Newbie

furbabymama

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Newbie : I hope not.  Why the hell bring it up in the first place?
Posted by edielaura[/QUOTE]

Well I thought it would've went over a little better but obviously people in here are creeped out way easily. This is a conversation forum where people post pictures of themselves. Have you never seen someone you knew? I don't think it's that creepy.

mkrupar

Can one be banned for being a creeper?

Birdie1483

Sure mk

furbabymama

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[QUOTE]Can one be banned for being a creeper?
Posted by mkrupar[/QUOTE]

Banned? What? It's not like I gave out her address or anything. I said I wouldn't give any more information about how I thought I knew her.

mkrupar

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Newbie : YES! I forgot about that detail. I think it might have been his handsome twin that was in more than one book? I don't remember.
Posted by annakb8[/QUOTE]

I think they captured the hairy one and he escapes at one point. I know there was this whole family thing and the story line spanned a few books. I'm going to have to re-read them soon. I haven't in a while. I think I'm missing one or two of the books.

ArynBaker

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[QUOTE]Guys! Back to the real issue. I'm concerned with OPs reproductive system if she's popping out furbabies.
Posted by mkrupar[/QUOTE]
 <div>This is what I pictured her popping out. Creepy indeed. </div><div><p style="font:normal normal normal 12px/normal Helvetica;margin:0px;"> </p><p style="font:normal normal normal 12px/normal Helvetica;margin:0px;"><img src="webkit-fake-url://C0A33E43-0B75-4559-A363-970E13EF8844/furby.jpg" alt="furby.jpg" /></p><p> </p></div>

PetalPockets2012

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[QUOTE]Can one be banned for being a creeper?
Posted by mkrupar[/QUOTE]

I think it should be considered if you are saying you know someone and claiming to know things about them that are secretive. That's moving beyond just a creeper to me.

And I didn't mean to scare you Edie with my run away comment. Sorry!

mkrupar

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Newbie : Banned? What? It's not like I gave out her address or anything. I said I wouldn't give any more information about how I thought I knew her.
Posted by furbabymama[/QUOTE]

I'm pretty sure you can be banned for trollish behavior. You've definitely defined trollish behavior this evening.

furbabymama

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Newbie : You don't get it.  What you did is beyond creepy.
Posted by edielaura[/QUOTE]

I'm really sorry. I thought it would be funny. I don't really know your nor have I ever met you.

KatePlusNate04

This got weird(er). And OP, what you said is very creepy. It's not like you said, "Hey! You look familiar. I think I went to HS with you." You said you knew her and knew some sort of secret about her that would embarrass her but you doubt you'll be meeting again soon. That's creepy and weird, whether it's true or just for attention.

Matty143

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Newbie : Banned? What? It's not like I gave out her address or anything. I said I wouldn't give any more information about how I thought I knew her.
Posted by furbabymama[/QUOTE]

You don't get it.
Its when and how you chose to throw out the "hey! I think I know you card"

PetalPockets2012

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Newbie : I'm really sorry. I thought it would be funny. I don't really know your nor have I ever met you.
Posted by furbabymama[/QUOTE]

wtf????

KatePlusNate04

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Newbie : I'm really sorry. I thought it would be funny. I don't really know your nor have I ever met you.
Posted by furbabymama[/QUOTE]


That makes it weirder I think.

furbabymama

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Newbie : For some reason I don't believe you.  And if you pull shiit like this I feel sorry for your FI and I think you are the problem, not him.
Posted by edielaura[/QUOTE]

Really, I'm serious. I don't know you so please don't be freaked out.

crash2729

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Newbie : Well I thought it would've went over a little better but obviously people in here are creeped out way easily. This is a conversation forum where people post pictures of themselves. <strong>Have you never seen someone you knew? I don't think it's that creepy.</strong>
Posted by furbabymama[/QUOTE]
Yea I have. <div>
</div><div>But it was a local creeper who stole the pictures and made an account so she could continue to feed her TK addiction. So...yea. Creepy a little.</div>

PetalPockets2012

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[QUOTE]OP, it would have been one thing if you said "Hey, Edie, do I know you from *this one place*?  You look familiar."  As oppsed to "Edielaura I think I know you." The first one is said in a normal voice.  <strong>The second is said by a creep man in his underwear in his basement.
</strong>Posted by crfb87[/QUOTE]

Ok I'm creeped out and it wasn't directed at me.

