4:30 Friday Ceremony Rude?

brookelynpaisley

My BIL and FSIL are getting married at 4:30 on a Friday. It's difficult just because it requires people to probablky take vacation time they would have rather used for something else. It's particularly difficult for me because they happened to choose the Friday of month-end close. If you're fine with people possibly skipping the ceremony and coming just to the reception, go for it.

Of course, I can't talk, I got married at 11:30am on a Friday. The people for whom it was important were there, and I wouldn't have been upset if people couldn't make it work.

JerseyML

Relax!  Its not rude.  If people can make it to the ceremony they will.  Especially family and your closest friends.  You are giving them so much noticed that they can take the day off if they need.  Those who can't won't show up to the ceremony and will show up to the reception.  Its that simple.  I argue with my FI about this all the time.  When you RSVP to a wedding you are RSVPing to the reception NOT the ceremony.

brookelynpaisley

I wanted to clarify, however, that no one mentioned that this was a hassle for them. If I'd heard of anyone saying that the time we chose was awful, we'd have reconsidered and looked at other options. Having full support changes things a bit.

jenwen32

FI and I went to a Friday evening wedding earlier this year.  We left work early, but had some travel time, so we were late for the ceremony (we weren't the only ones either).  I think it is more inconvenient than rude, but that depends on your situation.

We were dead-set on a Saturday evening wedding, so it irritated me when a woman at one venue we were looking at tried to talk me into a Monday wedding.  I can see Friday, even Sunday....but MONDAY?!?!?

singingjessi14

I don't think it's rude as long as your understanding of people who may not be able to attend, or may be a little late. As long as you give plenty of notice, I don't think it's a problem. You know your guests, so you should know if it's going to be a huge inconvience for anyone.

polichik

I think it comes down to this... Is it more important to you to have the venue/reception length you want, or to have your guests there?

nicole1125

We are having a 4:30 Friday wedding also, at first I thought the same thing but then I realized that who ever wants to be there will and that really as long as my fiance and I are there thats all that really matters.....If someone I knew was getting married on a Friday at that time I would just leave work early that day, it's one day. Do what works for you guys.

RosannFell

I don't think it's rude but just remember that it may be inconvenient for some people, including people who might wish that they could be there....a friend recently had a Friday afternoon wedding and I took the afternoon off from work, but was worried I might not be able to get the time off.   Hope this helps.

lisaandcorey

While I don't think it is rude or inappropriate, you should consider traffic in the area.  And there might be a lot of people who will have to decline - people are usually picking kids up from school at that time and shuttling them to sports, etc.  That time is just really inconvenient.  Do your in-laws have work conflicts?

I went to a 6:30 pm this summer and even that was tight.  My FI was the best man and he didn't get off of work til 5.  He had just started the new job and could not leave early.  The rushing sucked. The waiting for dinner while they took pictures sucked.

It doesn't matter what other people think though - it is up to you and your fiance. 

lisaandcorey

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lisaandcorey

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[QUOTE]I think it comes down to this... Is it more important to you to have the venue/reception length you want, or to have your guests there?
Posted by polichik[/QUOTE]


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singingjessi14

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