Thank you note anxiety

That Gal

Hey all,

I got married almost 2 months ago. I haven't started writing thank yous but I have them in my possession.  I am going to start them tonight probably.  I am worried because I wasn't sure if people would think that I waited too long to send them.  Especially since my MIL said that her friends were "not happy where they were seated" and that I didn't get to spend enough time with my 200 guests.  I don't want anyone to feel like I'm taking too long or something- especially those who I didn't interact with much.  I know its just stupid anxiety, but how long have you girls taken to send out thank yous?

Thanks

That Gal

Thanks! That makes me feel better, as obvious as it might be lol.

Beachy730

We had 195 at our wedding and I had them all mailed out at the one month mark.  

Not gonna lie, if your MIL's friends bitched about where they were seated and how much they talked to you, then I can pretty much guarantee they are already talking crap that they haven't gotten a TY yet.  Etiquette says they should be out by 2 months, 3 max.  Get started on them.

aleighk1

Well if it's 200 guests, I'm assuming some of those people went together on a present (families, etc) so you probably don't have 200 to do. But like PPs said do as many as possible in a day (make your H write some!) and get them out asap.

That Gal

Thanks ladies.  Definitely going to try to get them out of the way now and not wait any longer.

ceh789

You know that this is your husband's job too, right?  Try not to get all stressed out about things like this but just set a target for your BOTH to write X number each day. 

That Gal

Ok, thanks!

Kate61487

We also gave ourselves a one month deadline.  H and I split them 50/50 and mailed them all on our 1 month anniversary.  We had just under 300 guests, and didn't have our physcial TY notes (we did photo ones) until 2.5 weeks after, so you can definitely get them done quickly.

I'll agree with PP that your mom's friends are probably already talking about it - just get them done ASAP.  3 months is still acceptable but if you wait much longer more than just your mom's friends will be talking.

That Gal

To be honest, I am doing them alone because my husband struggles with writing and spelling and it takes him a long time. I don't mind doing it at all, I just didn't want anyone thinking they weren't going to receive something.