Addressing invitation to lesbian couple

AllisonW423

My FI has family friends who are a lesbian couple. We are inviting them to our wedding. They are unmarried and have not had an official commitment ceremony, and I'm not sure whether it is a personal reason that they remain unmarried or just because it is not legal in their state. However, they have been together for 20+ years. I'm debating how to address their invitation.

Putting their names on one line with "and" between them seems presumptuous if they are simply choosing to remain unmarried/not make a formal commitment.

I don't want to discount or belittle their long relationship by putting them on separate lines in the case that they are unmarried only because they cannot marry.

I feel like either way I go I have the possibility of offending them. Any advice?

mica178

Ask your FMIL how they prefer to be addressed.

AllisonW423

FMIL said on the same line. Thank you!

jessicabessica

Also, I would use "Ms." not "Miss."  So if you're going with on the same line:

Ms. Jane Smith and Ms. Ann Doe.

Mrs.B6302007

I'm late but we asked our friends how they wanted their invitaion addressed and they were fine with same line joined with and.  We listed them alphabetically.

TurtlesAllTheWayDown

I meant to use the "and" on my invitations in this case, but my calligrapher did separate lines I think. For the most part, you will be scrutinizing the invitations more than your guests, though!