent them out, there's really nothing you can do. It isn't proper etiquette to put registry info anywhere near the invite but there are a lot worse things you can do that inconvenience your guests (not invite SOs, gap between ceremony and reception).

mica178

It's a faux pas, but it's too late.  So just move on and focus on the next thing on your list of things to do, there's no point in beating yourself up when there's no way to change things.

But to all lurkers out there, please please read your proofs.  Registry information should not be anywhere in the wedding invitation packet.

PinkGold&Roses

We're allowing plus 1 's at least....and having a nice reception.  I just feel like it was tacky. 

Mrs.B6302007

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[QUOTE]We're allowing plus 1 's at least....and having a nice reception.  I just feel like it was tacky. 
Posted by PinkGold&Roses[/QUOTE]

So see, you're making it right. ;-)   Don't beat yourself up - a lof of us have done something (myself for sure) that was a faux pas when it came to our weddings.

DramaGeek

If I got one, I'd roll my eyes at the registery info, but then I'd forget about it and move on.  Like PP said, there are much worse things you could have done.  Don't invite my SO, don't host me properly, or have a huge gap and I'm likely to talk smack about your wedding for a long time.

Beads921

I know it's a faux pas, but as a guest, sometimes I like knowing where the couple is registered without having to ask. Most people probably won't even notice.

Beachy730

Ditto the others that yes it's an etiquette faux pas but it's too late to do anything about it, and there's worse things you could have done.

bstent

Obviously there are people out there who will see this as a faux pas, but honestly I wouldn't bat an eye. If anything, it's convenient that now I know how to get the couple a gift that they actually want. I don't think it's anything to beat yourself up over, even those who will see it is a social faux pas will most likely just take a moment to roll their eyes (like a PP said) but will get over it quickly

JanoBean75

As PPs have mentioned, it is a faux pas, but as it's too late to correct, I would not worry too much about it. Just make sure you steer closer to correct etiquette elsewhere in your wedding and you'll be fine.

And bonus points for spelling "faux pas" correctly! I've seen some very creative versions on TK before.

futurepivko

its ok! like PPs said there are worst things that can be done. a lot of people wont even think anything of it.

PinkGold&Roses

Thanks girls I feel better

Goldlie11

I'm not surprised that your fiance didn't know better.  I know that my fiance was shocked when I told him that registry info is not to be included with invites.  Like others said, it's not that bad.  At the end of the day, it's doesn't affect the quality of your wedding.  It's better than "cash gifts preferred".  

jdrose5

Yep on Faux Pas that is one most people don't even know is one these days.   You mentioned you have seen it before.   I was actually told by places where I did a registry before that is acceptable.  I disagree but still if people are told it is acceptable most people are proably not going to think twice about it.  Those that know it is not proper ettiquite will likey think that you didn't know any better, and roll their eyes, and think how sad it is many don't know proper ettiquite these days.