Friday Night

tortis

Hi guys! Anyone still up? It's not that late on the west coast...

pokepoke27

But it is very late on the East Coast. 

Of course, I'm up anyways.

angelstar975

Poke, not really. I have a full week of work lined up with my old job since the mom is going to Hawaii with her parents and the dad doesn't want to take the week off work. That's not for 2 weeks though. It'll be good money that week, but obviously won't hold me over that long.

pokepoke27

Ugh, I'm sorry Angel. That really sucks. I really hope that things work out for you and you find a good job soon : (

tortis

Hi Poke! I don't think we've ever talked on here before I've posted off and on but haven't lately as I'm geting ready to take the bar in like 10 days.

Which brings me to the question- Angel- How is your Fi doing with studying? I bet your ready for this to be over.

pokepoke27

No, I don't believe we have Tortis. I don't recognize you. Good luck on the bar : )

angelstar975

Thanks, Poke. It's just not a great time to be looking... people are on vacation, etc. The ads will start going up for fall pretty soon though.

Tortis, he's doing pretty well with studying. I was just away for a few days, and he spent pretty much every second studying, which was good. He plans to stop studying 3 days before the bar. I don't know how I feel about that, but he said it's best for him to relax, get a few good night sleeps, etc.

tortis

Thanks friend! I've had a pretty shitty week and a pretty shitty day, so I'm KUI a bit. Super creepy of me, but I lurk and I've read a bit about your situation with your H, that sucks a lot. My H and I have done long distance our entire relationship until this past year, so I feel your pain. Granted, the farthest we were was cross- country, so I've never experienced what you are going through. : (

pokepoke27

Angel - I can't study the day before a test. If I do, I'm fuuuucked.

angelstar975

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_friday-night-9?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:31bdbf85-c4a1-4c98-83f7-98a857b0ad9dPost:bf34787d-c030-417f-b4da-f7a160e146ff">Re: Friday Night</a>:
[QUOTE]Angel - I can't study the day before a test. If I do, I'm fuuuucked.
Posted by pokepoke27[/QUOTE]

Really? I often study up until 5 minutes before, haha.

FI often pulled all nighters the night before a final to really make sure he knew the material. He said the bar is different from finals and that won't do him any good. I hope he's right.

tortis

Angel- that's a good plan. Before my first bar, I didn't study too much. I went out to dinner with my parents (H was living across the country at that point) the weekend before and had some drinks. He'll know when he's hit his stopping point. There's a point where your brain honestly cannot take in any more information. 

pokepoke27

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[QUOTE]Thanks friend! I've had a pretty shitty week and a pretty shitty day, so I'm KUI a bit. Super creepy of me, but I lurk and I've read a bit about your situation with your H, that sucks a lot. My H and I have done long distance our entire relationship until this past year, so I feel your pain. Granted, the farthest we were was cross- country, so I've never experienced what you are going through. : (
Posted by tortis[/QUOTE]

<div>It's sweet of you to say : )</div><div>
</div><div>It's a sucky situation, and fortunately it's close to being over. Not as close as I would like, but still close. We've been together for 7 years so we'll make it! </div>

angelstar975

We're planning on going to the shore next weekend and then the bar exam is Tuesday the 24th. I wanted him to study through the weekend and then go to the shore the weekend after, but his birthday is next weekend and he insists he doesn't want (or need) to spend it studying. I'm sure you're right that he'll know when he's hit his stopping point.

I really hope he passes! How are you feeling about it this time around? Do you think it will be any easier having already passed another bar?

tortis

It's a nice feeling to know that even that amount of distance is doable Poke. Because if you can handle this, what really can't you handle, right?

pokepoke27

You're in my thoughts Angel. I hope everything goes well with FI and that you guys can move forward ASAP. 

pokepoke27

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[QUOTE]It's a nice feeling to know that even that amount of distance is doable Poke. <strong>Because if you can handle this, what really can't you handle, right?</strong>
Posted by tortis[/QUOTE]

