knot v wedding wire XXP

alliewallie

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[QUOTE]I posted there a little bit when I first got engaged, but I am overwhelmingly more comfortable here. Here, there's a bit of hazing but if you generally don't do rude things to your wedding guests, are funny and helpful in other people's posts, and listen to the good advice people give you, you will do well here.<strong> If all you want is for people to tell you that you're great and accept you no matter what your ideas are, then go over there.</strong>
Posted by sarah0725[/QUOTE]

I deffinatly dont need that lol i just need advice and kind words are ok too...but more i need just planning advice and like "online family" to help and support. Being engaged is exciting..but its making me miss firends and family

alliewallie

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[QUOTE]You should know too that many girls on this board, and throughout other boards, get together in person and have made great friendships.  I don't know if that exists on WW, but people here truly care about each other.<strong> I also can't stand the lack of grammar and the overuse of text-speak and LOLs, etc. on WW.  </strong>They make no effort to appear intelligent or sophisticated.
Posted by kate51485[/QUOTE]

I have a problem with that, i am a fast typer and sometimes dont look back at my messages. I noticed that there is auto no spell check on this site...so sometimes i may slip :)

alliewallie

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: knot v wedding wire XXP : You do not have to spend a lot of money to be polite :) And we talk about a lot of stuff here, definitely not wedding only topics.
Posted by kate51485[/QUOTE]

Thats good to know :) i was going to ask if i could post non wedding stuff, i noticed other silly posts...but was not sure if those were frowned upon

kate51485

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: knot v wedding wire XXP : I deffinatly dont need that lol i just need advice and kind words are ok too...but more i need just planning advice and like "online family" to help and support. Being engaged is exciting..but its making me miss firends and family
Posted by alliewallie[/QUOTE]

Lots of girls here are far from friends and family, and this little community really helps.  We give each other advice on all aspects of life, and it is so helpful to have objectivity.  When you can't think about something anymore, someone here has a new idea you haven't thought of.  On WW, all they do is agree with each other about everything, even when it's a terrible idea. 

mocha beans

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: knot v wedding wire XXP : Like hateful or construtive honesty? I just see that certain posts get really hateful responses
Posted by alliewallie[/QUOTE]

Depends on how you view it.  Those that come here looking for validation for their bad ideas and don't recieve it, tend to view it as hateful.  We give lots of good ideas and constructive criticism.  If you take it as such, you'll be fine.

laurenclaire1386

The thing is, the etiquette board may bash an idea you  have and tell you it's terrible. But I can promise you that no poster just arbitrarily decides to pick on someone with a question. If you get sarcastic answers, they can always be backed up by real, solid opinions and reasoning. You can't have a thin skin.

ETA: there is a spellcheck button at the bottom of the reply box. The little ABC icon with the checkmark.

alliewallie

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[QUOTE]Er, I wouldn't call it a website war. That's pretty extreme.
Posted by ggmae[/QUOTE]


Oh, I had seen it referred to that on WW

alliewallie

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: knot v wedding wire XXP : <strong>Having an *emily post* wedding doesn't mean you have to drop big bucks.</strong>  It just means that you are courteous and considerate of your guests.  You make them comfortable, whatever your budget.  If that means only being able to host beer and wine instead of a full premium open bar, then so be it. We can help you with ideas, but in the end you have to make your own decisions.  We can't decide for you.
Posted by mocha beans[/QUOTE]

For example, are wedding favors a must? and things of that nature

nda_roxybabe

There is definitely a great online community here. As a previous poster said, a lot of the girls here get together in real life and are actually friends. We support eachother through wedding and non wedding related issues. You can definitely post non wedding related stuff here, its fun.

RachNRich

Part of me wants to just sit back.....sit back and wait for this person to unfold as Evit did.

squirrly

There's not a real board war.  Occasionally people like to post snotty things and try to stir up trouble, but it's more amusing than anything.

Some people DO get hateful responses here.  However, I've seen just as many hateful comments from WW posters both on their boards and here - and their hateful comments are usually directed at people's appearances, dress sizes, etc.  Over here, there are a lot of very BLUNT responses that are unfortunately characterized as hateful by newbs who don't have a feel for the site. 

We don't sugar coat.  If you're asking how to do something that would really offend us as a guest at your wedding, we're going to tell you.  We figure it's better that you hear it from us than hear your Aunt Mildred talking about you behind your back as you return to your shower from the ladies room.

Ultimately, the belief here is that although your wedding is hopefully a once-in-a-lifetime awesome occasion - you still have an obligation to be a charming, grateful hostess & provide an awesome day for your guests as well.  If your reasoning for an idea is "well, it's MY day" you're going to get some harsh responses.  We've discovered that harsh/blunt from us has more impact on a poster than does the WW approach.

SarahPLiz

I think its a onesided war. I don't have any problem with the site, I just think that TK fits my needs and personality best. I think most of the other posters here feel the same way. SOmeone who was engaged to the WW creator, or somehting like that, came onto TK and posted here just to bash us. It was so ridiculous and unprovoked, and just put a bad taste in my mouth about WW, but I wouldn't tell you not to go there based on one person's actions. That's just unneccessary drama in my mind.

nda_roxybabe

No, wedding favors are not a must. I will tell you though, for the most part a cash bar is frowned upon here. Just lurk and you will see several posts pop up on that issue.

laurenclaire1386

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[QUOTE]Part of me wants to just sit back.....sit back and wait for this person to unfold as Evit did.
Posted by RachNRich[/QUOTE]

Rach, I thought about that after I posted a third real response to this question. But whatever, I have nothing better to do with my Saturday afternoon than tell someone why WW is goofy and we're not.

