Our wedding is in 11 days. We have had a lot of curveballs thrown at us in the past 9 months, including changing the wedding date due to a missing anullment, having to find new ceremony venue, my fiance's parents choosing not to travel to NJ from oklahoma (yet they drove from OK to chicago this weekend)....yes, good times.
But i keep trying to put that all behind me and just look forward to this day!
Well now my cousin's irked my family and i really need to find someway for it not to let this affect my day. My cousin has 4 kids - and i made it clear from day one back in July 2009 that it was an adults only ceremony and reception. I've waited a long time for this day, and we both agreed that is what we wanted. I gave her options, and hooked her up with a HS teacher friend of the family that would sit with them at the hotel while she and her husband went to the reception (in the hotel). Well i come to find out from the potential babysitter that this is not good enough, because she wants to bring them to the church. And when i emailed her to tell her that this sitter is great, and that we have told everyone else no kids at the ceremony; she sends back a snarky email 2 weeks later telling me that she feels it is in her family's best interest if she skips my wedding. Well we are upset and hurt because we've traveled from NJ to ME for her and her 2 brotehrs weddings, and a christening..and that doesnt seem to matter to her.
So now my mom does not want my aunt at her table unless she hears from her sister before next wednesday. My mom tells me today to do what i want - but doesnt really mean it.
If i do not put them with my mom and her other siblings, i fear it will set a tone for the reception...but we also dont want them to think we're ok with what she did.
yes, i know this all sounds petty given it's my wedding...but we're at the point where we've had enough. Just because she has 4 kids and married a doctor doesnt mean she gets to disregard her family's feelings!