Hi ladies, I need some advice. Apologize in advance for the length.
My roommate from college is getting married in November (3 weeks after my wedding date). We are extremely close and now that we're both planning, we talk a few times a week and it's all very fun.
She sent out an email to everyone in the BP with introductions, and her MOH immediately began planning her shower. I replied to all (but the bride) and said how excited I was to be a part of her wedding day, but because of the timing, my current budget and that her wedding will my third out of state wedding this year, I will not be able to attend the pre-wedding parties.
They've continued to copy me on all the emails, and I have stayed out of it, but did send one response about the guest list because the bride and I had discussed it and they were talking about doing something I knew she would not be comfortable with (inviting guests to the shower not invited to the wedding - EEK!), and this morning I woke up to this gem in my inbox:
"ok so here is the deal
shower;
july 30th 11 to 2 at the XXX in XXX
it is being catered, hope everyone is ok with spliting the cost 8 ways"
Yes, that 8 ways includes me. No, I'm not comfortable hosting a shower I can't attend, and really can't afford right now. Please help me respond gracefully!