Vows

ThePinkSuperhero

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[QUOTE]Ok, here's what I have....critque away! You are my best friend You are my rock You are my dream come true   Because of this...   I promise to encourage your individuality, Because that is what gives you determination and creativity, I promise to support your ambitions Because through them your soul shines                 You are my better half You are my inspiration You are my ??? Because of this…   I promise to support your passion for cars, because it’s so much a part of who you are I promise to pledge my loyalty to UK through good seasons and bad because you would expect no less from me I promise to let you tease my for every Murphy moment yet to come because they will be plentiful I promise to never stop believin…because it’s gotten us so far     Lastly, I promise to you perfect love and perfect trust, For one lifetime with you could never be enough. This is my sacred vow to you, my equal in all things, always and forever  
Posted by louisvillebride21[/QUOTE]


Ok, here's my crituqe- I think they're very fluffy.  All sunshine and rainbows.  But marriage is going to be more than that- every couple suffers and goes through hard times, and I think your wedding vows should reflect that you are committed to stick together through those hard times.

louisvillebride21

And that's what the traditional vows are for...that come right after that. The typical for better or worse, sickness and health, richer and pooer. That's all still in there.

ETA: I think I will put a line in there that reflects what you just said, in the more serious half of it. Point well taken. However, the traditional vows will say most of the serious portion.

mwhitson14

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Vows : Yeah, my dad's first line is thanking everyone for being there, saying that there are other places they could be on this (hopefully) beautiful day. adn then he says "I offered them good money to elope, yet here they are, wanting to share in this special day with their family". We just like to be light hearted. It's totally a part of who we are.
Posted by louisvillebride21[/QUOTE]


Yeah, it was nice because DH was soo nervous, so a little light and happy helped him loosen up a bit.

*BeachBride0410*

If your relationship is full of laughter, why not have some laughter in the vows?  The people who are witnessing you getting married, I am sure know the relationship you have and wouldn't think badly of the vows

louisvillebride21

I agree, and like I said, to each their own. Our wedding is family only, so they will certainly 'get it'.

katieanne85

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[QUOTE]And that's what the traditional vows are for...that come right after that. The typical for better or worse, sickness and health, richer and pooer. That's all still in there. ETA: I think I will put a line in there that reflects what you just said, in the more serious half of it. Point well taken. However, the traditional vows will say most of the serious portion.
Posted by louisvillebride21[/QUOTE]

That does help, those are important promises, probly why theyve become traditional lol, We wanted to make ours more personal to us too, so we are telling eachother how much the other means to us, not vows tho, and are rewording the vow part to be a little more personal, to include our hopes for the future and support of eachother, as well as whats most important, love faithfulness commitment.

*BeachBride0410*

FI's uncle who is a pastor is performing our ceremony...so it has religious scriptures but our vows are non denominational & talk about being faithful, loyal & supportive.

bel138

I only brought God into it because she had already talked about Bible readings, and I believe she mentioned prior to this that her dad is a pastor.

louisvillebride21

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[QUOTE]I only brought God into it because she had already talked about Bible readings, and<strong> I believe she mentioned prior to this that her dad is a pastor</strong>.
Posted by bel138[/QUOTE]
The memory of the Knot constantly amazes me.

laurenclaire1386

LVB, I think the vows y'all have written are wonderful. They made me pretty teary, but then, every post about vows or readings or first dance songs makes me teary. And you can joke about it all you want, but supporting your spouse through losing college sports seasons is pretty important, IMO. I'm also the girl who got engaged at a college football game, so I get where you're coming from.

katieanne85

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[QUOTE]LVB, I think the vows y'all have written are wonderful. They made me pretty teary, but then, every post about vows or readings or first dance songs makes me teary. And you can joke about it all you want, but supporting your spouse through losing college sports seasons is pretty important, IMO. I'm also the girl who got engaged at a college football game, so I get where you're coming from.
Posted by laurenclaire1386[/QUOTE]

I've figured it out! neither of us went big sports type schools, we missed out and now all we have is our love for eachother, its tragic but we will survive. lol :)

jasmineh7777

I think it sounds good LVB. I don't think the "serious" stuff needs to be added, because you will get that will the traditional vows. I didn't really notice any inside jokes, or something that I wouldn't understand as a guest. More importantly, they represent you two, and your relationship.

