Question about the Rehersal Dinner

Roxie2012

What is the etiquette for alcohol at a rehersal dinner? Do the same etiquette rules as a wedding reception apply?

laurenclaire1386

Yes. You throw the party, you provide the booze. That's any party.

achiduck

Properly hosting your guests means providing food and beverages no matter what the occasion is.

TurtlesAllTheWayDown

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[QUOTE]Yes. You throw the party, you provide the booze. That's any party.
Posted by laurenclaire1386[/QUOTE]


Seriously. You always pay for the alcohol if you have it. It's fine not to provide it, but if that's the case, don't offer it (choose a restaurant without alcohol, have a private room/menu without alcohol at a restaurant, host it at a private residence and provide non-alcoholic drinks).

Roxie2012

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Question about the Rehersal Dinner : Seriously. You always pay for the alcohol if you have it. It's fine not to provide it, but if that's the case, don't offer it (choose a restaurant without alcohol,<strong> have a private room/menu without alcohol at a resrataunt,</strong> host it at a private residence and provide non-alcoholic drinks).
Posted by msmerymac[/QUOTE]


 We can't afford to host a bar, but we were looking into a resturant where we would have a private room and choose the menu for guests to order from. If we dont offer alcohol on the menu, would that be ok?

Roxie2012

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Question about the Rehersal Dinner : Seriously. You always pay for the alcohol if you have it. It's fine not to provide it, but if that's the case, don't offer it (choose a restaurant without alcohol, <strong>have a private room/menu without alcohol at a restaurant</strong>, host it at a private residence and provide non-alcoholic drinks).
Posted by msmerymac[/QUOTE]


We cant afford to host a bar, but we were looking into a resturant where we can have a private room and choose the menu for guests to order from. If we dont include alcohol on the menu, would that be ok?

TiffannieF

DH and I don't drink alcohol (for many personal reasons including he is a recovering alcoholic) we did not provide alcohol at RD (FWIW our RD was at BIL/BMs house, not at a restaurant where alcohol is available). 

RaptorSLH

Yes, that's fine, just list the soft drinks you are hosting on the menu.  Alert the servers in advance, so they know what to say if anyone tries to order off menu.

salexion

As long as you host your guests properly, you do not need to do anything extravagant for your RD. You could have pizza and beer in your home, if you'd like. It's nice to be able to go all out for it, but there definitely is no need to if others options work better for your and your FI.

TurtlesAllTheWayDown

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Question about the Rehersal Dinner : We cant afford to host a bar, but we were looking into a resturant where we can have a private room and choose the menu for guests to order from. If we dont include alcohol on the menu, would that be ok?
Posted by Roxie2012[/QUOTE]


Yes. At my RD we had a menu made for us which listed the 3-4 dishes we had pre-chosen, which our guests could pick. They weren't able to choose anything that the restaurant offered, just the limited menu.

If you do something similar, you can have "choice of soda, lemonade or iced tea" written on the bottom, so they know those are their drink options.

Roxie2012

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Question about the Rehersal Dinner : Yes. At my RD we had a menu made for us which listed the 3-4 dishes we had pre-chosen, which our guests could pick. They weren't able to choose anything that the restaurant offered, just the limited menu. If you do something similar, you can have "choice of soda, lemonade or iced tea" written on the bottom, so they know those are their drink options.
Posted by msmerymac[/QUOTE]


I had a feeling that was ok, I just wanted to make sure. Thanks so much!