Birdesmaid Date Issue Resumed...

sister2groom

I agree with Nugget completely. There are gray situations in which you don't want to judge, but this is one of those black-and-white situations in which you and your FI would be uncomfortable with good reason with the situation.

I wouldn't, however, uninvite her from the wedding. Just leave things as they stand. If she's that uncomfortable, she won't come and you'll have an empty seat in your seating chart, which is not a big deal. But uninviting her just invites more drama, if you leave it I think you will have done nothing wrong.

nickandmerritt

I HATE it when birds try to bring their married boyfriends to my wedding.

Too soon?

cherbein

sister2groom,

I can see your point and the concept of "uninviting her" makes me a bit uncomfortable too.  If she was just a guest, I'd feel better letting it be, but she's a bridesmaid.  Maybe I'm being ridiculous, but I need to make up the programs listing all the bridesmaids and I don't want to answer questions the day of about why she's not there if I list her and she doesn't show.  We also all have hair appointments and if I cancelled at the last minute I have to pay.  Lastly, I just want to not have to think about this anymore.

If she won't e-mail me back and won't answer her phone, what should I do?  I am completely open to suggestions and its okay to tell me my worries above are crazy if you think they are.