Bridal Shower

Twinkle5086

Heres a question who is supposed to throw the bridal shower. I wanted to plan my own and got yelled at. HELP....

[Deleted User]

The bride is not supposed to plan her own shower. Anyone can throw a shower in your honor. Typically, it is either the bridesmaid's, your Mom, FMIL or any aunts or friends.

TurtlesAllTheWayDown

It's a party given in your honor, so it's in poor etiquette to throw your own. You wait and if someone offers to host it, they plan it. They may ask for input, they may not. They will likely ask for a guest list, since you know who is invited to the wedding.

hlq2011

Whoever wants to throw you a shower can do so; you don't throw your own, and you don't ask anyone else to.  If they wish to, they will offer.

waltzingmatilda13

You shouldn't throw your own because then you are basically asking people to bring you gifts. That's rude. 

Anyone else can host. Hopefully you were yelled at because someone else is already planning something, so I wouldn't worry too much about it. 

Brandiewine11

If someone wants to host, they will offer. Usually the bridesmaids, FMIL, aunt, etc. No one is "supposed to."  You can't plan your own or ask someone to do it. If no one offers, then you don't have one.

Twinkle5086

The problem is I have too many people offering to host and not talking to eachother. So I offered to take the planning off their hands since they arent communicating. 

TurtlesAllTheWayDown

Well if someone says they will throw it, when someone else mentions doing one tell them, "You know, Jane mentioned she was planning something, why don't you talk to her?"

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[QUOTE]The problem is I have too many people offering to host and not talking to eachother. So I offered to take the planning off their hands since they arent communicating. 
Posted by Twinkle5086[/QUOTE]

You can always decline showers. I would just give them all each others contact information so they can decide and go from there. Maybe a few of them could get together and host a joint shower for you. Multiple people hosted my shower.

Meg1036

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[QUOTE]The problem is I have too many people offering to host and not talking to eachother. So I offered to take the planning off their hands since they arent communicating. 
Posted by Twinkle5086[/QUOTE]

In this case, you have them exchange emails and work it out.

Or you decline all the hosting offers except one or two, just explaining that you appreciate the offer, but you really only want 1 (or 2) showers.  Tell them that Jane (or whoever) is hosting and they can contact Jane if they want to help.

Planning your own shower is not the answer.  If so many people want to host, something will work out and come through, but it isn't your place to take care of it.

LoveMuffins

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Bridal Shower : In this case, you have them exchange emails and work it out. Or you decline all the hosting offers except one or two, just explaining that you appreciate the offer, but you really only want 1 (or 2) showers.  Tell them that Jane (or whoever) is hosting and they can contact Jane if they want to help. Planning Posted by Meg1036[/QUOTE]

This exactly

My BMs and my Aunt all wanted to plan my shower, and I didn't want anyone's feelings hurt so I told my Aunt that i knew my BMs wanted to be involved nad told my BMs that my aunt wanted to be involved, and gave my aunt and my MOH each other's contact info. As things go along, it looks like my Aunt has taken the lead on shower stuff and the BMs are assisting, which is just fine, and i didn't have to get involved at all.

TiffannieF

I have 3 people offering to throw mine, since they need me for the guest list I've decided to divide into 3 sections: older friends/in laws (since my FMIL is throwing it), my family (my cousin is throwing it), and then one for coworkers and college friends (my friend/college friend wants to throw one too).

Maybe you can start thinking of it like that...

And at least people are fighting over it