Please be gentle.

GoofyAssChick

We live in southwestern Ohio.  Unfortunately companies around here haven't gotten as progressive about domestic partnership as the New England states.  That would give rights to gay couples and God forbid our state support gay rights like they should. Sorry to get all political but it infuritates me. 

itschelsea

Oh I'm so sorry to hear this! I, too, am getting married September 2013 and have seen you on the month board. I didn't read all the replies, so maybe someone mentioned this...

In some states, you do not need to be married to be included on each other's insurance. I can't remember what it is called, but in Washington state, if you are living with someone in a domestic partnership, you can add them to your insurance. It has some really weird acronym, but I believe it was formed for same-sex couples (although it doesn't exclude heterosexual couples). I have no idea if this is something available nation-wide, but it would be good to look into! 

itschelsea

crap, I was late to that party, but on another note, WEAR YOUR DRESS! The people that will at your vow renewel are your nearest and dearest! If I had a friend going through what you are and she DIDN'T wear her wedding dress, I'd smack her! 

bunni727

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_please-be-gentle?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:40d3315b-76e6-4d4a-8c7b-98bfca0f282dPost:77616590-45b4-4bea-881b-7350bcc289ca">Re: Please be gentle.</a>:
[QUOTE]crap, I was late to that party, but on another note, WEAR YOUR DRESS! The people that will at your vow renewel are your nearest and dearest! If I had a friend going through what you are and she DIDN'T wear her wedding dress, I'd smack her! 
Posted by itschelsea[/QUOTE]

Completely unrelated, but I love your dress! I have a serious problem for floofy dresses :)

jemmini6

First off, I'm sorry your FI is going through this, I can imagine how scary that would be, and of course, I wish him a full and speedy recovery.

As others have discussed the logistics of actually getting him on your insurance and the health condition itself, I'll address your wedding plans only.  Normally, I'm not a big fan of 'legal' marriages then PPD later, but that's only when they are planned that way.  Seeing as how this was definitely an unplanned situation, and your FI's health takes priority over anything else, I would be very understanding if you went ahead and got married, but still went ahead with your party as originally planned.  As long as you are honest with all your guests that you are already married, but just want to have the party you were already planning, then go for it!

Best wishes!

attymeg

I 've had clients who have had Bells Palsy. It could go away tomorrow, and there is not much medically that can be done, correct? I think it might be ok to take a deep breath and not panic. You could still have the wedding you want.

Dreamergirl8812

Under Obamacare your insurance company will not legally be able to deny your husband for a pre-existing condition.

If I were you I would elope and then have the ceremony on the original date. Who cares if "etiquette" prohibits you from wearing your wedding dress. Plenty of people elope and then have a formal ceremony afterward. If your's happens to be months and months later, then so be it. A wedding isn't just about customs and traditions, it's about commiting yourself to someone, in sickness and in health, in front of your friends and family.