Gay guys and bridal showers...

divadancer11

So should my gay guy friends be invited to the bridal shower? Do you think I should ask if they would want an invitation? I just dint want to or dint and feelings are hurt either way. My first thought would be yes cause they are just like gf's but....idk this literally popped in my head a minute ago...

whitsy

If you think it's something they would enjoy attending, sure.

Simply Fated

A guy doesn't have to be gay to be invited to a shower. It's not like there is a mandatory girls-only rule. Them being gay shouldn't be a deciding factor. If your hostess wants to keep it girls only, then their penis keeps them off the guest list. If the hostess doesn't care, then go for it. But please leave their gender preference out of it.

jessicabessica

I didn't ask my shower hostess to invite my gay male friends to the shower.  I did invite both partners in the lesbian couples that were invited to the wedding, FWIW.  I mentioned to one of my (gay male) friends something about my shower--it had already happened--and he said it sounded fun and he wished he had known.  So, if your shower hostess would be ok having a co-ed shower, I woudl ask your friends what they'd prefer.  

divadancer11

No it's not girls only. My mom and granny are hosting my shower and wanted me to get a list together for them....that is all....thanks!!

TurtlesAllTheWayDown

Well, I think most gay men I know would take offense to being told they're "just like my girlfriends," but that's beside the point. Invite whomever you'd like and whomever the hostesses can accomodate.

monkeysip

Yeah gay guys =/= girls.  I mean, either it's a co-ed shower, and invite whoever you want, or it's girls only, and no men, not even gay men, are allowed.

My gay friend has already made it clear that he has no interest in coming to any bridal showers anyone might throw for me.  I don't blame him.

ricksang

Men are men, gay or straight. Most do not enjoy sitting in a room full of women looking at wedding crap and talking about weddings.

LesPaul

If they are close enough friends and would enjoy attending, then invite them.  Not because they're gay (or not), but because they would be a welcome addition to the guest list and have fun at the shower.

baystateapple

I have two gay friends who are dating.  One of them had a sister who was pregnant, and she invited them both to the shower.  Her brother was thrilled to be there and had a blast.  His BF sat miserably next to me saying things like "I wish I was home playing video games" and "why am I even here?"

Take their personalities and preferences into account before assuming that gay men like to go to showers.

musicalsunlight

My man of honor is gay, as is one of my closest friends. They both expressed interest in going to the shower so they were invited. I agree that the focus should be more on their personalities and how that plays into of they would want to be there, not just being gay.

Calypso1977

if you think theyd want to go invite them.  but just because a man is gay doesnt mean he acts like or thinks like a woman, and would therefore then want to do "girl" things like showers.

funny how this question comes up on occasion here, but no one ever asks if their lesbian friend should be invited to the bachelor party.

Meg1036

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Gay guys and bridal showers... : Not all women enjoy that either. (And yet, I play on TK.)
Posted by yaga13[/QUOTE]

I'm with you, Joy.

Simply Fated

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[QUOTE]if you think theyd want to go invite them.  but just because a man is gay doesnt mean he acts like or thinks like a woman, and would therefore then want to do "girl" things like showers. funny how this question comes up on occasion here, but no one ever asks if their lesbian friend should be invited to the bachelor party.
Posted by Calypso1977[/QUOTE]


I wonder if that question comes up on the groom-centric websites.

afeliz79

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Gay guys and bridal showers... :
I wonder if that question comes up on the groom-centric websites.
Posted by Simply Fated[/QUOTE]



There are groom centric sites?

Elinetrouwt

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[QUOTE]if you think theyd want to go invite them.  but just because a man is gay doesnt mean he acts like or thinks like a woman, and would therefore then want to do "girl" things like showers. funny how this question comes up on occasion here, but no one ever asks if their lesbian friend should be invited to the bachelor party.
Posted by Calypso1977[/QUOTE]

<div>Funny, I have been thinking about that. One of my gay male friends is invited to the b-party, so we can all gossip about pretty boys, but you know, my lesbian friend won't be able to join the gossip. Whateffs, if I had any significant straight male friends, they'd be invited too. She can't bring her girlfriend though, no partners allowed.</div>

mica178

It depends on the type of shower being thrown for you and also on the personality of your gay friends.

My dearest friend who is gay would have hated attending my shower.  For that matter, I myself was +/- on how enjoyable the shower was.  I only subjected my WP to that trainwreck (it was hosted by my mother's friends, and it ended up being  5:1 neurotic Asian tiger moms: normal, grounded people) because at least they'd find it anthropologically interesting.  :P

Simply Fated

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Gay guys and bridal showers... :

There are groom centric sites?
Posted by afeliz79[/QUOTE]


lol yeah. Like how The Knot is geared towards brides, there are sites like Groom 411 that attract the grooms.