Hi I have a question about the RSVP cards for the reception. Is it tacky to put on the card " Please RSVP because saeting is limited at the Reception" ? We do have limited seating but our guest list is 250 and the reception holds only 175. we have cut the guest list from 475 down to 250 and are still trying to cut more out. DF asked me this questions and I'm hoping you guys can help! Thanks so much girls.
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You should only invite the number of people that your venue holds.
Regardless, don't put that on your RSVP. It's tacky. And find a new venue.
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[QUOTE]You need to cut your guest list down to 175. Never invite more people than you can actually host. What if EVERYONE rsvp's yes? Trust me, this is possible. Invite 175.<strong> If people decline, then invite others quickly so they don't know they're being b-listed.</strong>
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<div>Definitely do NOT do this. B-lists are rude. Only invite those you can actually host. I'm sorry you've gotten yourself into this mess. Please don't do a b-list. If you can't change your venue, then you need to cut your list. It sucks, but everyone has to do it. If you've already sent STD's or something to these folks, then I have no advice for you.</div>
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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: RSVP cards : Eh, I'm usually on board with what is considered proper etiquette but this is one that doesn't really bother me. I personally will get a venue that can hold my entire guest list, but I don't see how a b-list is so terrible if it is done properly and isn't for gift grabbing reasons. I won't personally be b-listing, but if the invitations are sent out in proper timing and the guest doesn't know, I don't see it as being rude. But thats just my opinion.
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<div>Etiquette dictates that B-lists are tacky....this is an etiquette board, therefore the answers being given are in line with proper etiquette.</div><div>
</div><div>OP - 175 chairs = 175 people in those chairs....I doubt too many people will want to share a chair or a meal!</div><div>
</div><div>Good luck cutting the list!</div>
[QUOTE]<strong>So what happens with your 176th person RSVP's yes?</strong> You should only invite the number of people that your venue holds. Regardless, don't put that on your RSVP. It's tacky. And find a new venue.
Posted by MattsPenguin[/QUOTE]
<div>MP- she warned them seating was limited!!! It's like when a concert sells out, they the first people who RSVPed can scalp their seats for big bucks. Win-win. </div>
And I agree with PP never do a B-list it is rude and hurtful.
OP - B-lists are rude. Invite only the number of people you can properly host, which in your case is 175.
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: RSVP cards : MP- she warned them seating was limited!!! It's like when a concert sells out, they the first people who RSVPed can scalp their seats for big bucks. Win-win.
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[QUOTE]<strong>Unless a lot of those 250 are courtesy invites to out of town family that you are 100% sure will not come you are walking into to a potentially big disaster.</strong> As PP mentioned, B-lists are not usually a good idea. They will only work if a) people on the B list are all in the same social circle and not in social circle with A-list people (e.g., work friends are on B-list, none are on A-list and you send out all their invites at the same time) and b) a lot of people rsvp no early on (don't count on that, people suck at rsvping in a timely manner). Bottomline I'd try to cut your list to as close to 175 as you can.
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You can never be 100% sure until they RSVP or you hear from them verbally "I am not coming". FMIL swore up and down that her relatives from TX (my wedding is in IL) would not come. Oh guess what? Four of them are coming. There's no such thing as a courtesy invite--you either want to invite them to join in the celebration or you don't.