How to ask for monetary gifts

J&K10910

Ok, well you won't convince me that I should keep my extraneous comments to myself, and I wont' convince you that anything you put on the internet is fair game, so I hope you have a wonderful night and a wonderful wedding.  Good night.

shabuka1

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_how-to-ask-for-monetary-gifts?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:40b5afbd-a47d-4510-8d70-3aae4bb37495Post:ba2b6626-3ff3-46ac-ab0f-d38acc728ae4">Re: How to ask for monetary gifts</a>:
[QUOTE]Ok, well you won't convince me that I should keep my extraneous comments to myself, and I wont' convince you that anything you put on the internet is fair game, so I hope you have a wonderful night and a wonderful wedding.  Good night.
Posted by J&K10910[/QUOTE]


You as well.

Anysunrise

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_how-to-ask-for-monetary-gifts?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:40b5afbd-a47d-4510-8d70-3aae4bb37495Post:faabdab2-b59f-4421-ae3e-f8adae6fbffe">Re: How to ask for monetary gifts</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: How to ask for monetary gifts : What I am saying is that there was no need for you to comment about it. All you had to do is give advice on how to or not to  go about getting monetary gifts. Was it necessary for you to comment on that I should't have had a wedding that put a strain on me. That is the point I am making. No one never just addresses the question. Regardless of the fact that is the internet doesn't give you a free pass to be nasty to people. That only happens on this board. But its cool. I'm sure there will be sound advice for other indivduals, comments and all.
Posted by shabuka1[/QUOTE]

<div>You could've just posted "Hey, how do I ask for money instead of gifts?" in that case. Hard stuff, I know.</div>

furturekingsbury

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_how-to-ask-for-monetary-gifts?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:40b5afbd-a47d-4510-8d70-3aae4bb37495Post:7f93e00f-4c1f-472f-83fb-5bf7e4f42df4">Re: How to ask for monetary gifts</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: How to ask for monetary gifts : You could've just posted "Hey, how do I ask for money instead of gifts?" in that case. Hard stuff, I know.
Posted by Anysunrise[/QUOTE]
Well its over, everything is said and done. So, let's leave it alone and not put fuel on the fire. :)

tirathemrs

Im sorry but all of you women generally in this group are rude, disrespectful and quite ignorant to want to argue with someone just simply asking for advice...who in the hell died and made you ladies Queens especially that jk10910 bish (you need to grow the hell up), smh i feel super sorry for any of you ladies that think that you crap dont stink because guess what it does, but of course you already knw that im sure.....and the next time you refer to anyone as a damn troll look in the effin mirror heffa...
thanks and good damn night

Girlie1030

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_how-to-ask-for-monetary-gifts?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:40b5afbd-a47d-4510-8d70-3aae4bb37495Post:cf5bd86b-0123-4fda-8286-d6cd0b37bded">Re: How to ask for monetary gifts</a>:
[QUOTE]Why is race being brought up? She made that post AFTER some ladies (loosely used) became rude and mean after someone asked a honest question. There are rude people in general not just one particular race. So, underline remarks are a low blow, childish IMO
Posted by furturekingsbury[/QUOTE]

Both this OP and the OP from the cousin thread planned their posts in advance with the sole purpose of stirring shlt up here.  Race was only brought up back on the AWW board (which everyone can read).  Pretty sure the OPs were the childish ones here. 

bonge

I never get this one. We got some gifts that were waiting for us at home (we did not know they were there, weren't expecting them) but we got tons of money & we never asked for anything. We did not put registry info out for all or our preferences. People will give what they want to give. 

Snippylynn

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_how-to-ask-for-monetary-gifts?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:40b5afbd-a47d-4510-8d70-3aae4bb37495Post:f1bd7a1b-d071-455b-ac72-dec1db2f95c2">Re:How to ask for monetary gifts</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re:How to ask for monetary gifts: That thread is a whole lotta perpetuating a stereotype. I could barely read it.
Posted by StageManager14[/QUOTE]
Yessssssssssssssssssssssss.

