I sent an email to a good friend from college and her husband, to give them a heads up regarding my wedding date --- they live abroad, so I wanted to give them as much notice as possible. (our save the dates don't go out for a little while). Based on earlier conversations, I was under the impression that this friend would either attend the wedding with her husband, or on her own. However, she replied saying that she would like to bring her sister as her date.
Since I haven't sent the official invite yet, I can't claim that her sister is not on the invitation. However, our reception venue is extremely expensive and I've had to work hard to cut down the list to include close friends and their spouses. No one else is bringing a family member/friend, if they are bringing dates it's a spouse or a long-term boyfriend.
I'm afraid that this friend won't come at all if she can't bring her sister. Help, please!
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Because they live abroad, I would let her bring a companion if her husband can't make it.
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My FI's aunt is coming without her husband, she's bringing her daughter instead. It didn't change our count, so it's not a problem.
Thanks for your examples of how you've handled similar situations, it's very helpful.
[QUOTE]If she was coming from abroad just to attend my wedding, I'd definitely be more accommodating right off the bat, but this is a stopover on her trip. New to this and want to anticipate questions my parents will have (as they are limited in the number they can accommodate, and we need the headcount to come down even farther). Thanks for your examples of how you've handled similar situations, it's very helpful.
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I see what you're saying with the first part, but consider that if her sister lives here, she probably doesn't see her very often. She's not going to be spending your entire wedding hanging out with you, so it would be nice for her to get to see someone else that she doesn't get to spend too much time with. If the sister lives near her, disregard.
I agree with PP's. Give her the plus one. I've lived overseas before and it's no fun traveling that far by yourself. If you were already budgeting for her husband to come, then money isn't an issue.
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