louisvillebride21

I'm glad you 'got it'. I didn't think anything was toooo inside jokey, I figure our family will get every reference. Maybe not the "Dont' Stop Believin" part, but no one is really into music, so whatever.

tracy_k

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Vows : if that doesnt mean the same thing to everyone, then the whys are pointless, <strong>people are saying "for as long as we both shall love" now</strong>, marriage is a temporal thing as well as a spiritual thing...
Posted by katieanne85[/QUOTE]

My aunt and uncle said "as long as we both shall love" in their wedding ceremony ... <strong>in 1976</strong>. People have been saying that for a very long time (not my thing, but whatever).

Not sure what my point is, LOL. But to the OP, I think your vows sound fine. :) You never know what's going to "lighten up" a wedding. One of our ring bearers decided to drop to the ground and snort like a pig right at the beginning of our ceremony and everyone cracked up (fortunately he got it together pretty quickly).

Additionally, at the "declaration of intent" part where our officiant asked us "Do you give of yourselves wholly and joyfully, etc" and we were supposed to say "We do," my husband just grinned and said, "YEP!" and everyone laughed again.

Hey, I found my point -- a wedding does not have to be somber to be serious.

Nebb

Ill be honest, I like what you wrote. I dont think the is any ONE definition what should/shouldnt be included in a ceremony, what works for one couple doesnt for another. I think if you are both comfortable doing vows like this, and they arent overly goofy or inappropriate (which yours isnt, from what you wrote), I see nothing wrong with it. I think it was kind of cute.

mocha beans

I agree with Nebb.  I don't think having humorous or quirky aspects to the vows means that you don't take them as seriously as the next couple.  If you're a couple the approaches all or many things with a bit of humor, then I wouldn't expect the wedding to be any different.

I like what you have so far.

louisvillebride21

Thanks for the advice and ...validation? lol. We like them and they feel like 'us'. We're not hurting anyone else, not breaking any rules, so we're going with it.

mocha beans

I mean, it's not like you're saying, "I promise to give you weekly blowjobs and always wear a negligee to bed"  I would probably draw the line at that.  Unless you're porn stars.

kimmybennett

I really like what you have. We are doing this also, but in a back and fourth exchange. Good luck!

LaceyMK

I think a small, funny addition to the ceremony would be charming.

This is what we did:

Judge talks about the meaning of marriage and the seriousness of the commitement, blah, blah, blah...

Now, before your family and friends, give words to your commitment, by taking these wedding vows. May I have the rings? 

Groom, do you promise to love Bride, even though she feeds the dogs table scraps when she thinks you’re not looking, even when she insists on using 10 syllable words to answer simple questions, and despite the fact she won’t wash dishes until a dishwasher is installed?
(Groom answers “I do”)

Bride, do you promise to love Groom, even when he watches Sports Center for days at a time, even though he has a horrible short term memory, and despite the fact he is the pickiest eater you’ve ever known?
(Groom answers “I do”) 

Repeat after me I, Groom, take you, Bride to be my wife—to have and to hold, in sickness and in health, for richer or for poorer. (Groom repeats.)I will love and honor you until death parts us. (Groom repeats.)

Bride says the same stuff to the Groom.

squirrly

I think what you have is cute.  And for those who aren't familiar with Kentucky, the UK reference and God work well together - as UK Basketball is, in fact, a religion here. 

In all seriousness, though, I think it's fine.  It's not really inside jokes - it's cute things that your family will appreciate too.  When it's uncomfortable to me is when it's stuff that nobody in the audience gets. 

I think your wedding should absolutely represent you.  One of our readings (that we FINALLY decided on) is based on a piece called "Falling in Love is Like Owning a Dog" and it references stuff our dogs have done (destroy crates, eat shoes/clothes/upholstered furniture). 

We wrote our vows, but we're saying the same things to each other.  We just put the ceremony together ourselves, since we're not religious at all and our officiant has never done a wedding (friend ordained online).