Too late to ask two more BMs?

linnyv27

We are getting married August 25th and I asked 4 of my closest friends to be bridesmaids back in December.

Since then, I have become very close to two other girls. One is the wife of FI's friend who is a groomsmen and the other the fianc of FI's brother who is the best man. I have always gotten along great with both of them and we clicked well, but within the last couple of months we have become closer and text/talk/FaceTime regularly.

Do you ladies think its too late to ask them now? We are a little over 5 months away and the BMs have not bought dresses yet but we have been looking and I'm letting each girl pick their own dress. The last thing I want to do is make them feel like second rate, but I would love to have them stand by me.

We are having two readings during the ceremony so I could also ask them to be readers, I would just prefer them as BMs.

TIA!

Edit: Sorry if there is no spacing I'm on mobile and the spacing isn't showing up for me.

aurianna

I think that is ok, assuming you aren't replacing anyone else (and assuming your FI does not add two more groomsmen just to make the sides even), especially since you're letting them pick out their own dress. And as long as it isn't a secret that you've already had other BMs for a while.

Will probably need someone else here to verify.

kipnus

Asking more people to be bridesmaids in order to have an even number of attendents = not ok. Asking more people to be bridesmaids because your relationships have developed and you really want them to share in your special day = totally ok!

If you're worried about them feeling second-rate because you've already asked your other BMs, just be honest and explain that you've really appreciated getting to know them better over these months, and you would be honoured to have them standing by your side.

linnyv27

It's not a secret that I've already asked the other girls, and our sides are uneven as it is because he has 7 groomsmen so we definitely don't care about that. Thanks for the input so far. I'll consider their reaction/personalities a little more. I'm having a shopping day with one of them today so I feel anxious because I want to ask her sooo bad.

s-aries8990

I'd just be honest and upfront, addressing that fact that it is so close and you have other BMs already.

Amyzen83

I think it sounds perfectly fine to ask them to join you, especially if they haven't missed any of the other fun BP festivities.

beardownbchs

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_too-late-to-ask-two-more-bms?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:6ab8c956-6f9d-4042-92c3-2ecfbc4fa092Post:a185b0c6-5055-4590-99f8-5a63603e5615">Re: Too late to ask two more BMs?</a>:
[QUOTE]Asking more people to be bridesmaids in order to have an even number of attendents = not ok. Asking more people to be bridesmaids because your relationships have developed and you really want them to share in your special day = totally ok! If you're worried about them feeling second-rate because you've already asked your other BMs, just be honest and explain that you've really appreciated getting to know them better over these months, and you would be honoured to have them standing by your side.
Posted by kipnus[/QUOTE]

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</div><div>This. Exactly. If your relationships have recently gotten much closer, I think it's fine to ask them now. </div>

Pookieson

It is fine to ask them if you have grown close. 

cbrown828

I think it's fine given your situation. If you are concerned about their reactions, you might say something like "We have gotten so close in the past few months and your friendship has become so important to me. I would be so honored if you would stand up with me on my wedding day." There is probably a better way to word it, but that's the best I could come up with. Be prepared that they may say no and choose to come as guests, in which case you can still enjoy their company just as much

linnyv27

Thanks everyone for your input. I ended up asking one in person today and it went over great! She was honored and became very excited that I felt we have become a lot closer as well. I'll be asking the other one over the phone tomorrow as she lives in another state.