knot v wedding wire XXP

laurenclaire1386

Uh, no. I wouldn't be freaked out. I'm very well aware of what info of mine is on the web and who has access to it. That's the way the internet works. Everyone's got access to google and you can't really hide from much.

RachNRich

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_knot-v-wedding-wire-xxp?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:7380cf0d-e3d2-4534-b7cf-261157d0a52dPost:4a07eb45-bb63-423a-8629-69441fa0fa9f">Re: knot v wedding wire XXP</a>:

First you said:[QUOTE]I wanted to ask them myself, sometimes questions are answered based on the poster and your history with them.
Posted by alliewallie[/QUOTE]
(indicating you just wanted to ask the questions again, for yourself--but that you knew the basic response)

And then you backtracked to say that the answers never existed when you searched:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: knot v wedding wire XXP : I just breifly searched and found no answers to my questions or even similar ones.
Posted by alliewallie[/QUOTE]

So, which is it?

We are pleasant people--but there is no need to waste your time, or ours---which has been oddly happening a lot the last few days.

alliewallie

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_knot-v-wedding-wire-xxp?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:7380cf0d-e3d2-4534-b7cf-261157d0a52dPost:57c9c0ba-a3ff-4910-ac68-850a3ab0634f">Re: knot v wedding wire XXP</a>:
[QUOTE]If you already hate how mean we are just from lurking, why bother?
Posted by tlv204[/QUOTE]
 

The fact is it sounds like WW will not tell it to you straight and the knot does

BUT

The knot will give you honest answers and will have your best interest at heart, but can come off as if they are giving you a cross examination


This matters to me because i REALLY do not want to have to use both boards, i would like to find one and stick to it. That is why i am asking so many questions. I am single handedly planning a wedding/reception for 200 people. I need honest advice, but i don't want to be chewed out

alliewallie

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_knot-v-wedding-wire-xxp?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:7380cf0d-e3d2-4534-b7cf-261157d0a52dPost:807fe7f6-e829-494c-925e-cc73fca26e80">Re: knot v wedding wire XXP</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: knot v wedding wire XXP : First you said: (indicating you just wanted to ask the questions again, for yourself--but that you knew the basic response) And then you backtracked to say that the answers never existed when you searched: So, which is it? We are pleasant people--but there is no need to waste your time, or ours---which has been oddly happening a lot the last few days.
Posted by RachNRich[/QUOTE]


I searched for the answers to my questions and found none that were the same or similar. The <span style="font-style:italic;">very few</span> i did looked to be answered with extreme hostility because you all did not like the poster.

AmoroAgain

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_knot-v-wedding-wire-xxp?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:7380cf0d-e3d2-4534-b7cf-261157d0a52dPost:7daa1559-a04f-49f6-b3ff-43ab2dfe9012">Re: knot v wedding wire XXP</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: knot v wedding wire XXP :   The fact is it sounds like WW will not tell it to you straight and the knot does BUT The knot will give you honest answers and will have your best interest at heart, but can come off as if they are giving you a cross examination This matters to me because i REALLY do not want to have to use both boards, i would like to find one and stick to it. That is why i am asking so many questions. I am single handedly planning a wedding/reception for 200 people. I need honest advice, but i don't want to be chewed out
Posted by alliewallie[/QUOTE]

Allie, I single handedly planned a wedding and reception from Italy to be held in Michigan.  It's not as hard as it seems.  Honest.

mocha beans

I would honestly just lurk and post on both forums and decide after a little while.  That's what I did.  I used to post on brides.com forum and here, but after a few weeks decided that I liked the feel of TK better.

alliewallie

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_knot-v-wedding-wire-xxp?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:7380cf0d-e3d2-4534-b7cf-261157d0a52dPost:be87e7ff-2fa2-4a32-bc5c-fe4804e3bafc">Re: knot v wedding wire XXP</a>:
[QUOTE]Uh, no. I wouldn't be freaked out. I'm very well aware of what info of mine is on the web and who has access to it. That's the way the internet works. Everyone's got access to google and you can't really hide from much.
Posted by laurenclaire1386[/QUOTE]


I am not on trial and i am not some kind of "cyber criminal" that needs to be outed and thats what some of your posts are coming off as. I may be hyper sensitive, but i am one of those weirdos that believe that people are good until proven otherwise and i feel that this board feels that nw people are to not be trusted until proven that they can be trusted

tlv204

Well, I'm just going to say that clearly we're the best, because the vast majority of these posters are funny, helpful, honest, supportive, friendly, real, and they often make my day better.  I'm a substitute teacher, and when I'm not working and my husband is, it can get lonely. I always enjoy chatting with these women, and even though I'm already married, I could not have done it without this board. And I like to think that now that I've gone through everything and come out alive and happy, that I can help others and give suggestions on how to be a good hostess, even if it means recognizing that I made a few mistakes as a hostess myself.

And I'll leave it at that.

