Cinco de Mayo Wedding?

SD3194

We haven't set a date yet but I am partial to having the wedding on May 5, 2012. I think it's a fun idea and besides, there will always be a big party on our anniversary   FI doesn't like this idea, says we are being selfish by robbing people of their Cinco de Mayo festivities. He also thinks that we will miss out on the holiday because we will be doing anniversary stuff. Doesn't want to combine two good things on the same day I guess. Would you feel robbed of your Cinco de Mayo if you had to attend a wedding?

Sorry this doesn't have much to do with etiquette but this is my favorite board to post on.

Loopyseven

Really - do you have a huge number of friends who have huge standing cinqo de mayo plans?  Other than some restaurants doing to Mexican beer specials, I have never known that to be a big deal.

Would you play into the cinqo de mayo thing with your wedding planning and serve tequila and corona or no?

As for the anniversary thing - unless it's a major milestone, I can't see H and I doing much more than going out to a nice dinner for our anniversary - and if it was during the week we'd do it the weekend before or after.  

CN - I agree with you - no big deal.

SD3194

Most of our friends are pretty young and we always go to the bar on Cinco de Mayo but no huge street parades or anything lol. That's why I don't think it would be a big deal to have it that day. We wouldn't have a CDM theme, maybe corona but no no no tequila haha.

Loopyseven

If it's not a huge thing to you and your FI or your friends I wouldn't worry about it.  And for future years you can choose what you want to do to celebrate your anniversary.  Some years it may be a hot cinqo De Mayo party .

AdeleDazeem

For the record, I'm getting married on May 5th, 2011 (don't look at my bio - I have fake info in there).

My fiance loves the idea because he says he'll always remember our anniversary and when do go out for it, it'll be a big party!

Would you be upset if someone got married on July 4th and "robbed you of your July 4th festitivies?"  I'm leaning towards no.  It's one year that, if anyone does anything, they'll have to miss. 

Lots of people get married on New Year's Eve, Valentine's Day, other people's birthdays and anniversaries.  If someone feels that strongly about May 5th, then they can decline the invite.  But, I really don't see this affecting too many people.

[Deleted User]

If no one in your family or friends is going to be directly offended (ie: they are Hispanic and celebrate Cinco de Mayo) I see no problem or issue with having your wedding on May 5.

annakb8

     I love Cinco de Mayo, but honestly going to a wedding is more fun than going to a Mexican restaurant and drinking Margaritas. I can do that anyday, Cinco de Mayo is just the excuse. I think out of all the holidays out there Cinco de Mayo is a better day to have your wedding than the 4th of July, Valentine's Day, NYE, Memorial day, or Labor day.

scoetto

1. More than likely, as you get older, partying on Cinco de Mayo won't be a priority. 
 
2. If your FI doesn't want to get married on that date, pick another date you're both happy with.

aleighk1

Only if you guys wear sombreros. 

brookelynpaisley

No offense, but the only people I've ever known to give a crap about Cinco de Mayo are college students, and only then as another reason to drink. I think you'll be okay. But if your FI doesn't like the date, pick a new one.

saisongbird

As someone whose birthday is Cinco de Mayo, I actually get really pissed when people go out and get wasted on a day that isn't theirs to celebrate.  If you're Mexican, sure, go for it!  But I feel the same way about St. Patrick's Day, so I guess I'm in the minority there.  I don't even go out and get wasted on my birthday, so I don't understand the want/need/purpose for society to be hyping up a holiday that doesn't even belong to American culture.

I say go for it.  It's a wedding.  I'm assuming you're providing alcohol.  Go fo it.  Oh, and you can tell your FI that we got married on our 6th anniversary (July 24th).  When people learned why we picked that date they thought it was really romantic.

pearlaqua

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_cinco-de-mayo-wedding?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:7f646f41-6541-423b-ae4d-a4daeb931fa1Post:57985cfd-5d7a-45f7-9408-a2d662e57c8a">Re: Cinco de Mayo Wedding?</a>:
[QUOTE]If no one in your family or friends is going to be directly offended (i<strong>e: they are Hispanic and celebrate Cinco de Mayo</strong>) I see no problem or issue with having your wedding on May 5.
Posted by MissySue20[/QUOTE]

<div>It isn't a near and dear, home and hearth holiday for Mexicans (a fraction of all Hispanic people) so I wouldn't worry about it.  I thought this was a joke post.  Like someone else said, only college students care about Drinko de Mayo.</div>

Beachy730

Yeah I definitely wouldn't worry about it.  The only reason I ever do anything for Cinco de Mayo is if I'm bored and want to go get a Margarita somewhere cheap.  But as you get older the holidays known purely for drinking start to lose their importance to you.  And as a PP said even if I did celebrate it every year I would never be upset that I had a wedding to go to, I would probably be more excited.

SD I can tell from your sig pic that you guys are fairly young, so your FI probably just still has the college mentality of needing to get hammered on Cinco de Mayo and St Patty's day and what not.  Don't get offended, my H does too sometimes on those holidays.  We were originally supposed to get married this New Year's Eve and our friends were all super excited to have big plans for the holiday.  So I say you're more than okay picking that date.  And you could always just have a signature drink and make it margaritas.

