Night Thread-Talk to me

heb557

Why would you not stay for dinner? That's different. 

aleighk1

It was my uncle and his new girlfriend who is not his girlfriend anymore. I'm pretty sure he hasn't eaten since his divorce 2 years ago. I let him now how pissed I was though. 

texasgurly13

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Night Thread-Talk to me : Not staying for dinner is weird. I've never heard of someone not staying at least for the free food at weddings, haha.
Posted by LeiselEB[/QUOTE]

<div>My mom went to a wedding in Michigan (flew in from Texas) and just went to the ceremony.  She didn't know that she was going until the last minute, and the bride and groom had already turned in the numbers for the food.  </div><div>
</div><div>Some other people from my hometown church surprised the B&G (didn't RSVP or anything) the day of the wedding.  They were grateful, but pissed at the same time.  I'm thinking that they were able to accomadate them foodwise because they had extra, but a heads up (or an RSVP) would have been nice.  </div>

[Deleted User]

We had people come to the ceremony and then leave right after the food. They must have scarfed it down because we were still eating when they left. One had to work, the others I'm not sure.

The weirest thing we had happen was a guest called as I was getting ready saying she would be late. OK, no problem. She showed up mid-ceremony and sat in the back. I saw her once when we were coming back from pictures, walking around the property with her kid, and I went to find her after we ate and she had already left. Never said one word to me or anyone else.

heb557

I don't remember anyone leaving at weird times. But then again they could of and I would have no idea. Holy crap wedding days are whirlwinds.

texasgurly13

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[QUOTE]We had people come to the ceremony and then leave right after the food. They must have scarfed it down because we were still eating when they left. One had to work, the others I'm not sure. The weirest thing we had happen was a guest called as I was getting ready saying she would be late. OK, no problem. She showed up mid-ceremony and sat in the back. I saw her once when we were coming back from pictures, walking around the property with her kid, and I went to find her after we ate and she had already left. Never said one word to me or anyone else.
Posted by Seshat411[/QUOTE]

<div>That is weird.</div>

texasgurly13

I just want to skip to two weeks from today and have all this be done lol.  

LeiselEB

Tex, thats how I felt but now I just want to go back and do it all again. I miss wedding stuff.

lyndausvi

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[QUOTE]What pissed me off the most was the 10 people who rsvp'd yes and didn't show up or didn't stay for dinner. Assholes.
Posted by aleighk1[/QUOTE]

<div>Hi ladies.</div><div>
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</div><div>We had 4 flat out no-shows and another 4-6 cancel a few days before.  My MIL was PISSED.  I mean, PISSED to the point she chewed them out (the 4 no-shows were from her family).   </div><div>
</div><div>Mind you, that my parent paid for most of the wedding with DH and I paying the rest.  She contributed NOTHING to the wedding.  Which was 100% okay, she doesn't have to.  </div><div>
</div><div>My parents didn't care one bit about the no-shows.  They throw parties before, they know it comes with the territory.   DH and I being in the business knows there are more often than not a few no-shows.  No big deal to us.</div><div>
</div><div>4 years later MIL still is annoyed.  Can't figure out why she cares so much, it wasn't her money  'wasted'?</div>

heb557

I'm sooooooo glad wedding stuff is over. I couldn't wait to get engaged and plan everything, everything was perfect, now I'm happy I'm married and it's over. It's a huge relief.