Kniblet

allie:  I am not an Etiquette regular.  I have posted on this board maybe 5 times, and 4 were last night.  BUT I have lurked here for almost a year.  I have learned from reading the posts how this board runs.  What you and some others take as "mean", I take as honest.  They don't blow sunshine up your....rear end.  And no one should.  How will that help you, ever?

If you ask about hosting your own shower, having a reception that guests must PAY to attend, treating your bridal party like slaves, etc... then yes, you will get some brutal answers, all saying NOT to do any of those things.  But the reason is simple:  You don't DO those things.  You dont' treat your guests that way, nor your bridal party.  And the women here are not going to censor their thoughts to make you or anyone else feel better.

If you are already speaking poorly of this board on other sites, then I think you have made up your mind.  Maybe it's not the right board for you. Calling the women here "nuts" is not going to make your posting run smoothly.  Insulting people by calling them nuts?  Not a good move.

Did you at all consider trying your local board?  Or your club board?  There are over 150 boards on TK. Surely, one of those will be a better fit?  When you signed up for TK, did you read anything first?  About how each board has its own personality?  Because they do.  Some are filled with puppies and rainbows and some are gritty and honest.  You need to figure out which is more your style.

Wow... that response was not as long in my head.
Sorry for the novel, ladies.

alliewallie

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_knot-v-wedding-wire-xxp?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:7380cf0d-e3d2-4534-b7cf-261157d0a52dPost:89961459-2962-49ea-9edc-9d0835ccbc31">Re: knot v wedding wire XXP</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: knot v wedding wire XXP : Allie, I single handedly planned a wedding and reception from Italy to be held in Michigan.  It's not as hard as it seems.  Honest.
Posted by AmoroAgain[/QUOTE]


That may be, but i have been out of the states for 1 month and have not seen my fiance in 14 days and will not see him again until shortly before the wedding. Its hard when you are out of your element and you are very stressed out.

playtntsbpg30

I've been here since Nov ... Lurked for a while before that and I have never saw anything about XXP---and didn't even know what you ment by that. I think you're trying to start yet again between TK and WW...

mocha beans

I'm planning a Hawaii wedding from MN.  No one lives there, or has ever been there.  The local Hawaii board has been invaluable for giving reviews and advice from real internet brides.  That's one of the main draws TK had for me, local specific boards.

Planning a wedding singlehandedly isn't as daunting as it first seems.  Put together a budget and a rough guest list, then ask about vendor reviews and it'll all start to come together.

RachNRich

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_knot-v-wedding-wire-xxp?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:7380cf0d-e3d2-4534-b7cf-261157d0a52dPost:7daa1559-a04f-49f6-b3ff-43ab2dfe9012">Re: knot v wedding wire XXP</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: knot v wedding wire XXP :   The fact is it sounds like WW will not tell it to you straight and the knot does BUT The knot will give you honest answers and will have your best interest at heart, but can come off as if they are giving you a cross examination This matters to me because i REALLY do not want to have to use both boards, i would like to find one and stick to it. That is why i am asking so many questions. I am single handedly planning a wedding/reception for 200 people. I need honest advice, but i don't want to be chewed out
Posted by alliewallie[/QUOTE]

I'm sorry, but to start out on ANY forum by calling out disagreements with other forums---and posting on both simultaneously? What did you expect? Puppies and rainbows?

Like I said, you'll make your decisions for yourself as to which place you like best. There is nothing wrong with using the resources from two different places---I have a feeling you've gone to two different grocery stores before if one didn't have something you needed.

And no one said you weren't "real"---because you are indeed real; there is someone behind your computer screen typing---it's your intentions that I question.

laurenclaire1386

If you hang around a little longer, you'll understand why I feel this way. Don't be whiney. No one said you were a cyber criminal except you.

tlv204

I'm sorry you feel like you're on trial, but the fact is that a poster from weddingwire said a lot of mean things about a lot of wonderful people here just a few days ago.  It is not a reflection on you if in fact you want to give this board/other knot boards a fair shot, it's just that people are cautious since the last 5 posts that had anything to do with weddingwire ended up in name calling.  And not from us, actually, despite what they may say about how mean we are.

And now I'm a big giant hypocrite since I said the comparison was stupid and I would "leave it at that." Oh well. I'm not a concise person.

[Deleted User]

Good grief. I didn't read most of this, but OP, it's obvious that you are just trying to start stupid crap. This is ridiculous. If you really thought we were that biitchy from lurking, then I think you have the answer you are looking for. You're not on trial. You are just being called out for creating this pointless post.

JanoBean75

Wow. I've never heard of "XXP" before and I've been on various message boards for years.

If you have questions, ask. Like PPs before me said, no one is going to sugarcoat anything here. If what you want to do is considered bad etiquette (e.g., honeymoon registries, throwing your own shower, money trees, etc.) we're going to say NOT to do it.

alliewallie

the XXP debate: if you look on around page 7 you will see a post called "my first did not go so hot" seeing as the questions i asked naturally THAT would catch my attention! on the 2 page you will see a post about XP being your friend and TA DA i figured it out. Knowledge is power