OP - If you did just "make it up" that you know Edie, why pick her? She was one of the nicer ones to you and was giving helpful advice. BSC.

cebrady89

Whoa I posted before seeing how creepy this all got. My previous post still stands, but my goodness.

mkrupar

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[QUOTE]Not everyone has a ton of friends. I honestly could never come up with 9 friends for my bridal party. I asked three because I just don't have more friends than that. Some people are shy and don't have a big group of friends they'd want in the wedding - there's no reason to make fun of the OP for not wanting to ask 9 people to be bridesmaids. That is a LOT of people. I agree it's pretty rude to tell someone their marriage is doomed because she and her fiancé are arguing about wedding planning. Do you the rest of you compromise immediately on every issue? Sometimes compromise doesn't come right away. Im sure these two will figure out a compromise. About her parents paying: how many times do girls here ask questions and nearly everyone says "if your parents are paying, they get more say. If your in laws are paying, they get more say". So yeah I think the OP and her parents have a bit more sway on wedding decisions since they are footing the bill. OP, you and your fiancé do need to be able to compromise on wedding things. I think he should definitely have a say in the date of the wedding but if you want to decide on what color the napkins are, I'd say leave him out. Please don't hold money over his head though - your family may e paying, but he's about to become part of your family and making him feel inferior because you guys have more money is just not nice. Congrats on your engagement and good luck with planning! It will be fun, I swear :)
Posted by cebrady89[/QUOTE]

You ----------------------------------------------------------- /> the point

KatePlusNate04

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[QUOTE]Not everyone has a ton of friends. I honestly could never come up with 9 friends for my bridal party. I asked three because I just don't have more friends than that. <strong>Some people are shy and don't have a big group of friends they'd want in the wedding - there's no reason to make fun of the OP for not wanting to ask 9 people to be bridesmaids. That is a LOT of people</strong>. I agree it's pretty rude to tell someone their marriage is doomed because she and her fiancé are arguing about wedding planning. <strong>Do you the rest of you compromise immediately on every issue? Sometimes compromise doesn't come right away. Im sure these two will figure out a compromise.</strong> About her parents paying: how many times do girls here ask questions and nearly everyone says "<strong>if your parents are paying, they get more say. If your in laws are paying, they get more say". So yeah I think the OP and her parents have a bit more sway on wedding decisions since they are footing the bill. </strong>OP, you and your fiancé do need to be able to compromise on wedding things. I think he should definitely have a say in the date of the wedding but if you want to decide on what color the napkins are, I'd say leave him out. Please don't hold money over his head though - your family may e paying, but he's about to become part of your family and making him feel inferior because you guys have more money is just not nice. Congrats on your engagement and good luck with planning! It will be fun, I swear :)
Posted by cebrady89[/QUOTE]

1) She doesn't need 9 friends. She needs to get over having even sides and putting numbers before asking people she's close to.

2) Yes, compromise is a very important part of marriage. And it's not just little things they aren't agreeing on. She flat out said she "dictates" how they can spend their money. That isn't healthy and will likely lead to resentment. Money is one of the biggest causes of strife in marriage. A marriage should not be a dictatorship. Honestly, based on what she typed, she sounds immature and/or not ready for marriage. We can only comment on what the OP tells us. And how she worded things led us to this conclusion.

3)Yes if parents are paying they do have a say on guest list, etc. But the bride should WANT to involve her FI, and she does not. She is using her parents' monetary contribution as an excuse to exclude him and make the day about her. That is totally different than taking parents' opinions into consideration.

