Too early for evening thread? I don't care.

PetalPockets2012

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[QUOTE]Bay, I sure hope your H sticks with his plan of getting the anxiety issues treated. 
Posted by Holly4212011[/QUOTE]

This.

I hope everything works out for the best for you, Bay, whatever that may be.

baystateapple

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Too early for evening thread? I don't care. : No kidding.  But now that his family is more aware, they should help p[revent that, yes?
Posted by MyUserName1[/QUOTE]
I'm hoping so.  BIL is getting his master's in psychology, and he's been pretty good at shooting down all of H's excuses for not wanting to go to therapy.  He's been a huge help.

Holly, sorry.  I hate packing.  I'm terrible at it too.  I have to pack for going to Rhode Island tomorrow night, and I haven't even started yet.

strlzfan11

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[QUOTE]I wanna go on the Whip again.
Posted by edielaura[/QUOTE]

My best friend & I try to go to Kennywood every summer, but I think we're going to skip this year and go to Cedar Point some weekend in the early fall.

amyb140

I know, right? Like a pia colada sort of. I'm impressed that my phone autocorrected for the cedilla sp?. Remember, KUI. Shiiiit. The mobile site won't show pia. And how come you can say fucking but not shiiiit?

MyUserName1

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Too early for evening thread? I don't care. : I'm hoping so.  BIL is getting his master's in psychology, and he's been pretty good at shooting down all of H's excuses for not wanting to go to therapy.  He's been a huge help. Holly, sorry.  I hate packing.  I'm terrible at it too.  I have to pack for going to Rhode Island tomorrow night, and I haven't even started yet.
Posted by baystateapple[/QUOTE]

<div>good for BIL!</div>

strlzfan11

Is that a boo that we're skipping Kennywood or a boo that we're going to Cedar Point?

baystateapple

I am JUST starting to get into drinking wine.  Sangria, I'm good at.

That's it.  I'll come over and we'll make sangria and pack.  Only I doubt I'd get a lot of packing done once I had a glass or two.

PetalPockets2012

Angel, that is crazy about the ex. I can't comprehend doing something like that to anyone.

MyUserName1

mmmm. Sangria.  Holly, do you have Sangria?  I might go help Bay pack instead...

strlzfan11

Those plans aren't set in stone yet so they may change at some point.

angelstar975

Petal, hopefully it was an unnecessary precaution, but biiitch is insane. I think I'm kicking my sister out of my wedding and if it's relationship ending, good.

ThankfulSnail

Hi, all. I don't want it to seem like I only post in chat threads when I'm having drama, after the cake ridiculousness last week, but I just need to talk...

I left my FI yesterday. He has had problems with money for a while, and already owed me $300 which he had made no attempt to pay back from 6 months ago, when our cable got shut off and I had to write him a check so it could get turned back on. I told him that was the final straw and if it happened again, there wouldn't be a wedding.

On Wednesday, we got notification that our rent was late, which was strange, since FI had given the manager the check, but FI called her and left a voicemail and said he'd take care of it.

Yesterday, he found out that our rent check that he wrote bounced, due to some strange extra charges from the cable company, and he needed to send a money order by today or else... I don't know what would happen, we'd get evicted or something?

He only had $20. He has no savings whatsoever and lives completely paycheck to paycheck, despite the fact that we work the same job and I put $100 per week into my savings for our HM. Since he didn't have the money to cover, I had to take money out of savings and write him a check for 2/3 of our rent.

So I left. I came back to my dad's. We wrote up and signed a contract that I don't come home until 1. he's paid me back for the check I wrote yesterday 2. he shows me the payment plan he has in place to pay me back the remaining $300 he owes me and 3. he shows me his plan to start his own savings. We agreed that if these things aren't done within 30 days, I don't go back to the apartment.

I really feel like taking a break is the right thing to do. I know this is the wake up call he needs. I just didn't expect it to hurt so much.

Any thoughts? I'm about to step outside for a few minutes, but I'd love to hear some advice/thoughts when I come back.

midgetthemighty

Hello again! 

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Muni, I love your wedding.

Random thought: it is SO not ok to post naked baby pictures on facebook. I'm really, really disappointed in someone on my friends list.

MyUserName1

Ohhhhh, Snail.

I wish I could give you hugs and wine in person.  

But good for you!  Look at your spine!

wrigleyville

Oh no, Snail. I'm so sorry. *hugs*

PetalPockets2012

Snail - I'm sorry to hear that. I think that if you have a problem with how things are being handled financially, that you deal with it now before you get married. I can't even imagine how difficult it must be for you though. Hugs.

MyUserName1

Midgie!  You're almost married!

Daff- thank you!  and agreed!

Angel- what did your sister do now?

angelstar975

Snail, I'm so sorry. I think you did the right thing. Hopefully this will make him get his act together, and if he doesn't, you're better off. I know it's sucky and I'm so sorry you're going through this.

MyUserName1

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Too early for evening thread? I don't care. : This.  I'm proud of you.
Posted by edielaura[/QUOTE]

<div>Me. Too.</div>

wrigleyville

Bay #1 - big hugs to you. Even though I'm a shrink, I know how hard it can be to talk people into therapy. I wish the stigmas would go away. There is nothing wrong with admitting you have a chemical imbalance. It's not like it's on purpose.

Holly - I work for wine.

Bay #2 - I work for sangria.

baystateapple

Jeezum, Snail.  I am sorry that he did that.  But I think you're smart to take a stand like this now, before you're married.  I hope that he mans up and does what he needs to do to earn back your trust.  Money is not something to take lightly.  *HUGS* for you.

Daff, I agee.  Naked baby pictures online make me uncomfortable, and you'd think they'd make the parents uncomfortable, too, with all the sketchballs out there.

Midge!  YAY!

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Just saw snail's post. That really sucks, snail. I feel like I was just reading about something he did that was cool. That's gotta be really rough.

midgetthemighty

Oh Snail, I'm sorry you're dealing with this but it sounds like you've given him reasonable terms and time to complete those terms. I hope he'll be able to come up with a plan. *hugs*

EDIE!!!!

heb557

Hi all! I just woke up from a wonderful. wonderful nap! 

Snail- That is horriable, and I'm sorry to hear this.  

PetalPockets2012

I don't really get naked baby pictures in general, let alone on FB for all to see. I have only seen one picture of myself without a shirt on and I think I was maybe 2. I remember being embarrassed of it as a kid when I would see it in the album.

midgetthemighty

I am almost a Mrs y'all! We most a vast majority of my stuff over tonight and I put it all away. It really looks like I live here and I love it. It's even clean minus all the empty boxes we need to take away.

[Deleted User]

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[QUOTE]Naked baby pictures online make me uncomfortable, and you'd think they'd make the parents uncomfortable, too, with all the sketchballs out there.
Posted by baystateapple[/QUOTE]
I just feel like it's a major affront to the privacy of the kid. I've always thought similarly in reference to naked babies in TV commercials, before the advent of the internet. Like, nobody asked the kid if they wanted their private parts splashed all over the place. I'd feel really violated if I grew up and learned that photos like that of me were shared. And I'm especially disappointed in this person, I thought she was better than that.

strlzfan11

Snail- I'm so sorry you're going through this, but am happy that you're not going to let him get away with bringing his irresponsible money management into your marriage.  I've lived paycheck to paycheck before and it sucks big time, but making sure the basics are paid for each month is a necessity. 

What was his reaction when you told him you were leaving?

ArynBaker

Snail, good for you. I know I'm in a similar situation and feel about a bazillion times better now that we've postponed the wedding. Until your FI is in a better place, it's worth thinking about.