WTF=Guests wanting to bring friends we don't know!

ambermorley

Although it was worded snidely, I do value all the advice here. I did not expect such a strong reaction about a calm conversation I'd had with my MOH about plus-ones. However, it did give me pause and I went back and had the discussion again with her today. There were no hard feelings, and I did tell her that she was welcome to bring a guest and apologized for not offering it sooner. She said she wouldn't bring a guest anyway, but the offer is there. The ringbearer's mom will be bringing her brother if her husband can't come - he's a family friend, too. So, hopefully that all works out. Thank you for your input.

And let me just take a stab one more time at explaining the "criteria." It was not strict criteria. When we were making the guest list we just added a significant other if we knew about them. Most of the time (especially with old friends you only see at Christmas or cousins you don't talk to regularly), you learn about a relationship because of facebook status changes or learning that they moved in with someone. That is how we clarified if there was a relationship. We couldn't invite significant others we didn't know about. In some cases, they told us they were dating someone after they got the invite, and we happily told them to RSVP for them, too. So there is the long version. I just figured a single sentence was sufficient for my OP.

Allison26

My wedding party was allowed a plus one (two of the people were singles but amazingly, didn't bring someone with them!) I had no less than 6 people (including family members) ask if they could bring a guest and I met their question with this answer, "Are you engaged to them? If not, nope." Harsh but seriously, I didn't want a bunch of random, flavor of the minute people in my wedding pictures!!! Guests just don't understand how much money per person it costs to have their buddy attend. 

melissa3026

Mel from South Jersey -- My post never said I disagreed with been a gracious host. I was just stating the ettiquete established for these types of special events. Obviously, she will need to deal with these on a case by case basis since the importance of the individual plays a huge part. But, as a guest, I should also  respect the original invitation and proper ettiquete as to who was invited.