Monday night

mica178

Petal -- what help do you need?  I am local and alway open to proscrastination from my own responsibilities.

strlzfan11

Evening ladies!  I had a really long, tiring day at work so I am quite glad it's over.

wrigleyville

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[QUOTE]Mica, if I was delaying my parent's retirement I would *not* be okay with that.  I would feel incredibly guilty.
Posted by edielaura[/QUOTE]
Ditto.

ArynBaker

I feel guilty that my dad pays my rent now (FI pays the other half) and I'm still in school. I can't imagine how I'd feel if my dad was paying the full rent and I was older. 

PetalPockets2012

Mica I don't think I really need much help at moment. Eventually I will need to work on my origami flowers. Poke - Did you attach anything to the flowers like a leaf or something?

mica178

I don't think my sister is capable of considering other people, so I'm sure she thinks that all the money my father and grandmother give her come out of nowhere and aren't the result of someone's hard work or saving.

sparent2010

Wow Mica. I am at a loss for words.

PetalPockets2012

I'm sorry Mica.

ArynBaker

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[QUOTE]Your *grandmother* gives her money too?  I hope she has enough saved up for herself.
Posted by edielaura[/QUOTE]

<div>That was my thought too! </div>

strlzfan11

Edie are you still around?  What in the world is the construction between Grant Street and the Fort Pitt Bridge all about?

ZombieNates

How do people even get to that degree of irresponsibility? I mean, obviously Mica is normal (for a man in his basement :P). It's the same in so many families and I always wonder wtf happened with that one family member.

mica178

Oh, she does, Edie.  Grandma is sort of loaded, but she disproportionately gives money to my sister over me and my cousins.  She and my father have crippled my sister's ability to become an independent adult.

mica178

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[QUOTE]How do people even get to that degree of irresponsibility? I mean, obviously Mica is normal (<strong>for a man in his basement :P</strong>). It's the same in so many families and I always wonder wtf happened with that one family member.
Posted by ZombieNates[/QUOTE]

I snorted a little bit.  :P

wrigleyville

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[QUOTE]Oh, she does, Edie.  Grandma is sort of loaded, but she disproportionately gives money to my sister over me and my cousins.  She and my father have crippled my sister's ability to become an independent adult.
Posted by mica178[/QUOTE]
That reminds me of Eagles' quote earlier, about handicapping your children by coddling them.

mica178

Dr. Wrigley, what's your take on Nate's question? 

aleighk1

Aw MUNI. I'm glad you're still being positive about it.

ArynBaker

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Monday night : That reminds me of Eagles' quote earlier, about handicapping your children by coddling them.
Posted by wrigleyville[/QUOTE]

<div>I'm sometimes concerned my parents did/are doing this to my younger sister. She's 16 and still barely does anything for herself. What's worse is that she's graduating HS early so she'll go to college next year. </div><div>
</div><div>Edited because apparently I can't spell. </div>

strlzfan11

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Monday night : I have no idea. I go through there to get on the Boulevard of the Allies every night on my way home but I can't really get a good look at it.  As long as it doesn't make my commute longer, I don't care ;-) Glad to hear it Mica.  I hope I didn't come off too judgy.
Posted by edielaura[/QUOTE]

It didn't add on to my drive too much (maybe an extra 5 minutes or so), but it annoyed me because I had already been in the car for 3 hours at that point.

wrigleyville

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[QUOTE]Dr. Wrigley, what's your take on Nate's question? 
Posted by mica178[/QUOTE]
About adults being irresponsible and dependent upon others?<div>
</div><div>Common answers: helicopter parenting, a sense of entitlement (spoiled/lack of discipline as a child/teen), or parents feeling guilty/reluctant about cutting the apron strings. It could be one, two, or all three.</div><div>
</div><div>Those are the first three that come to mind, anyway. Every situation is different.</div>

ErinG93

Evening! H and I are still looking at houses. We have wildly different tastes. Ugh.

wrigleyville

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[QUOTE]Evening! H and I are still looking at houses. We have wildly different tastes. Ugh.
Posted by ErinG93[/QUOTE]
Still debating modern vs. historic?<div>
</div><div>I'm on Team Historic.</div>

ArynBaker

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[QUOTE]Evening! H and I are still looking at houses. We have wildly different tastes. Ugh.
Posted by ErinG93[/QUOTE]

<div>I bet that's frustrating! </div>

baystateapple

I'm sorry, Mica.  My mother has coddled my sister since she started college, first because of emotional problems, and then it escalated when she was diagnosed with epilepsy.  My mom and my sister are so codependent, it's really detrimental to both of them. 

Erin, still no compromise on the house hunting?

ErinG93

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Monday night : Still debating modern vs. historic? I'm on Team Historic.
Posted by wrigleyville[/QUOTE]<div>
</div><div>Yeah. Other debates going on as well, but that's the biggest one. I'm happy to see your ticker!</div><div>
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</div><div>ETA: My sig picture is all sorts of effed up. Crap. And...now it's fixed. WTF?

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strlzfan11

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[QUOTE]Strlz, I do know they're planning on doing some repaving but I thought they were doing it at night. Traffic sucks around here.
Posted by edielaura[/QUOTE]

It really does, especially when there's no bypass around the city to get to the airport.

PetalPockets2012

I see so much enabling at school, even at a young age. We have several parents who think their kids can do no wrong and it's always us against them, even when their kid admits they did something.

I also have seen a lot of coddling with kids who have had some type of illness or emotional issues like you mentioned Bay. It's like they try to make up for it by doing everything for them or not holding them accountable. It doesn't help in the end.

strlzfan11

I have a small confession to make.  I don't feel all that guilty about casually mentioning to my mom yesterday that it's been 6 years since she & my dad came to visit me.

aleighk1

If you bring a gift to a bridal shower, do you bring a gift to the wedding too?

ErinG93

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[QUOTE]I have a small confession to make.  I don't feel all that guilty about casually mentioning to my mom yesterday that it's been 6 years since she & my dad came to visit me.
Posted by strlzfan11[/QUOTE]<div>
</div><div>Strlz, I've been meaning to ask if you are married/engaged. That seems like a weird question to ask on TK, but I haven't seen you mention anything and I'm curious. Tell me to STFU if that's an idiotic question.

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PetalPockets2012

I do Aleigh. Usually I will give a gift card for the wedding.