Sending invitations

jeniferata

soooo...as i take a deep breath....

We have a venue cap of 175 guest and not willing to change venues.  Before I attack the guest list again and cut people, I'd really like to consider just sending out my A list invitations super early to get a better idea on head count. Also to consider, most guests are coming in from out of town, therefore need hotel reservations, and we're not planning on sending save-the-dates (as of yet) because of course we can't pin down the guest list.

And the real question is, how early can I start sending invitations and requesting responses?  I don't know the etiquette on that.

JessAndTrav

Posting a single post 3 times must be the new cool thing.

You will not get a good response with A/B invite list, JSYK.

I'd send your invites out 6-8 weeks before the wedding date, and have your RSVP date about a month after you've sent them out.

pumpkinpumpkin

Maybe if you ask a 4th time I'll answer.

Music and Lyrics

first time lucky
third time a charm

ac_in_dc

A/B lists are always a bad idea. In part because it's rude to have your guests commit to attending your wedding more than a month out.

jeniferata

talk to the knot about it...said there was an issue posting first and second...now how about some real responses

beatlesgirl25

kate51485

the only real response you're going to get is that what you're doing is rude.

beatlesgirl25

And ditto jess.

JessAndTrav

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_sending-invitations-1?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:35b2aede-ca23-47e6-a4f5-5aade7f6e804Post:f29716c2-c188-43dc-bdab-3a7bfb9001a8">Re: Sending invitations</a>:
[QUOTE]...now how about some real responses
Posted by jeniferata[/QUOTE]

I gave you a real response.

But FWIW, that statement will probably keep you from getting "real" responses.

AlexiaANDRobert

Don't send Save the Dates - you'll be stuck with that list once you send those out.  And no, you can't send them to some people and not others.  They WILL find out and feelings will be hurt.

Don't do A/B lists.  Same reason as why you shouldn't send Save the Dates to some and not all.

PS - With the multiple posts, the knot has been acting up (as usual) and if you refresh or click post more than once, this is the result.

squirrly

Easy there, jenifer.  I deleted the extras.  Invitations are sent out 6 - 8 weeks in advance of the event.  Maybe a maximum of 10 weeks.  RSVP by dates should be no more than 4 weeks/30 days in advance of the event. 

jeniferata

thank you.