*Sun* & other late night knotties

anna.oskar

Squirrly:  i know you don't want to hear this, but you have to breathe.  I was at that point not so long ago and everything turned out beautiful.  I stressed about adding homemade touches and bringing across my "vision for the day".

squirrly

I feel like there are some rediculously good weddings on here to live up to.  And it's infecting my planning.    We are also having our reception in a tent at a venue that has never hosted a wedding before.  So, I have ZERO existing decor to work with, and it's sometimes challenging getting the venue to understand what I'm going for.

squirrly

I have so many crazy ideas for favors. 

anna.oskar

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[QUOTE]I feel like there are some rediculously good weddings on here to live up to.  And it's infecting my planning.  :) 
Posted by squirrly[/QUOTE]

i completely understand that. You can do it!  I'm not a pro at stuff like this (professinal tomboy most of my life) but I'll help you in any way I can.  Just let me know.

louisvillebride21

B, it's almost Tuesday!!!!!

Things are going to be fine, hon. Your bio looks really really great. And another thing to think about; people that will be coming to your wedding don't look at wedding crap all day every day like we do. All these cute ideas we see on here, they most likely have no idea even exist. So the cute ideas you DO get to do, seem extra special!

And it could be worse; you could be having your reception at the captians quarters with no dancing and no real music Remember, it's about getting married, that's what's really important.

thesuninherhead

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[QUOTE]I'm at 4.5 months to go, and I suddenly feel like the number of things to do and buy and plan and organize and all is overwhelming.  I feel like I don't have a firm vision of what everything should look like that day, so I don't even know where to go or what to buy.  And I feel like there's a huge set of expectations to live up to, for a variety of reasons, and that I have no idea how to do that.
<p>Posted by squirrly[/QUOTE]</p><p> </p><p>What sort of expectations? And what major stuff is on your to-do list?</p><p> </p><p>Honestly, after booking everything I didn't do a lot more planning until a couple of months out. I too freaked out about my lack of 'vision' and my indecision around the details of the wedding- but it all fell together perfectly in the end.</p>

squirrly

I have seen plenty of dancing and heard plenty of good music at Captain's Quarters.  It can be done if you guys want it.

Seriously, I have about 17 favor ideas.  And this whole fork bending plan for escort card easles is not going well.  I don't want to scrap it, but FI is not being helpful and that's one I can't do solo.

squirrly

And Tuesday can't get here fast enough.

thesuninherhead

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[QUOTE]Yay for truffles!  I wish I could make some kind of holiday dessert that my DH would crave.  He's not a sweets person.  Major downer when I make cookies or cakes and he's not even in the mood for sugar.
<p>Posted by anna.oskar[/QUOTE]</p><p> </p><p>My H is a type 1 diabetic. Needless to say, he can't really enjoy much of the sweets I've been making! It dawned on me as I was finishing the truffles that even though my macaroons didn't turn out, we still have far too many sweets and we're not going to get through them all. I should have stuck to the truffles only and left it at that!</p>

thesuninherhead

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[QUOTE]I feel like there are some rediculously good weddings on here to live up to.  And it's infecting my planning.  :)  We are also having our reception in a tent at a venue that has never hosted a wedding before.  So, I have ZERO existing decor to work with, and it's sometimes challenging getting the venue to understand what I'm going for.
Posted by squirrly[/QUOTE]
<p> </p><p>I felt 100% like this when planning- that there were so many amazing weddings on here and I would never have anything nearly as nice/cohesive/amazing... </p><p> </p><p>In the end, it all worked out though. You have to trust me on this- just keep planning and keep getting ideas about things you want, and collecting the things you think you might need, and ultimately it will all come together.</p>

louisvillebride21

We're over our original guest list and now don't have room for a dance floor in the private room. We'll be able to have a first dance, but no real dancing. So since no dancing, I guess I'll just have dinner music? I have no idea what to do. My theory is that all this crap that I don't want to do will go away if I don't think about it.

And what are the different ideas about the honeymoon?

squirrly

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: *Sun* & other late night knotties :   What sort of expectations? And what major stuff is on your to-do list?   Honestly, after booking everything I didn't do a lot more planning until a couple of months out. I too freaked out about my lack of 'vision' and my indecision around the details of the wedding- but it all fell together perfectly in the end.
Posted by thesuninherhead[/QUOTE]

This is FI's second wedding, but my first.  All of his friends and family went to his first wedding too.  I obviously wasn't there, and I feel like if ours is lame that it will be that much worse, and look like it's my fault.  And, most of those people have never been to Kentucky, and a lot of them think the whole state is full of hicks and rednecks and that there's nothing nice or pretty or upscale here at all. 

thesuninherhead

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[QUOTE]We are also having our reception in a tent at a venue that has never hosted a wedding before.  So, I have ZERO existing decor to work with, and it's sometimes challenging getting the venue to understand what I'm going for.
<p>Posted by squirrly[/QUOTE]</p><p> </p><p>I meant to add that we also had venues which hadn't had wedding before (our ceremony had never held a wedding and was purely an accommodation venue previously, and our reception was a restaurant which had only hosted a couple of weddings. It all worked out despite that!</p>

squirrly

And, I don't have the rehearsal dinner booked yet.  We know where we want to have it, but they want my CC # written on paper with my address and all the other info necessary to steal my CC or identity just in a filing cabinet in their office, and I'm not so cool with that. 

