Photos on social networks.

Soon2BeMrsTing

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laurenclaire1386

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Photos on social networks. : 1 - I<strong> know a lot of employers watch their employee's FB accounts,</strong> so I don't think it's all that bizarre. 2 - It wasn't my wedding day.  And I should have clarified that it wasn't my current employer but a former employer at a university where drinking rules are fairly strict, so people in management positions could have sanctions depending on the circumstances.  I took all photos of me imbibing off of FB and asked my friends to do the same just to be on the safe side. While social networking etiquette doesn't appear to exist yet, fact of the matter is there are a lot of people who are very uncomfortable with having photos out there that they didn't take and they didn't choose to share with people.  I think others should be sensitive to the fact that there's a lot of circumstances where you might not want your photos all over the Internet.  If she wants her wedding to be shared with guests only, then I think it's rude for guests to go out and share her occasion with everyone else.  
Posted by marissa_claire[/QUOTE]
Employers can only watch FB accounts if their employees let them. Why on Earth do you let your employers be privy to your facebook page?

Calypso1977

i agree that its annoying for people to post stuff without your permission.  i believe legally you can request action that pics of you (at least on FB) be taken down if they were nto posted with your permission.  but who woudl do taht?

i think the church question was meant to say that even a total stranger could come to your wedding, post pics of it on their FB, and youd never even know.

just like people could take pics of you without your knowledge at the beach or anywhere else.

i have FB and the internet.  i love it and hate it at the same time for tehse very reasons.

TheCranberry

A friend of mine asked me take down pictures that I'd posted of her wedding.  I think she said something about not wanting certain mutual friends seeing them, but she didn't specify.  I was a little annoyed, but I took down all of the "wedding like" pics right away and removed any references to wedding.  It was a destination wedding so she was fine with my leaving up pictures that just looked like friends hanging out.  I later saw that another friend had tagged her in a wedding pic so I figured she either changed her mind or maybe didn't have those same mutual friends with that person.

If you ask nicely, people will probably take them down.  They may be annoyed, but if they're your friends they should understand.  I've asked people to take down horrible pics of me before and they did. 

I don't know that you can preemptively ask people not to put pictures up in the first place.  I think it may cause unnecessary attention and people giving their opinions.  Make sure you set your privacy settings so that only your true friends can see your tagged pics.  I have different levels of facebook privacy to handle the fact that you can't always control what people will post on your wall or what pics they'll tag you in.

marissa_claire

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Photos on social networks. : Employers can only watch FB accounts if their employees let them. Why on Earth do you let your employers be privy to your facebook page?
Posted by laurenclaire1386[/QUOTE]

Read through the rest of the posts.... I was in ResLife as a hall director.  That meant I couldn't drink with residents and I couldn't drink with anyone I managed.  On that same note, a lot of students, friends and people I worked with were FB friends (and real friends - there were plenty of people I had been friends with for a while before ResLife.)  There's a lot I couldn't put on there that could have gotten me in trouble just by having friends at college, not necessarily being friends with my boss. 

And don't use the phrase "privy" and FB in the same sentence.  People don't seem to understand that when you put it out there, even if you have your settings so that only friends can see, who's to say those friends aren't showing their friends?  Haven't you seen STFU parents or couples?  Those are prime examples of how something "private" that you shared with your friends could end up anywhere on the Internet.

golden1215

marissa_claire- would your university care if you had photos of you drinking at your wedding?  a college kegger is one thing, a wedding is totally different IMO.

marissa_claire

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[QUOTE]marissa_claire- would your university care if you had photos of you drinking at your wedding?  a college kegger is one thing, a wedding is totally different IMO.
Posted by golden1215[/QUOTE]

<div>If it were photos of me drinking with any residents or anyone I managed, then yes.  I'm not comparing my past job at all to weddings, so not sure why you're still on that kick.   They never said I couldn't drink at all, but if I had a photo of me with a beer in hand and a resident or someone I managed next to me with a beer in hand, no matter the occasion or circumstance, it would have been a violation of my job.  They never said I couldn't drink - they said who I couldn't drink with, for good reason.</div>

vlizz

I voted yes.. I'm not a big fan of people showing my life off to the rest of the world.. but i've always been more of a shy person.. I guess it would just depend on your personality. and if your friends care about what you want, they shouldn't have a problem with your request.

CaseyandSalley

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[QUOTE]Are you in the witness protection program?  Because that would be a valid reason to ask people not to post them.  Of course, if you tell them you're in the program that's a problem.  Hmmm...
Posted by FutureMrsTR[/QUOTE]

ditto this
You will not have the control to tell people to not post pics, no one has a photo album or even prints out pics anymore they go on a social network, everything is electronic these days.

mazinggrace

Seriously this is what things have come down to? I mean I love my privacy but wow! People are going to take pictures and post them, employers are going to watch peoples facebook accounts. You can tell people not to take pictures but how rude is that. You have to remember that a wedding is about you and your SO but it is also about families joining together to celebrate your day. 

You can set your facebook to private and you can untag yourself from photos. I really think those are your options. Like another person said once they snap the photos then they own them so you will have to not allow photos in general if you want to avoid the posting. But then would you post any pictures of your wedding online, would that not be hypocritical of you to put any wedding pictures online and then not allow others to post too. 

I just say get over it, have fun and just untag yourself and make your profile ultra private to avoid people who are not friends from seeing your pictures. You can even set options that certain people cannot see certain things like post or pictures so that is an option. A headache but another option.