sunday weddings...?

futrmrsbevs

Hello-

So my Fi and I have decided on a summer theme wedding. We would like to have the ceremony and reception at a park. Very casual low key DIY kind of wedding. We are very laid back people that just like to have a good time. We were looking at the date 10.01.11, but his cousin just got married 10.01.10. So I was thinking what about a Sunday wedding? Or should I just do the Saturday before which is 09.24.11 since it is a summer theme wedding and our family & friends know how to have a party. We just want a big party/celebration kind of thing. Any thoughts or ideas?Thanks!

 

Stackeye210

I think Sunday weddings are just fine.  If you're worried about people coming from OOT then you might want to have the wedding on a Saturday - but I think if people want to come, they'll come regardless if it's Sat or Sun.  I would imagine since it's at the park that it'd end at sunset then right?  Don't most parks close by then?  So it isn't like you'll have people out super late or anything.

annakb8

Why does it matter that his cousin got married on October 1 last year? He doesn't own that date forever.

Sunday weddings are fine, but it does make it harder for some people to travel. I might not do this is a large portion of your guest list is from out of town.

DNAtime

We are having a Sunday wedding. We have literally saved thousands of dollars.

I will have to let you know when we actually get the RSVPs in but all the people we have talked to so far have said that they will just take Monday off.

We are also making sure that we are cutting the cake at a reasonable hour 8pm, so people can leave early if they want to and it won't be a big deal. Also of the OOT friends and family we have talked to nobody has said that they can't come because its a Sunday. The aunts and such who aren't coming are not coming because of $$ and wouldn't come even if the wedding was on a Sat.

MissKate2011

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[QUOTE]Why does it matter that his cousin got married on October 1 last year? He doesn't own that date forever. Sunday weddings are fine, but it does make it harder for some people to travel. I might not do this is a large portion of your guest list is from out of town.
Posted by annakb8[/QUOTE]


I completely agree with Anna

hlq2011

Sunday weddings are fine.  We wanted an evening wedding and had a lot of OOT guests that we wanted to come, so Sunday wasn't an option for us.

I wouldn't do an evening wedding on a Sunday, though.

What's the big deal about the cousin's wedding date?

Judith233

Sunday weddings are fine, but I could be biased since my wedding will be on a Sunday.  Most of my out of town guests didn't care because instead of taking off on Friday, they are taking off on Monday.  So no biggy there. 

It affects our locals (within a 2 hour radius of venue) more since it means a late night on Sunday.  I just told them to not feel bad leaving the reception early if they need too.  As long a they get a good meal and enjoy themselves while they are able too, I have no complaints.

blush64

I think a daytime Sunday wedding could be nice as PP have said but it could also be an awkward time for people as well.

For out of town guests it could present a problem. My family would not appreciate a Sunday wedding and many would probably not go. There is work the next day for most (in my family anyway) and school for the kids so a lot of people like to use Sunday for preparations, church etc. They can make an exception for a wedding but depending on the people they may not like it.

I don't see why you couldn't use the same date as someone else, as long as it's a different year. But if the Sunday isn't a necessary thing for you just use the Saturday before to make it easier. If you can prevent people from having to take a day off work it's best to do so. I was going to do a Friday but I don't want to cause anyone missed time at work. I just had to cut elsewhere.

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opalsky007

Sunday weddings are fine, but I wanted to make a caution: while you can occasionally score some discounts on off-peak days or get a vendor who's otherwise busy, it didn't work out that way for me.

I didn't get any discounts and couldn't get my first choice photographer, who didn't work on Sundays. I also had to convince the salon to open early for us, since they don't typically open until noon.

jrkjpf

We are having a sunday wedding 9/2/2012, which is the sunday of Labor Day weekend. Only advice is I would make sure your "reception" doesn't last too late since most people will have work in the morning.

scottswife1106

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[QUOTE]Hello- So my Fi and I have decided on a summer theme wedding. We would like to have the ceremony and reception at a park. Very casual low key DIY kind of wedding. We are very laid back people that just like to have a good time. We were looking at the date 10.01.11, but his cousin just got married 10.01.10. So I was thinking what about a Sunday wedding? Or should I just do the Saturday before which is 09.24.11 since it is a summer theme wedding and our family & friends know how to have a party. We just want a big party/celebration kind of thing. Any thoughts or ideas? Thanks!  
Posted by futrmrsbevs[/QUOTE]

I almost had a Sunday wedding but didn't because Saturday was available. The only thing you would need to consider is the time so that those who have to travel or go to work the next day aren't out too late.
I would think that the date is fine. Is the cousin in the wedding? Do you think the cousin would mind spending some of his/her wedding anniversary with you guys.

I am also curious as to how you're having a wedding with a summer theme in the fall or is it no big deal to you? I know that you are in Baltimore, but in Chicago the leaves are turning at that point.

peanutty2

I don't think there's anything wrong with using the same date as someone already married.

I think a Sunday is fine, I would just plan to end it earlier.  It might be a good idea anyway since your having an outside wedding in the baltimore area in october.  We're having ours the weekend before on a Sunday (9/25) and we didn't want to end it past 8pm in case we got a cooler day.  Also it just makes it easier on your guests who may not want to/be able to take off Monday.