KellyBrian2013

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[QUOTE]Not everyone has a ton of friends. I honestly could never come up with 9 friends for my bridal party. I asked three because I just don't have more friends than that. Some people are shy and don't have a big group of friends they'd want in the wedding - there's no reason to make fun of the OP for not wanting to ask 9 people to be bridesmaids. That is a LOT of people. <strong>I agree it's pretty rude to tell someone their marriage is doomed because she and her fiancé are arguing about wedding planning. Do you the rest of you compromise immediately on every issue? Sometimes compromise doesn't come right away.</strong> Im sure these two will figure out a compromise. About her parents paying: how many times do girls here ask questions and nearly everyone says "if your parents are paying, they get more say. If your in laws are paying, they get more say". So yeah I think the OP and her parents have a bit more sway on wedding decisions since they are footing the bill. OP, you and your fiancé do need to be able to compromise on wedding things. I think he should definitely have a say in the date of the wedding but if you want to decide on what color the napkins are, I'd say leave him out. Please don't hold money over his head though - your family may e paying, but he's about to become part of your family and making him feel inferior because you guys have more money is just not nice. Congrats on your engagement and good luck with planning! It will be fun, I swear :)
Posted by cebrady89[/QUOTE]

I think the difference is that most <em>normal</em> people don't stamp their feet like a five year old and say "... but I want it <em>MYYYYY </em>way!!" with no legitimate reason for reacting that way.

And also, it is her and her FI's wedding. Yes, if her parents are paying, her parents get some say in venue, guest list, etc. That doesn't mean that FI gets ZERO say in the entire event.

That said, this is totally MUD. And not even that amusing at that... creepy, yes. Amusing, not so much.

Nickivegan

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[QUOTE]Can we get back to the real issue? I need coping mechanisms to quit worrying about this crap.
Posted by furbabymama[/QUOTE]



Sorry I am still only on page two. Is the underlying issue that she wants goldfish centerpieces for the carnival theme? Cause winter really doesn't work for goldfish centerpieces. Summer is the season for goldfish.

chrmun

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Newbie : Even if he was a serial killer? Except now that I think about it this guy was French, so that might cancel out the whole psychopath thing.
Posted by annakb8[/QUOTE]



Wait. French AND maple syrup? That makes him Quebecois and I want no part of it. I do want waffles, though.

mkrupar

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[QUOTE]Holy eff, guys.  Who opened the gates of the asylum? OP.  You're a bratty twelve year old creeper, if you are not, in fact, a troll.  Knock it off.  Get it together.  Grow up.  That's all the advice you're going to get from me. Thank your lucky stars that this cat wants to marry you, because you sound like a prize.  A crappy boardwalk prize that you win in one of the third rate games.  <strong>P.S. - that werewolf guy haunted my dreams for a while.  The Kay Scarpetta books started sucking though.  Dammit Cornwell.</strong>
Posted by EaglesBride2012[/QUOTE]

I'll agree they started sucking when they went to Charleston (it pains my heart to say that) and Cornwell started writing from all of the characters' points of view vs. just Scarpetta's. Her last couple have gone back to the Scarpetta point of view and I liked them much better.

beckyboo27

Hahahaha!  Woooow!  I can't believe I just read through all six pages of this thread.  Thank goodness I poured myself a glass of wine before I sat down at the computer.  Happy Wednesday evening y'all!

Trolololololololol! 

stefaniewattie

yikes..fingers crossed OP is a random kid trolling... holy piss, what a selfish brat.. if her FI is in fact an adult ... he should leave her. for suuuurrree!
although im pretty happy i found this...nice entertainment for half hr.

Viczaesar

Well that was disturbing. 

mbaete

OP- I understand you feeling attacked on this board, I have gotten that alot on the etiquette board.
Don't take it too personally, alot gets out of hand here.

I kind of see your point about how your family pays for the wedding so you should get the bulk of the planning freedom. Weddings are know as "The Bride's Day." I've never heard about a boy dreaming about his wedding his whole life.

However, with that being said, the groomsmen are his thing. While, it would have been nice for him to talk with you about it first, he didn't and now you are having to deal with is.

You do not have to have even sides, I have 3 more girls than my FI's groomsmen, and it is going to be just fine.

As far as the date, you will just have to sit down and really discuss with each other why you want each particular date until you come to a compromise.