*sigh* Black-Tie Optional

sucrets4

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[QUOTE]I agree sucrets...I hate that idea too, but maybe she needs a compromise haha.  If he's anything like my FI drop it and he may forget in a month or so ;-)
Posted by jnic0319[/QUOTE]

What about putting something like that on a website instead of on the invite?  Much less invasive that way, and lots of people won't see it or necessarily remember.

PsyDet 2155

1. Your kid is adorable.
2. I would let the invitation (which I assume with look formal) to give guests an idea of how dressed up they need to be.  That's usually a hint for people on the formaility of the event.

btrflykate1230

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[QUOTE]I think writing it would only make people worry about if they're wearing something appropriate and stress about it. <strong>It's a castle which is pretty freakin' cool.</strong>  Hopefully they'll get it.  If not, it's not a HUGE deal, unless the venue has a dress code.
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<div>Oh, it's beautiful. Here's some pics:</div><div>
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btrflykate1230

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_sigh-black-tie-optional?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:6ae0dac7-0c9f-453a-a231-4b75d06be349Post:4231b3f1-70e6-4121-8791-e003306d72d8">Re: *sigh* Black-Tie Optional</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: *sigh* Black-Tie Optional : What about putting something like that on a website instead of on the invite?  Much less invasive that way, and lots of people won't see it or necessarily remember.
Posted by sucrets4[/QUOTE]

<div>Ohh, the website is a good idea! Thanks!</div>

sucrets4

Purty!

btrflykate1230

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_sigh-black-tie-optional?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:6ae0dac7-0c9f-453a-a231-4b75d06be349Post:b60474bf-00d7-4704-bc24-a4c0b8832bbe">Re: *sigh* Black-Tie Optional</a>:
[QUOTE]1. Your kid is adorable. 2. I would let the invitation (which I assume with look formal) to give guests an idea of how dressed up they need to be.  That's usually a hint for people on the formaility of the event.
Posted by PsyDet 2155[/QUOTE]

<div>We have pocketfold invites, so I hope that gives people a good hint as to the formality of the event. </div><div>
Thanks! I think he's adorable too!</div>

jnic0319

I like the website idea, I vote yes on that.  You are a smart one sucrets!!!!

tenofcups4me

OP, all the men in suits really isn't what black-tie optional is.

It's pretty much just as AC described it above: if you have a tux and want to wear it or feel like renting one, great; same with a gown. But you won't be under-dressed if you wear a dark suit or cocktail dress.

That's pretty much the norm in my crowd and to echo AC again, no matter how formal the site, invitation, etc., in my crowd it would be considered bad taste to wear a tux if black tie or black tie optional are not indicated on the invitation.

I don't know how new the convention is -- I've been attending black tie optional affairs for at least 20 years so it's certainly not brand-new, but I don't know if it was around long before that or not.

JessAndTrav

I didn't read all of the responses, but IMO, the venue and time of the reception usually indicate to me what kind of event it's going to be and what I need to wear.

If I saw that your reception was going to be in the evening at a castle, I assure you that I would dress nicely.

If I saw that your reception was going to be at 2pm at the VFW hall, I'd probably just wear a sundress.

AlexiaANDRobert

And even if you do put all that information on the website or the invitation, just don't be surprised if people still don't dress appropriately.

I've been to weddings and seen people in jeans and camo capri pants.

At our wedding, one couple was in khakis and a polo and a blouse.  Yeah, the woman was in khakis and a blouse.

I think it's one of those situations where if you expect it and don't see it, YAY, but if you expect it and see it then you're not too shocked.

janedoe1113a

Yea, sadly even if you put something about it, all the guets aren't going to follow it.  I would just mention it on your wedding website.