<div>It sure feels like that's being put to the test, lol. I don't know, I'm just taking each day at a time, because if I look too far ahead right now I'll just see this large amount of time that I feel I can't make it through. But, I mean, I have to make it because there just isn't any other choice, you know?</div>

angelstar975

Poke, when will you be able to get an exact departure date? Is the whole process on hold right now because your H's business hasn't been open long enough?

tortis

I did originally, but I'm starting to think that passing the first time has lulled me into this sense of security. The CA bar is notoriously hard, and tests VERY differently from Ohio, and I need to get my head out of Ohio mode. I will 100% be studying until the day before, but yeah, I'm pretty nervous. I had a huge freak out to H today. When I was studying for and took the bar last year, he was already living in CA, so he missed me like this last time. I'm getting pretty nervous, but that's sometimes a good thing. I'd obviously done studying for the night.

And trust him, he'll know when he's done. There will always be someone studying more than you will, but you have to know where you are. He and I use the same bar review program, and I love it. They are really great about setting up exactly what each person needs to review in the final week. 

And what's really weird, is that your Fi and I will be taking the exact same test on Weds the 25. That's the multi state/ national portion and everyone in the country has to take it the same day. So I'll be taking it for CA and him for PA. I think its weird haha.

pokepoke27

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[QUOTE]Poke, when will you be able to get an exact departure date? Is the whole process on hold right now because your H's business hasn't been open long enough?
Posted by angelstar975[/QUOTE]

<div>Yep. We won't be able to SUBMIT the paperwork until November. At least that gives us plenty of time to bulk up the savings account. H makes good money, but right now we're kind of tight because of the wedding and not working for a month. </div>

tortis

Poke- I agree. H and I were long distance our first 2 years, then lived in the same place for 2 years, but he traveled out of the country every week for work so I only saw him on weekends. Then he got a new job and moved to CA when I was living in OH and finishing up law school/ the bar. It helped to have a date in mind when I would see him again. I can't imagine having to sit and wait like you are. That must be the suck.

angelstar975

Tortis, that is weird that you'll be taking the same test on the 25th, haha. And I'm glad to hear you like the Kaplan program... I was a little nervous about him not doing Barbri, since that's what everyone else seems to do. He said Kaplan gives a little more individualized attention though, which is good. He doesn't talk much about his studying, once he's done for the day, he's done, which is good, although I don't know much about how he's feeling. I think he's more worried about getting a job than he is about passing the bar.

angelstar975

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Friday Night : Yep. We won't be able to SUBMIT the paperwork until November. At least that gives us plenty of time to bulk up the savings account. H makes good money, but right now we're kind of tight because of the wedding and not working for a month. 
Posted by pokepoke27[/QUOTE]

Ugh. I wish he could come out here again or you could visit there or something. I hope you're over there before Christmas!

pokepoke27

Tortis - I think that is the hardest part. The not knowing. I can't stand it. I will be absolutely devestated if I can't be there for Christmas. We've never spent a Christmas together before and ever since we set a date I've been excited about spending Christmas with him this year. I don't think I could handle the disappointment.

ETA: And I realise this makes me sound like an melodramatic whiney child, but that's the way it is.

pokepoke27

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Friday Night : Ugh. I wish he could come out here again or you could visit there or something. I hope you're over there before Christmas!
Posted by angelstar975[/QUOTE]

<div>Yeah, I really wish flights weren't $1500 right now.</div>

angelstar975

Ok ladies, I gotta get some sleep. Goodnight!

pokepoke27

Goodnight Angel!

tortis

I think you're entitled to be melodramatic. I completely understand about the Christmas thing. First of all, its Christmas. Second, if it was in my head as something we'd be together for and then couldn't, I'd be acting like a baby.

pokepoke27

Haha, thanks for validating my whining. H can't understand why I can't be more positive. I might start getting better, but the news hit me hard. 

So how long have you been married?

tortis

About a year and a half-ish. October 2010!

Tell him you'll be positive next week.

pokepoke27

Ha, I don't know if I'll be positive that quickly. I guess it depends on how things go with my family. 

Congrats on your marriage : ). Tell me a little about yourself!