God I hope not. Because I flame aegrish to the moon and back. Every thing she has ever said on here is basically "no, everyone else on E is wrong, you do it your special way." She just said in the "legal marriage then ceremony" thread that no one has to know the ceremony is not the couple's actually wedding if the ceremony is what the couple cares about. I mean seriously, are you TRYING to be obtuse, or have you just not learned anything from the multiple posts about this in the past few days?