When is a tux no longer a tux?

sadie862

Hello ladies - I have a question on men's attire and I'm sure you have the answers!

We are having a noon wedding at the end of June - I don't want the guys to pass out from the heat so I am trying to think of alternatives to suits.

I also want to give them the same freedom I gave the gals in expressing their own personalities in their outfits. Girls are in the same colors but different styles. This has not been an easy task – all guys stuff is pretty much the same.

So I know the old rule of no tuxes before 5pm but what if we lose the jacket? Could a couple of the guys wear the rest of the outfit without looking too overdressed?

Here is my rundown:

Hubby to be – Pants vest and bowtie

Groomsman 1 – Pants and bowtie

Groomsman 2 – Pants, cummerbund and bowtie

Groomsman 3 – Pants – cummerbund, suspenders and bowtie

They would all have matching bowties and perhaps shirts.

 

Thanks!

annakb8

If you are having a formal wedding in the afternoon your FI could wear a morning suit. That's what they guys are wearing at my wedding.

If your wedding is less formal I might just go with nice slacks, shirts, and normal ties. I don't personally like the look of vests or cumberbunds without a jacket and I don't see the point of trying to wear tuxedo parts just because it's a wedding.

bellebride116

I feel like a tux would definitely be overdressing for a noon wedding and if you do the whole tux outfit minus the jacket it may look incomplete. I would just go with a casual suit. 

NOLAbridealmost

I was confused by your post. 

Do you want each GM wearing different accessories?? I am sure it would look fine, but how odd...

Just lose the jackets and don't worry about it.  I am not sure what all the cumberbund/suspender stuff has to do with anything.

tenofcups4me

I agree with Ana, either morning suit (which looks an awful lot like a tux), a suit, or more casual shirts and slacks. I don't think a tux without the jacket really makes any sense.

Moneypenny424

I wouldn't do a tux without a jacket either.  I think casual suits would be better.  Do people wear cumberbunds AND suspenders? 

If you want them to show their personality, perhaps they can choose their own ties in a color scheme, shoes, etc?

TheCranberry

What do you guys mean by a "casual suit"?  Is that just a regular suit?  If so, I say go that way.  I don't like the idea of a tux without a jacket.  As for personality, I agree with MP.

alixzafiris

I vote shirt, vest and skinny tie. But that's just me

ETA: but NOT a tux. Just regular suiting should be fine.

jrkjpf

I must say, i love your idea of different accessories on each of the guys, just saying

StacyJenniges

You could just have them wear their own suits.  The idea of them accessorized different especially since the bridesmaids will be too.

regan117

Our guys are wearing tuxedos and our church ceremony is at 1 p.m. It's up to you what you want them to wear - I think that rule is silly. A formal wedding is formal, no matter what the time of day.

But if you don't want tuxes, I vote a suit. I don't like a tux without the jacket.

b0710

We are doing something  similar (except not trying to do different accessories).  We didn't want our guys to be too hot, or spend the money on a tux.  So...they are all wearing their own pants, and we are buying them matching shirts.  We are also renting them a tie to match my FI tie.  It's pretty casual, so we want them to be comfortable (and not broke).

Have you asked them what they prefer?  Personal, I think a tuxedo vest by itself looks a little strange, especially in the back, but if that's what they want to wear, go for it.

Habs2Hart

I think you should have them wear dress pants, a nice shirt and whatever tie (in the same colour, maybe different patterns?) they want.  If you want suspenders, they can be fun too.  But no bow tie and no cummberbund. 

LuluP82

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_tux-longer-tux?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:3ab4d06b-65bb-46aa-964a-6011921c2883Post:d469718a-cabb-4d7c-b561-b9b3a8d30dec">Re: When is a tux no longer a tux?</a>:
[QUOTE]Our guys are wearing tuxedos and our church ceremony is at 1 p.m. It's up to you what you want them to wear - I think that rule is silly. A formal wedding is formal, no matter what the time of day. But if you don't want tuxes, I vote a suit. I don't like a tux without the jacket.
Posted by regan117[/QUOTE]

Formalwear for daytime for men = morning suit, as has been mentioned previously. A tuxedo = dinner jacket, evening wear. It's not that you can't have a formal wedding during the day. You can, but tuxedoes = formal; tuxedo = formal <strong>evening wear. </strong>The tux shop should have options for morning suits and other formal options that aren't tuxedoes.

redheadfsu

No tuxedo (or tuxedo without jacket, that is just odd.)

Do morning suit or a causal linen suit (depending on the formality)

Wiscisbliss

What does your FI want to wear? 

regan117

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_tux-longer-tux?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:3ab4d06b-65bb-46aa-964a-6011921c2883Post:48258879-0ad7-4219-8a29-558dcb1dfdda">Re: When is a tux no longer a tux?</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: When is a tux no longer a tux? : Formalwear for daytime for men = morning suit, as has been mentioned previously. A tuxedo = dinner jacket, evening wear. It's not that you can't have a formal wedding during the day. You can, but tuxedoes = formal; tuxedo = formal evening wear. The tux shop should have options for morning suits and other formal options that aren't tuxedoes.
Posted by LuluP82[/QUOTE]

Sure, except our reception is in the <strong>evening</strong>...and where I live, tuxedos are the norm, no matter what time of day. No one was gonna tell my FI he wasn't "allowed" to wear a tuxedo to his one and only wedding. So even if I thought it was too formal, it's his choice.