SarahPLiz

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: knot v wedding wire XXP : For example, are wedding favors a must? and things of that nature
Posted by alliewallie[/QUOTE]

Favors are not a must. Being a gracious host is a must. Providing appropriate and adequate food and drink and not asking your guests for money are good guidelines that can be accomplished on any budget.

squirrly

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: knot v wedding wire XXP : For example, are wedding favors a must? and things of that nature
Posted by alliewallie[/QUOTE]

Nope, favors are NOT required.  Most people here will tell you to have edible ones or skip them entirely, as a personalized photo frame means nothing to your guests and will be money wasted.

ggmae

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[QUOTE]Part of me wants to just sit back.....sit back and wait for this person to unfold as Evit did.
Posted by RachNRich[/QUOTE]

I was thinking this as well about a page ago.

kate51485

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: knot v wedding wire XXP : For example, are wedding favors a must? and things of that nature
Posted by alliewallie[/QUOTE]

Favors are not a must.  Check out the DIY board and the Budget board for lots of ideas.  That's what is great about TK, a lot more variety vs. the ONE single board on WW.

Morfudd

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: knot v wedding wire XXP : What exactly do you mean, the fact is i am having a budget wedding, so i cant afford to be completely have an emily post wedding lol.[/QUOTE]

Money =/= class.

Besides, a classic "Emily Post" wedding would be *way* cheaper than most, because it's from an earlier era. Have it in the AM... brunch reception... plain invitations (the most formal would be hand-written...

Etiquette does not require ice sculptures (for example). It requires caring for the comfort and enjoyment of your guests.

ExpatPumpkin

Here's the WW post:

http://www.weddingwire.com/wedding-forums/the-knot-weddingwire/56e3a1360fa0ac77.html

I posted a response as Alicia W. and they really hate me now

tlv204

Nope, wedding favors are not a must.

That's my favorite part of this board, is getting advice from dozens and dozens of objective opinions about stuff like that.  The girls here are really helpful with what areas are ok to skimp on (and even should be skimped on, some wedding stuff is just unnecessary), and which areas are the most important parts of being a good hostess. 

Being on a budget is not a problem at all, loads of girls here are planning and paying for their own weddings and therefore need to make decisions about what is important to spend money on and what can be left out.

I wouldn't call it a site war either. I've only posted on WW a few times, and it's not that the girls aren't nice, it's just that they don't really give advice in my opinion.  Whereas here (specifically on the etiquette board), if you actually want to know whether something you're thinking about doing is rude or not, we'll tell you. AND give lots of alternative ideas to solve your problems.

And we generally welcome non wedding related posts with open arms The sense of community here is awesome.

And don't worry too much about the spelling and grammar.  Typing fast isn't an issue, it's just that what you write is the only way of communication we have, so if you have no idea how to use the English language at all, people tend to judge.  So far I think you can speak/write/type the language

mocha beans

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: knot v wedding wire XXP : For example, are wedding favors a must? and things of that nature
Posted by alliewallie[/QUOTE]

No, wedding favors are not necessary if you don't have the budget for it.  You should prioritize food and drinks for the guests, and good entertainment.  Other stuff can come second, and be cut as necessary, like favors and flowers.

RachNRich

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: knot v wedding wire XXP : I was thinking this as well about a page ago.
Posted by ggmae[/QUOTE]

It's all a bit much for me....too over zealous.

tlv204

I also agree that one of my favorite things about the knot is the multiple boards.  Even if you decide that the etiquette board is "mean," which I don't think we are, we just give people etiquette advice which is why the board is here, there are loads of other boards just for budget weddings, invitations, reception ideas, wedding party issues, etc. 

I haven't used the planning tools on WW, so I don't know about that, but I've found the knot's checklist very helpful.

And I also agree that you should continue to use both.  Even if you decide you prefer one over the other there's no reason that you cant' post on only one forum.

alliewallie

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[QUOTE]Part of me wants to just sit back.....sit back and wait for this person to unfold as Evit did.
Posted by RachNRich[/QUOTE]

What does that mean? sorry i am not a big message board user

SarahPLiz

OP, given the recent drama created here by a WW member, I think the fact that you were not immediately called a troll, and were given honest and candid responses to your question, proves that TK is not as nasty a place as some others may make it out to be.

I appreciate all the candid, honest,. and even sarcastic advice I have received here, even when it was something I didn't want to hear.

AmoroAgain

This whole WW thing is so completely overblown as to be stupid.  In all honesty, if people from WW would stop coming over here to tweak at people, it wouldn't even be a blip.  I mean, I have a lot of time on my hands and all, but not THAT damn much.

OP, I'm with Rach on this, but I will say I've had my ups and downs here (we all have) but I found everything I needed to put together a seriously budget, beautiful, wedding.  By budget, I'm talking under $5k. 

mocha beans

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: knot v wedding wire XXP : What does that mean? sorry i am not a big message board user
Posted by alliewallie[/QUOTE]

We've been duped by one WW poster a few days ago, so we're skeptical.

alliewallie

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: knot v wedding wire XXP : It's all a bit much for me....too over zealous.
Posted by RachNRich[/QUOTE]

Are we having mutiple conversations..i think i missed something? I am also posting on weddingwire Allison m. you can look if you want?

laurenclaire1386

What does that mean? sorry i am not a big message board user
I'm getting skeptical about that statement. You knew to title your post with XXP, which means cross cross post. I didn't know what that meant until about a week ago, and I've been here since September. Just sayin'.