sibling wedding date rivals

Nebb

:P J&K I get Christmas and REAL birthday presents tomorrow!!

JK10910

Can it Nebb.  Big ol' thunder stealer.

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he he. 36 and 1/2. That's sweet. I hope you get that pony you asked Santa for.

But seriously, if your parents are paying for the wedding, then they have every right to have a seat at the table with regard to the timing.

lyndausvi

When my brother got engaged  in Nov 95  my parents told him if they wanted financial help they had to wait until at least Jan 97.  My SIL was pissed and thought it was unfair thing to ask.

The fact was my parents were tapped out.   In the 15 months BEFORE their engagement, I had a niece born in AZ, my other brother got engaged and married in AZ, my sister got engaged and married in DE.    My parent were living in England and then moved to Norway.   Because of births, christenings, showers, weddings, holidays, house hunting trips, moving, etc.  They were just tired and tapped out to commit to another wedding so close.

I guess my SIL wanted their money more than a closer wedding date, so they picked Apr 97, which ended up a 18 month engagement

My point is, if they are paying then yes they do have the right to say request a timeframe that works for them.  If getting married in the summer is more important to you then just pay for it yourself.

thesuninherhead

It's no fun when they don't come back to play.

banana468

If you need the financial assistance of others then you do need to go by what the others say.

Beyond that, if you're OK to pay for your own wedding then set the date so that there's a month or so gap between them.

Why can't you get married on a random weekend though?  Just because you're a teacher does not mean that you need a summer wedding.  Have the honeymoon later.