KentuckyKate

I have annual standing plans on Cinco de Mayo, but it started as an excuse to have a party.  I bought my house in mid-April, so I threw my first family dinner party in the new house for Cinco de Mayo.  We grilled steak and chicken and had fajitas, Dos Equis, and margaritas, and it became a tradition.  So even though I have all the extended family over every year for Cinco, I would still easily skip it and attend a wedding if I were invited without a second thought.  Go for it, but serve alcohol

PsyDet 2155

I don't think having your wedding on May 5th would be a huge deal.

emilyinchile

I agree with everyone else. Cinco de Mayo is only a "holiday" when you're in college and a few years after and use it as an excuse to eat Mexican food and get drunk on Mexican beer and tequila. It's a fun day, don't get me wrong, but it's hardly some meaningful holiday where I'd feel like your wedding conflicted with my observance of tradition.

Somehow when you guys are in your 30s and celebrating your 10th anniversary, I don't imagine that your FI will feel to sad to be missing out on tequila shots and a piñata by having to go to a nice dinner with his wife

TurtlesAllTheWayDown

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_cinco-de-mayo-wedding?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:7f646f41-6541-423b-ae4d-a4daeb931fa1Post:73875fa1-cf6d-4860-bb00-62fd556a16ab">Re: Cinco de Mayo Wedding?</a>:
[QUOTE]As someone whose birthday is Cinco de Mayo, I actually get really pissed when people go out and get wasted on a day that isn't theirs to celebrate.  If you're Mexican, sure, go for it!  But I feel the same way about St. Patrick's Day, so I guess I'm in the minority there.  I don't even go out and get wasted on my birthday, so I don't understand the want/need/purpose for society to be hyping up a holiday that doesn't even belong to American culture. I say go for it.  It's a wedding.  I'm assuming you're providing alcohol.  Go fo it.  Oh, and you can tell your FI that we got married on our 6th anniversary (July 24th).  When people learned why we picked that date they thought it was really romantic.
Posted by saisongbird[/QUOTE]

<div>Actually, like St. Patrick's Day, Cinco de Mayo is mainly celebrated in the US. At least, most Mexicans don't get wasted on tequila specials that day. </div><div>
</div><div>The only thing I'd be concerned about would be getting dinner reservations on your anniversary or driving that night with people on the road. But I'm assuming you won't be at a sports bar for your anniversary dinners, too. ;-)</div>

MyNameIsNot

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_cinco-de-mayo-wedding?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:7f646f41-6541-423b-ae4d-a4daeb931fa1Post:660f2ce4-68d8-490d-a26e-e31c470fa4c4">Re: Cinco de Mayo Wedding?</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Cinco de Mayo Wedding? : <strong>Actually, like St. Patrick's Day, Cinco de Mayo is mainly celebrated in the US. At least, most Mexicans don't get wasted on tequila specials that day. </strong> The only thing I'd be concerned about would be getting dinner reservations on your anniversary or driving that night with people on the road. But I'm assuming you won't be at a sports bar for your anniversary dinners, too. ;-)
Posted by msmerymac[/QUOTE]

<div>This.  Cinco de Mayo is about as important in Mexico as Arbor Day is in the US.  It's more or less a creation of Mexican restaurants to drum up business.  </div>

Birdie1483

We actually got the random craving for Mexican this past Cinco de Mayo and didn't realize what the day was until we got to the restaurant. There was a line out the door waiting for a seat. We said "Mother #$%^" and then went and got pizza.

As someone that found every excuse in the book to drink when I was younger, I can attest to the fact that "holidays" like this aren't as big of a deal as you get older. I say go for it as long as your FI is ok with the date.

Also, we're getting married a week before my and FMIL's birthdays. I hesitated at first because there would be so many things to celebrate at the same time, but decided that if we ever wanted to go on an anniversary trip, we could technically justify it because would be celebrating more than one thing. If you ever took a trip to say, Mexico, for your anniversary I would assume that would be one hell of a good time.

TheCranberry

I have standing plans on Cinco de Mayo (a friend of mine always organizes a dinner for our group of friends, and we go to a Mexican restaurant and then go out after), but I wouldn't be upset to miss it for a friend or family member's wedding.  So I agree with PP who say go for it if you want.  Although, if your FI is that resistant, just pick a new date.

jeanna85

My friends and I go out for 1/2 price burritos and margaritas every Cinco de Mayo. I'd much rather see a friend or family member get married. Go for it!

SD3194

Thank you everyone for all the support lol. He seems to think it's the end of the world if we combine the two dates. Maybe I can talk him into it

ExpatPumpkin

You fiance need not worry about offending Mexicans as it's not an important holiday in Mexico...  It's not Mexican Independence Day - it's to celebrate the victory of the Battle of Puebla.  In Mexico it's not a "day off" holiday - no long weekends and no bank closures.

Scheduling your wedding around Cinco de Mayo would be like trying to avoid Flag Day

I watched Cinco de Mayo come and go with little to no fanfare when I lived in Mexico.  September 15th (Independence Day), on the other hand, was quite the party!  So if you're really worried about respecting Mexican heritage, don't get married then

SD3194

I never brought up anything about offending Mexicans.

The reason I want to have a Cinco de Mayo wedding is because I want to get married the first week of May and that Saturday just happens to be May 5. Other than that I don't really have a good reason why I want to have it that day, just thought it would be kinda cool. I'm not going to force him to do anything but there's nothing wrong with some good persuasion.

Beachy730

What about Friday May 4th?

SD3194

Yea we may just opt for Friday. There's a bunch of other stuff going on in May, friends weddings and my brothers graduation, etc. April is a little too cold for the venue we want. Our venue goes up by $1000 in June. July and August are way too hot. So the first weekend of May is ideal but it just happens to be CDM.