And, we don't have a florist.  That's DIY.  Favors - DIY.  Invites, programs, menus - DIY.  And, my printer is f'ing up all yellow ink. 

I'm hoping to get a lot done next week, since I don't have to work at all.  But I feel like I was ahead, and now suddenly I'm behind.  And lost as to a good direction.  And that everything we end up with will be disjointed.

I spent hours searching the internet for cute horseshoe shaped things the other night, just to decide that might be a bit much.

squirrly

I just need to get a few more things done, and I'll feel ok again, I think.  LVB, wanna bend forks?   

thesuninherhead

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: *Sun* & other late night knotties : This is FI's second wedding, but my first.  All of his friends and family went to his first wedding too.  I obviously wasn't there, and I feel like if ours is lame that it will be that much worse, and look like it's my fault.  And, most of those people have never been to Kentucky, and a lot of them think the whole state is full of hicks and rednecks and that there's nothing nice or pretty or upscale here at all. 
<p>Posted by squirrly[/QUOTE]</p><p> </p><p>Well, for one, I'm sure you'll demonstrate quite easily that Kentucky is not reserved for hicks! </p><p> </p><p>I can understand that it would be daunting planning knowing that there's a possibility that the weddings could be compared, but honestly, I don't think people will be doing this. It's going to be different on so many levels, I'm sure, that it won't be easily compared in any case... if your e-pics are anything to go by, I'm sure that your wedding is going to be beautiful! </p><p> </p><p>Honestly, I think you should aim to have a beautiful celebration. Just focus on the party/celebration, and it will all fall together.</p>

squirrly

And, really I'm listenening to what you guys are saying.  I need to vent, I think.  And be told I'm not nuts, and that this is normal.

squirrly

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: *Sun* & other late night knotties :   Well, for one, I'm sure you'll demonstrate quite easily that Kentucky is not reserved for hicks!    I can understand that it would be daunting planning knowing that there's a possibility that the weddings could be compared, but honestly, I don't think people will be doing this. It's going to be different on so many levels, I'm sure, that it won't be easily compared in any case... if your e-pics are anything to go by, I'm sure that your wedding is going to be beautiful!    Honestly, I think you should aim to have a beautiful celebration. Just focus on the party/celebration, and it will all fall together.
Posted by thesuninherhead[/QUOTE]

Sun, our photog is amazing, I think.  But, our e-pics didn't make his blog, and my first thought on that is that we're not photogenic enough to be in that group.  There are some gorgeous girls on his site. 

<a href="http://bellagraceclients.com/blog/" rel="nofollow">http://bellagraceclients.com/blog/</a>

louisvillebride21

I think I might be able to bend forks with you on Wed if you need me to! I also have a really good printer, you'll just need to get some ink from (Staples?) if you want me to bring it with me!

louisvillebride21

Not to mention, if you wanted to come over, I'm sure MIL would help too! Orrrr at least make us food! lol

thesuninherhead

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: *Sun* & other late night knotties : Sun, our photog is amazing, I think.  But, our e-pics didn't make his blog, and my first thought on that is that we're not photogenic enough to be in that group.  There are some gorgeous girls on his site.  <a href="http://bellagraceclients.com/blog/" rel="nofollow">http://bellagraceclients.com/blog/</a>
<p>Posted by squirrly[/QUOTE]</p><p> </p><p>Try not to read so much into it! I too felt that none of my pictures were going to live up to those of the pretty girls that my photog had in his blog... and now our photog tells us that our wedding is the one they get the most compliments on... Fear not! l am sure that your wedding is going to be beautiful and amazing!</p>

squirrly

It's a new printer, and I think it's a faulty printhead.  I just need to call HP and get a replacement.  And, I'm mostly teasing about the forks.  If it gets closer to time & I still don't have them done, I may offer up lots of wine in exchange for fork bending, though. 

louisvillebride21

Sounds like a VERY good exchange to me!

squirrly

Ok, I'm going to try to take my paranoid butt to bed & sleep off some anxiety.  I'm sure I'll waste my day at work tomorrow on wedding stuff and TK, so I'll see you all sometime after 8 am eastern.

thesuninherhead

Sleep well with the knowledge that you are not insane and that everything WILL come together and look beautiful, even if you're not convinced right now!

squirrly

Thanks, Sun.  (& LVB & Anna).

thesuninherhead

PS: if you're still there, can you explain this spoon bending thing? I bio-stalked but still none the wiser.

squirrly

Sun, sorry.  It's forks.  I haven't put anything in my bio about it yet, because we have successfully only done about 3.  I bought a bunch of old forks from Goodwill.  How's this for cool - not many were engraved, but 100% of them that are have our new last initial on them. 

I got the idea from a blog:  http://bridalbuzz.blogspot.com/2009/07/for-easels-make-great-place-card.html

 

thesuninherhead

Squirrly, forgive me for being ignorant, but what does one do with those? Other than have them on the table as per the picture, I mean? 

squirrly

Easel for escort cards.  The escort cards will indicate, by the color of cardstock as the base, which entree that guest is to be served, so they need to be visible at each place setting.

EDIT:  I actually did update my bio with the forks and a bunch of other stuff today.  Slow day at work.