is it rude...

c_b_love

is it rude to invite just the flower girls and ring barrier as the only kids allowed at the wedding. many of our cousins are married and started to have kids like ages 3months-4 yrs old. we dont want children at the wedding but the flower girls and ring barrier, and they are cousins so they have some company during the reception. what do you think?

mkrupar

You are perfectly fine to only invite children of the wedding party.

Stackeye210

Perfectly acceptable! 

MissKate2011

Nope!  Go for it!

LDYGTR13

He's a ring barrier? Keeping the perimeter around the ring safe and enclosed at all times?

And I think that just having WP kids at the reception is just fine. There *could* be a bit of backlash, but I think just WP kids is an acceptable cut-off.

AbbeyS2011

Perfectly acceptable.

Ring bearer, not barrier. 

Wrkn925

Please try to invite the infant if he is nursing. 

Carla1019

I have seen several wedding photos / videos online where the couple spent thousands of dollars to have their vows recorded and a baby starts crying.

If you are having a casual wedding than I think children are a great addition but if your wedding is upscale and formal I believe most people understand that children should stay home.

FH and I are only having children in the WP. Our wedding website makes it clear that we can not accommodate children. If someone doesn't respect our wishes and brings a child we will have a seperate room set up with the Wii / toys and a babysitter. They can let the child play or take them home.

mkrupar

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_rude-16?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:34c9f73e-e2e7-45a1-b271-384d532dffe4Post:d04066f2-9c90-44a0-b57e-231f25a5d52f">Re: is it rude...</a>:
[QUOTE]I have seen several wedding photos / videos online where the couple spent thousands of dollars to have their vows recorded and a baby starts crying. If you are having a casual wedding than I think children are a great addition but if your wedding is upscale and formal I believe most people understand that children should stay home. FH and I are only having children in the WP. <strong>Our wedding website makes it clear that we can not accommodate children.</strong> If someone doesn't respect our wishes and brings a child we will have a seperate room set up with the Wii / toys and a babysitter. They can let the child play or take them home.
Posted by Carla1019[/QUOTE]

You also make it clear by how you address the invitation. You write them out to only those that are invited. If someone RSVPs with a child you will have to call them and explain to them you cannot accommodate their child/children. If they say they can't come tell them they'll be missed.

I wouldn't rely soley on the website. Actually I don't know that it's proper etiquette to mention on the website. It isn't appropriate to say no kids on the inviation.

NOLAbridealmost

I don't think it's rude at all.  

Just curious, are you having the kids be FG and RB because you are particularly close to those children?  If not, you could just opt to not have kids in the wedding party. 

nontradduo

Who you invite is entirely up to you and your FI.  If you don't want kids other than the WP ones...you are perfectly within your rights.
Just be advised, there may be some guests who have some choice words for you.  But in those cases, perhaps it's best if they all stay home anyway...

chamblin1

We are doing the exact same thing (although the WP kids are family friends not cousins).