I don't anticipate my parents and my fiance's parents ever spending much time together after the wedding. We all live in different states. Is it really necessary for all the parents to meet during the engagement, or can this meeting take place right before the wedding when everyone is already in the same place?
Re: Meeting of the Parents
I don't think it matters either way. My mom really wanted to me H's mom after we got engaged, but H was very afraid because our parents are both very different, so he made his Grandma come too. We went to lunch one day with me, H, my mom, MIL, and H's Grandma. They diidn't meet again until my shower, and then the RD and wedding. They will never be close, and theres a good chance wthey will never be at family functions together. H and I never had any expectations of them being close or talking outside of our functions, so we didn't care. Our parents are grown adults and we weren't trying to force any friendships on them.
http://wedding.theknot.com/bridesmaids-mother-of-the-bride/mother-of-the-bride/articles/introducing-the-in-laws.aspx
[QUOTE]Typically the parents all meet right after the engagement is announced. Below is a link to how this is usually handled: <a href="http://wedding.theknot.com/bridesmaids-mother-of-the-bride/mother-of-the-bride/articles/introducing-the-in-laws.aspx" rel="nofollow">http://wedding.theknot.com/bridesmaids-mother-of-the-bride/mother-of-the-bride/articles/introducing-the-in-laws.aspx</a>
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<div>However, OP, please note that your marriage will still be considered valid if your parents do not meet until the wedding. :)</div>
Our families came in on Friday before our Sunday wedding. My dad had drinks with them that night, my mom and stepdad had breakfast with them the next morning. They live in different states (and we live in yet a third), so that's just how it worked out. However, my mother wants my in-laws to come stay with her next summer, apparently.
If they live near each other, I'd get the stress of having them meet out of the way before the wedding. But if they don't live nearby, don't worry about it.
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[QUOTE]I thought I rememered reading that years ago, the point of an RD was for the B&G's parents to meet each other? So, then, you'd just be following an old tradition. I don't think it's a problem.
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I think you're thinking of the engagement party? That's usually thrown by the bride's family for the families to meet.
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We now live near H's family, and my family will come visit from time to time, so it's likely that the parents will see each other occasionally, but not often. Personally, I'd find it a bit awkward for that meeting to be at the rehearsal or RD, but if it's just the day before those events, I think it would be fine. The RD involves other people, though, so that could make it a little extra awkward, potentially.
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I think either way is fine - if there is an opportunity to meet that is great, if not, I think that is part of the reason for the RD.