Legu

So, I just painstakingly read through the other thread... Wat up wit dey english yo? Da fuk dey rite lyk dat 4? Urgh, I think I just gave autocorrect a coronary...

kthowell

Legu ...,., btch what do you mean "why they write like that" who is they? And it's called shortening up the words. Well all I will say is these e post is just a hot mess. You women cant even answer a simple fcking question. No one ask what do we think you think we should answer the fcking question and shut the fck up! You btches need a dmn life since you think it's our culture here goes me acting like " they"

mizutamababy

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_how-to-ask-for-monetary-gifts?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:40b5afbd-a47d-4510-8d70-3aae4bb37495Post:045066c0-392d-42c8-bc99-d9b0077f21d6">Re: How to ask for monetary gifts</a>:
[QUOTE]This is kind of funny, but kind of sad that people think that the etiquette advice given on this board has anything to do with race.  Some etiquette rules vary by culture, but I don't think asking for money is one of those....pretty sure that is tacky in any culture, but perhaps I'm wrong.  I would also think having a B-list would be offensive to any one, not just white people because white people need to know they are first.  WTF? 
Posted by nextrightthing[/QUOTE]

Tiered receptions aren't rude in some other cultures, which is somewhat similar to b-listing.  No idea on b-listing for the whole shebang, though.

runpipparun

Many of my black girl friends from my high school basketball team are married now, and I can only remember one of them behaving so ridiculously. I cannot agree with the ladies on the other board that it's a cultural thing. But my one friend's behavior was like nothing I have ever seen. She was such a laid-back woman before this that I can only assume it was temporary insanity, not a "cultural" difference. I think we've all seen crazy white women do stuff like this.

She posted many of the details of her wedding on on FB, solicited the services of her friends to make her centerpieces, choose her tiara, sew a pillow for the rings, and help with sundy other trinkets. She complained about her vendors openly. She posted the entire text of her formal complaint against Alfred Angelo when one of her BM dresses wasn't in on time. She posted her hotel block information. She badgered guests into making reservations. Repeatedly. (Way to drive home the point that the rest of us were NOT invited.) She complained about how much everything was costing her. She threatened people NOT to be late due to traffic getting from the hotel to the venue, because it would ruin her day.

Then she posted her registries only several times, including her honeymoon registry, which she posted before AND after the wedding, with a note specifically for "Those who were unable to come and those who hadn't yet gotten us a gift, as we are saving to travel after this expensive wedding." Yikes.

MyUserName1

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_how-to-ask-for-monetary-gifts?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:40b5afbd-a47d-4510-8d70-3aae4bb37495Post:76d44a2f-813a-49ca-9bbf-f5175b12e70f">Re: How to ask for monetary gifts</a>:
[QUOTE]Ugh.  Why does the trainwreck have to be from my city?
Posted by EaglesBride2012[/QUOTE]

Because North Carolina voted and we needed a break. 

MyUserName1

shhhh, Beanie, she might HEAR you. I think she's the new beetlejuice.

Simply Fated

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_how-to-ask-for-monetary-gifts?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:40b5afbd-a47d-4510-8d70-3aae4bb37495Post:bfee9602-1398-4183-b1a8-34e8c8901b3d">Re:How to ask for monetary gifts</a>:
[QUOTE]Why do people always start these posts by telling us they paid for their own wedding? Does that somehow make basic common sense etiquette null in void? Because if so, I got screwed.
Posted by StageManager14[/QUOTE]
I guess they think our parents are paying for our weddings, so we're supposed to feel bad for them? I never do, though, because even if their parents were paying, I would never encourage parents to pay for more than they could afford, either.

NuggetBrain

Listen you stupid heifer, don't roll up on this damn board throwing the race card around like you're Al fucking Sharpton. Take your crazy, money grubbing self right on back to AAW. There is room enough for one token black btch on this board that's me. Get your broke ass to steppin'.