TurtlesAllTheWayDown

I had a Sunday wedding. Also, nearly all Jewish weddings are on a Sunday. It's fine. If you're doing an afternoon/BBQ type of party, even better.

jessicabessica

My FI and I are having a Sunday summer wedding.  We are having a Jewish wedding, and you are not supposed to get married during the sabbath.  Because sundown is so late in the summer, it makes Saturday nights hard.  I think it's nice to end a little early to give people travel time instead of having a night wedding (we're starting at 1pm, although we ended up on a holiday weekend anyway). 

I wanted to echo what opal said--we're not getting any discounts by having a Sunday wedding, although we did look at one venue that had a lower minimum for Sundays.  I also had trouble finding a salon to open early for me (some places aren't even open on Sundays at all), and I'm going to pay a little more because of it. 

futrmrsbevs

The cousin is in the wedding and I dont want to cause any issues. I know it is my day now, but in a year when it is my 1st wedding anniversary I wouldn't like it if I or my then husband would be swamped by wedding day festivities for someone else. We do have a handful of OOT guest since my Fi lived most of his live in Florida. Either way I am thinking a late afternoon/early evening wedding weither it is on Saturday or Sunday since the park does close at dusk. But the OOT guest's dont play a big role in my decision because the way I look at it if they mean that much and we mean that much they will be there no matter what. We are thinking BBQ/picnic style!

jessicabessica

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[QUOTE]The cousin is in the wedding and I dont want to cause any issues. I know it is my day now, but in a year when it is my 1st wedding anniversary I wouldn't like it if I or my then husband would be swamped by wedding day festivities for someone else. We do have a handful of OOT guest since my Fi lived most of his live in Florida. Either way I am thinking a late afternoon/early evening wedding weither it is on Saturday or Sunday since the park does close at dusk. <strong>But the OOT guest's dont play a big role in my decision because the way I look at it if they mean that much and we mean that much they will be there no matter what.</strong> We are thinking BBQ/picnic style!
Posted by futrmrsbevs[/QUOTE]

I would just ask your cousin.  If you're ok with changing your plans based on her feelings (whether they are rational or irrational), just find out if she has any strong feelings about it.  If you don't care which date it is, I could see that not having it on their first wedding anniversary could save you some needless drama.  Just because she's not entitled to be upset doesn't mean she won't be. 

As for the bolded statement, I don't think that's a great attitude to have.  I would try to make things as convnenient as possible for your guests, and then stop worrying about it and let adults be adults.  We were really concerned about picking a date and location that would be least inconvenient for our out of town guests (we have a lot), but some of them just can't take the time or can't afford it.  That doesn't mean we mean any less to them. 

kimberlygo

We're having a Sunday afternoon wedding (Jewish). I was really concerned about who would come vs. who would not come. One of my good friends is traveling from Texas and will have to stay over and fly out Monday. But she reminded me that anyone who wants to be there can usually make it happen. 

futrmrsbevs

In Baltimore the leaves don't start changing until the end of October early November now. Last year on Halloween it was like 72degrees. Weather here has started to get crazy.
I am not so much ok with it being a summer theme in October. I think of October and I think fall. So I am thinking I am going to do it the last full weekend of September. Now just the choice of Saturday the 24th or Sunday the 25th?

SEWF

We had a Sunday evening wedding, and it worked out really well. We had a few people (close family) ask why we had it on a Sunday instead of Saturday, but they understood when we told them how many thousands of dollars we saved.

To me, I'd rather go to a Sunday wedding and be off on Monday than a Saturday wedding and have to ask off for a Friday. Mondays at my job are much slower than Fridays, so it's actually easier to get Monday off than Friday. Our guests were happy asking for Monday off, because more people ask for Fridays off.

The point is to know your guests. Would they be happy missing a Monday instead of a Friday? You may have people leave early if they want to go to work the next day. Our wedding started at 5pm, and the party began winding down at about 9:30 because there was school the next day. But honestly, it was a perfect amount of time.

mica178

We had a Sunday wedding on a holiday weekend.  Not everyone had a holiday, and a lot of our guests were OOT, so it probably resulted in a lower turn out.

futrmrsbevs

I am not saying that my OOT guests dont matter in my decision, but they are not my main concern in making this decision. There are only like 20 quests that are OOT. With that amount compared to the amount of guests invited it doesn't pull a high concern. Also I think I would rather want the extra day off to relax then the day off to prepare if I was a guest. I am leaning more to a Sunday afternoon wedding around 1:30 or 2pm. wedding. You all have been so helpful and brought up many points I did not even think about. guess me and the Mr will be making a final choice this evening. Will let you all know what I decided. Thanks again!

reddy123

I had a Sunday wedding, just like Opal said I didn't get any discounts for it, but I had a great turn out and it gave me the whole weekend with the family that came in for the rehearsal dinner.

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[QUOTE]<font color="#800080"><strong>Why does it matter that his cousin got married on October 1 last year? He doesn't own that date forever.</strong></font> Sunday weddings are fine, but it does make it harder for some people to travel. I might not do this is a large portion of your guest list is from out of town.
Posted by annakb8[/QUOTE]

This exactly...

...so on your anniversaries...celebrate together!!!

S and CJ

futrmrsbevs

So we did some compromising....I wanted an all day thing since we are renting part of a park and we get it from dawn to dusk, doing the ceremony at like 2pm. He wanted a Saturday wedding. So we have decided on September 24 2011!
we are going this weekend to lock in the date with the park! excited!!!!