texasgurly13

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[QUOTE]I think we had 4 people RSVP yes and then not show up.  Another guy (the guy we got our wedding bands from actually), couldn't give us an answer because he hosts a show every 4th of July weekend.  We just marked him down as a no.  <strong>I think some people feel bad saying no so they don't give an answer maybe?</strong>
Posted by edielaura[/QUOTE]
 <div>Maybe.  It wouldn't be so annoying if it wasn't as many people as it is.  </div>

heb557

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Night Thread-Talk to me : Hi ladies. We had 4 flat out no-shows and another 4-6 cancel a few days before.  My MIL was PISSED.  I mean, PISSED to the point she chewed them out (the 4 no-shows were from her family).    Mind you, that my parent paid for most of the wedding with DH and I paying the rest.  She contributed NOTHING to the wedding.  Which was 100% okay, she doesn't have to.   My parents didn't care one bit about the no-shows.  They throw parties before, they know it comes with the territory.   DH and I being in the business knows there are more often than not a few no-shows.  No big deal to us. 4 years later MIL still is annoyed.  Can't figure out why she cares so much, it wasn't her money  'wasted'?
Posted by lyndausvi[/QUOTE]
I don't think i'll hold my grudge for 4 years. 

aleighk1

H and I talk about how glad we are that the wedding is over all the time haha It was nice but I'm glad it's over. I just wish I could see all my pictures, damnit.

lyndausvi

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Night Thread-Talk to me : I don't think i'll hold my grudge for 4 years. 
Posted by heb557[/QUOTE]

<div>Let's hope not.</div><div>
</div><div>MIL is generally a level headed woman.  This somehow really sets her off.</div>

texasgurly13

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Night Thread-Talk to me : Hi ladies. We had 4 flat out no-shows and another 4-6 cancel a few days before.  My MIL was PISSED.  I mean, PISSED to the point she chewed them out (the 4 no-shows were from her family).    Mind you, that my parent paid for most of the wedding with DH and I paying the rest.  She contributed NOTHING to the wedding.  Which was 100% okay, she doesn't have to.   My parents didn't care one bit about the no-shows.  They throw parties before, they know it comes with the territory.   DH and I being in the business knows there are more often than not a few no-shows.  No big deal to us. 4 years later MIL still is annoyed.  Can't figure out why she cares so much, it wasn't her money  'wasted'?
Posted by lyndausvi[/QUOTE]<div>
</div><div>My mom would be the one to throw a hissy fit about something like that.  My parents are paying for 90% of the wedding, and FMIL helped with some miscellaneous expenses.</div><div>
</div><div>My parents are looking at it in the sense that the less people that are coming, the less they have to pay.  They paid a 50% payment based on 150 people coming and the venue said that if it was less than that they could just pay the remaining balance.  We just need a 100 person minimum,</div><div>
</div><div>ETA:  One of FI's family friends just told me he sent his yesterday, so hopefully we'll get a stack in the mail Monday and Tuesday from the "stragglers."

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heb557

We had a lot of drama after our wedding with H's side of the family. I was actually confronted about OUR seating arrangements at OUR wedding. It was rather interesting and has now left H, myself, SIL, BIL, MIL, and FIL not speaking with certain relatives. I will hold that grudge for the rest of my life. 

texasgurly13

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Night Thread-Talk to me : That, and now that I've planned a wedding, I know what a pain in the butt the RSVP process is so if I can't go, I let them know pronto.  But I've only been to about 5-6 weddings in the last eight years.  Mostly family.  A lot of my friends are in serious relationships but aren't engaged yet.  It'll happen eventually though.
Posted by edielaura[/QUOTE]

<div>The last two weddings we've been invited to as a couple, we never got the invitation.  The first one, we were in the WP.  This past one, we had to get the information from the groom via FB and text message so we would know where we were going.</div>

texasgurly13

Edie--I understood it.  

I'm hoping that FI's family can keep the family drama at home at least until after the reception.  

FMIL and FFIL are separated, but they are putting up a united front at the wedding for me and FI.  According to FMIL, they are planning on getting back together, and that FFIL has changed, but I'll believe it when I see it.  

heb557

People are crazy. I think some people just like drama. 

The drama starter at our wedding was telling our other guests she was in "the cheap seats" hahaha ok, princess. She's lucky I didn't hear her. I found out about it after.

LeiselEB

I'm really happy that no drama occurred at our wedding. At least nothing I've noticed. 

