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lorenhackney
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Reception
y fiance and I are on a tight budget and we plan on inviting close friends and family to the reception immediately following the ceremony and about two weeks later, we will have a big BBQ to invite everyone we couldn't invite to the "private" reception. How do we do this?
Loren
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Re: Reception
Miss Mrs.
You can do a cake and punch reception; they're budget-friendly. I was going to ask if you're on such a tight budget, how within a couple of weeks you would be able to afford to feed these people anyway. I suppose that depends on what kind of reception you're planning.
"So I sing a song of love, Julia"
06.10.10
BFAR:We Defined Our Own Success!
[QUOTE]y fiance and I are on a tight budget and we plan on inviting close friends and family to the reception immediately following the ceremony and about two weeks later, we will have a big BBQ to invite everyone we couldn't invite to the "private" reception. How do we do this? Loren
Posted by lorenhackney[/QUOTE]
"So I sing a song of love, Julia"
06.10.10
BFAR:We Defined Our Own Success!
ETA Opal's idea below is another option IF you space it out far enough from the wedding.
"So I sing a song of love, Julia"
06.10.10
BFAR:We Defined Our Own Success!
Miss Mrs.
ETA: I read your follow up. I'd decide what kind of reception you want and how many you can invite and stick to that.
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[QUOTE]If its within your budget to host them all for a BBQ, why not just make that your reception on the day of the ceremony? I guess I'm not really following how a tight budget means you can't invite people to the wedding but can afford to host a pile of people two weeks after the fact.
Posted by katelynbrian[/QUOTE]
<div>Ditto this. If you can afford this BBQ, make this reception right after the ceremony. It's rude to invite people to an event 2 weeks later, unless it's a DW with an AHR. Even still though, anyone invited to the party should be invited to the actual wedding. </div><div>
</div><div>If you really want it this way, have your BBQ with no mention of your wedding at all. Just call it a bbq, then you won't offend anyone. </div>
[QUOTE]Why don't you just have a BBQ immediately following the ceremony as your reception? You don't have to have a fancy expensive reception. It's pretty rude and looks gift grabby to invite people to a 2nd reception who were not invited to the wedding. You should just have a small ceremony and reception, or a less expensive reception where you can host everyone you wanted (cake & punch). Don't do the 2nd BBQ.
Posted by Brandiewine11[/QUOTE]
<div>I was going to suggest this also. A simple BBQ is a great way for you to stay within your tight budget but still have everyone that you want without looking gift-grabby.</div>
[QUOTE]<strong>If you just want to have a party, just throw a party, with no mention of the wedding. Mentioning it would just kind of draw attention to something they weren't invite to, you know what I mean?</strong> About a month after we got married, we did something similar. We'd gotten settled in after the honeymoon, put all of the gifts away, and just threw our first big party as a married couple, with no mention of the actual wedding.
Posted by opalsky007[/QUOTE]
I second this. Go ahead and have a BBQ a couple weeks after the wedding, but don't present it as a wedding celebration.