My FI has a cousin, she is married and has kids. I love her and her children.but her husband is a bit of an annoyance. Normally i would suck it up and just invite them all. But apparently he has been a problem in the past with my FI and his family. I am fine with not inviting him as if he causes another scene (which i have seen him do) my family would not only not be happy but would handle the situation themselves. He has threatened violencet in the past. we just do not know how to go about telling her you and your children are invited but not your husband. Is this even right to do? it is not my family so i feel like i should just support my FI and i do not want any drama at our wedding but I also dont want there to be any drama period.