I don't get married often, but when I do, I do it in Las Vegas.
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"smokeybailey is the one shining beacon of light in this steaming turd of a thread." - daffodil_jill
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In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_dont-feel-like-searching-through-posts?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:78047651-3331-4362-a533-5f261620da52Post:e2c8c5e0-5bc2-4361-981b-52cffce0a756">Re: I dont feel like searching through the posts</a>: [QUOTE]In Response to Re: I dont feel like searching through the posts : <strong>But, look bad to whom? Presumably, the only people who would know that she didn't give a gift would be the bride and groom. If they thought anything less of their friend/family member because they didn't give a gift, then that's on them. </strong> We had 80 people at our wedding. Maybe 20 people gave us gifts. We were grateful for the gifts that we did get, but never thought anything less of those that didn't give us a gift. We were just happy that they chose to come and celebrate our marriage. Posted by tidetravel[/QUOTE]
I agree. No one would really know that she did not arrive with a gift.
Usually, I like to give bigger/more expensive shower gifts, then give picture frames or similarly SMALL packaged & priced gift or even GCs to the wedding (<--- gift/amount spent depends on how well I know the couple.) That way, they only have lug home a pic frame instead of a big gift.
In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_dont-feel-like-searching-through-posts?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:78047651-3331-4362-a533-5f261620da52Post:6c9f92c8-f79b-4500-a68c-1a9b5c14ef27">Re: I dont feel like searching through the posts</a>: [QUOTE]Maybe it's a regional thing, but I was taught that you give a gift at the shower and then money at the wedding. If they have no shower, you just give money. Even if someone it registered, I'd give cash at the wedding. Posted by Goldlie11[/QUOTE]
Yeah, this is pretty much the norm where i'm from as well- although i'm probably just a short drive from you lol.
If there is no money for a gift, then at least give a card. I have one wedding and two baby showers, one i'm helping to plan, and although i'm planning my own wedding, I'll be attending all events with gifts. I'd feel selfish not giving a gift for someone's event, just because i'm planning for my own wedding.
In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_dont-feel-like-searching-through-posts?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:78047651-3331-4362-a533-5f261620da52Post:f7b6041e-c0fc-416b-983b-bd7b3888183c">Re: I dont feel like searching through the posts</a>: [QUOTE]I do feel like there was some poor planning on the OP's part, but I agree with Tide. If someone had to choose between coming to my wedding empty handed, or not coming at all because they were afraid of being shunned because they couldn't afford a gift, I'd much prefer for them to come empty handed. But perhaps that's just me. Posted by J&K10910[/QUOTE]
I'm a little late jumping in, but I think if you can't afford a gift, at least show up with a a really thoughtful card wishing your very best to the couple. I'm sure they would appreciate a really thoughtful card more than another material present in some ways. But I think guests should make an attempt to bring something, even if it's $20 worth bucks, even though it's not required.
I am not having a shower nor am I registering and I dont expect anyone to bring me a gift. The people invited to my day are very important to me and them being there is more important then a gift so I would rather them there then them not show up cuz they are broke. J&k and GJones have it right be there and at least get a card.
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Re: I dont feel like searching through the posts
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I don't get married often, but when I do, I do it in Las Vegas.
"Lvharpy could be your AE." - direy25
"smokeybailey is the one shining beacon of light in this steaming turd of a thread." - daffodil_jill
"The almighty smokeybailey has spoken." - some bitch on the Las Vegas board
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: I dont feel like searching through the posts : <strong>But, look bad to whom? Presumably, the only people who would know that she didn't give a gift would be the bride and groom. If they thought anything less of their friend/family member because they didn't give a gift, then that's on them. </strong> We had 80 people at our wedding. Maybe 20 people gave us gifts. We were grateful for the gifts that we did get, but never thought anything less of those that didn't give us a gift. We were just happy that they chose to come and celebrate our marriage.
Posted by tidetravel[/QUOTE]
I agree. No one would really know that she did not arrive with a gift.
Usually, I like to give bigger/more expensive shower gifts, then give picture frames or similarly SMALL packaged & priced gift or even GCs to the wedding (<--- gift/amount spent depends on how well I know the couple.) That way, they only have lug home a pic frame instead of a big gift.
[QUOTE]Maybe it's a regional thing, but I was taught that you give a gift at the shower and then money at the wedding. If they have no shower, you just give money. Even if someone it registered, I'd give cash at the wedding.
Posted by Goldlie11[/QUOTE]
Yeah, this is pretty much the norm where i'm from as well- although i'm probably just a short drive from you lol.
If there is no money for a gift, then at least give a card. I have one wedding and two baby showers, one i'm helping to plan, and although i'm planning my own wedding, I'll be attending all events with gifts. I'd feel selfish not giving a gift for someone's event, just because i'm planning for my own wedding.
[QUOTE]I do feel like there was some poor planning on the OP's part, but I agree with Tide. If someone had to choose between coming to my wedding empty handed, or not coming at all because they were afraid of being shunned because they couldn't afford a gift, I'd much prefer for them to come empty handed. But perhaps that's just me.
Posted by J&K10910[/QUOTE]
Not the only one.... I agree.