The only thing I rolled my eyes at was H's uncle. The uncle is dating a girl that the rest of H's family really does not like. She's just kind of dumb and rude and weird. 

She and H's uncle showed up late to ceremony even though he's H's godfather. I think I was down the aisle by the time they arrived. The girlfriend wore a white dress, which I didn't mind all that much but MIL hated. It just annoyed me a little because it was straight up white - no pattern, just white. The uncle skipped family pictures, and then we found out that the reason they were late to the ceremony was because they hired a photographer to take pictures of just the two of them right before the ceremony since the girlfriend wouldn't have been in the family pictures. It's just weird. 

heb557

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[QUOTE]I'm really happy that no drama occurred at our wedding. At least nothing I've noticed.  The only thing I rolled my eyes at was H's uncle. The uncle is dating a girl that the rest of H's family really does not like. She's just kind of dumb and rude and weird.  She and H's uncle showed up late to ceremony even though he's H's godfather. I think I was down the aisle by the time they arrived. The girlfriend wore a white dress, which I didn't mind all that much but MIL hated. It just annoyed me a little because it was straight up white - no pattern, just white. <strong>The uncle skipped family pictures, and then we found out that the reason they were late to the ceremony was because they hired a photographer to take pictures of just the two of them right before the ceremony since the girlfriend wouldn't have been in the family pictures. It's just weird. </strong>
Posted by LeiselEB[/QUOTE]<div>
</div><div>Whaaa?!!?! Why the heck do they need professional pictures the day of your wedding? That is weird. 

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texasgurly13

I'm sure I'll have some stories when it's all said and done.  FI's family is interesting.  

LeiselEB

Heb! That reminds me. Hooters bride is dating H's cousin so they were invited to the wedding. We sat them at one of the furthest tables from the dance floor/head table, but it was right next to the bar and one of HB's best friends and a couple of her other friends were at that table as well. So I assumed they'd rather have sat there than with older relatives. 

She makes little comments whenever I see her about how she couldn't see the cake because it was so far away, or "I didn't even notice the head table's flowers....I was seated pretty far away", or "your first dance was probably really cute, I couldn't see it though." 

Our venue was not that big - she could see everything perfectly well. I was annoyed. 

texasgurly13

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[QUOTE]Heb! That reminds me. Hooters bride is dating H's cousin so they were invited to the wedding. We sat them at one of the furthest tables from the dance floor/head table, but it was right next to the bar and one of HB's best friends and a couple of her other friends were at that table as well. So I assumed they'd rather have sat there than with older relatives.  She makes little comments whenever I see her about how she couldn't see the cake because it was so far away, or "I didn't even notice the head table's flowers....I was seated pretty far away", or "your first dance was probably really cute, I couldn't see it though."  Our venue was not that big - she could see everything perfectly well. I was annoyed. 
Posted by LeiselEB[/QUOTE]

<div>What was stopping her from getting up and going to see everything if she really couldn't see?  That would annoy me too.  </div>

LeiselEB

Yeah, it was weird. And it's even more annoying to me that she says that, because peopl sitting at her table took some awesome pictures of our first dance. So obviously we were visible, haha. 

heb557

Leisel- I honestly think it's incredibly rude how some people act like were shafted with wedding seating. That's the exact way our seating was, not a bad seat in the house.

texasgurly13

At FI's friend's wedding, we were seated at the back, and still had a good view of the head table.  The first dance and everything was in a separate room.  

LeiselEB

I know what you mean, people get weird about it. We sat our parents close to us, but the rest was just kind of random. I think people assume we ranked them and sat them at tables based on that? Or something. Haha

angelstar975

Evening, ladies. I just got home from work and returning jeans. I'm kind of antsy to see FI for some reason, but of coure he's not answering his phone. I swear the pope is easier to get ahold of than FI. My STDs came today... I like them enough, but they aren't glossy. I thought they would be glossy.

texasgurly13

UO, but I'm having open seating, except for the immediate family members.

ETA: and WP