Very good friend and a Not nice girl! Sorry..Vent!

Laurstar31

Thank you, burntofferings:)

TurtlesAllTheWayDown

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_very-good-friend-and-a-witch-sorryvent?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:82446bc0-f81e-4666-b1b0-00dd41a14157Post:85ac6a26-0bd3-4b56-826f-1e556817190a">Re: Very good friend and a WITCH! Sorry..Vent!</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Very good friend and a WITCH! Sorry..Vent! : Still not ok. Those are 2 entirely different meanings. You're essentially using a religion as a slur.
Posted by daffodil_jill[/QUOTE]

I personally think using the b-word as an insult is kind of misogynist, too, so I don't like either.

chelseamb11

Woah.

Laurstar31

Ok I will make sure I tell all the little kids on Halloween to knock off the religious slurs then!

PetalPockets2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_very-good-friend-and-a-witch-sorryvent?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:82446bc0-f81e-4666-b1b0-00dd41a14157Post:1ab121cb-31ad-41c6-a854-fffade0a2d2e">Re: Very good friend and a WITCH! Sorry..Vent!</a>:
[QUOTE]Ok I will make sure I tell all the little kids on Halloween to knock off the religious slurs then!
Posted by Laurstar31[/QUOTE]

You are being ridiculous.

You have been given helpful advice which is all pretty much saying the same thing.

Laurstar31

You just quoted something that has nothing to do with what I posted about...... So no, I'm not being ridiculous. That girl is mad I said someone is a witch, and apparently thats a religious slur. Can someone tell me how to delete threads? Thanks!

lalaweddingdiva

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_very-good-friend-and-a-witch-sorryvent?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:82446bc0-f81e-4666-b1b0-00dd41a14157Post:de2ca3ee-40ad-4e47-90ba-55e0c92035d4">Re: Very good friend and a WITCH! Sorry..Vent!</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Very good friend and a WITCH! Sorry..Vent! : This is one of the reasons we come to the knot, Avion, to be able to say these things that we can't say to people we know. Sounds like you have a little judgement issue yourself.
Posted by bellefille42[/QUOTE]



Why can't I "like" this a hundred times?

Girlie1030

Laurstar, you can't delete the thread.  You can delete your posts but it won't do any good since you've been quoted and it'll just stir the pot more. 

Laurstar31

I'm sorry it's just frustrating. I'm feeling a little picked on is all. I'm not a nasty, spoiled princess as most people on here think I am. And I think people are acting nasty. I am willing to accept advice just not snarky comments quoting me trying to put words into my mouth. I'm sorry if I offended anyone by putting witch, that's not how I meant it. I didn't realize starting a thread was going to start my roast. I'm sorry if I offended anyone, that wasn't my attention. I'm not a bit*h, and for me to start a thread about someone, they must be pretty awful. I have gotten many good pointers from all of you so thank you! I appreciate it:)

PetalPockets2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_very-good-friend-and-a-witch-sorryvent?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:82446bc0-f81e-4666-b1b0-00dd41a14157Post:1fb10bcf-5437-4cab-9ea4-0c03f5639f28">Re: Very good friend and a WITCH! Sorry..Vent!</a>:
[QUOTE]You just quoted something that has nothing to do with what I posted about...... So no, I'm not being ridiculous. That girl is mad I said someone is a witch, and apparently thats a religious slur. Can someone tell me how to delete threads? Thanks!
Posted by Laurstar31[/QUOTE]

Actually, I did quote what you recently posted about the kids in costumes because that was ridiculous. I then commented back to the original issue. Next time I'll make sure to be more concrete in my posting.

lalaweddingdiva

OP I AM SO SORRY YOU are going to have to invite her by name if you want to avoid being rude. It sucks, I'm sorry. I know u prob told us all the bad stuff in hopes there would be a rude miserable witch exception to the inviting SO rule. On bright side they may break up beforehand or she might even implode at wedding and make a scene!?! How fun! Lol

Laurstar31

Adding an LOL after a snarky sarcastic comment doesn't make it less snarky... FYI

Laurstar31

Alright thank you everyone for your help and productive suggestions! Have a good day and good luck in the future planning!

lalaweddingdiva

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_very-good-friend-and-a-witch-sorryvent?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:82446bc0-f81e-4666-b1b0-00dd41a14157Post:610658bb-2a7b-474b-84dc-fbf60a0e10e5">Re: Very good friend and a WITCH! Sorry..Vent!</a>:
[QUOTE]Adding an LOL after a snarky sarcastic comment doesn't make it less snarky... FYI
Posted by Laurstar31[/QUOTE]



Wow I meant every word of that in the sincerest way possible. You dont have to be a cu next tues. Also, I know someone who was in similar situation and the gf began to make scene near ballroom entrance, he escorted her out and broke up w her in parking lot then asked her to leave and she did. I used caps bc I am learning how to use my iPad keyboard still. Sorry for trying to be lighthearted and make u laugh about what a whatever u think she is. Wow, u obviously don't give ppl the benefit of the doubt. I was also trying to give u benefit of doubt as to why u wrote all those mean things about her. Never mind.

Laurstar31

Oh Im sorry when you have people give you nasty/ productive things to say for a whole thread you start to not think people are being nice. It's not in person so how am I supposed to take it? Anyways, thank you for the light hearted comment. I'm using my iPad too, hence the misspelled words. I wrote all those mean things about her bc it was all true, not bc I was complaining. She is pretty awful! But thank you. I just thought you were shitting on me like almost everyone else on here, but your not. So thanks

MiksChick23

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_very-good-friend-and-a-witch-sorryvent?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:82446bc0-f81e-4666-b1b0-00dd41a14157Post:6797940b-40dc-4b9b-b26b-d344c0a17240">Re: Very good friend and a WITCH! Sorry..Vent!</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Very good friend and a WITCH! Sorry..Vent! : *Wiccan Also, it's not a religious slur when used for Halloween books and such. Think of it like this: "That man is gay." - perfectly fine when talking about a gay male. "That party was so gay." - not okay because "gay" is used as an insult. Using "witch" as an insult could be offensive to some Wiccans. That's where Jill is getting "religious slur" from.
Posted by burntofferings[/QUOTE]

This is entirely correct, HOWEVER, I can't stand having to worry about offending someone every time I use an adjective that has changed meaning.

EX: I dislike the term<font color="#000000"> "f.a.g" I find it be pretty deragatory, but its all in how you take things. The actual meaning is:<span style="color:#0055bb;cursor:pointer;"> "a</span> <span style="color:#333333;cursor:default;">rough</span> <span>or</span> <span>defective</span> <span style="color:#333333;cursor:default;">spot</span> <span style="color:#333333;cursor:default;">in</span> <span>a</span> <span style="color:#333333;cursor:default;">woven</span> <span style="color:#333333;cursor:default;">fabric;</span> <span style="color:#333333;cursor:default;">blemish;</span> <span style="color:#333333;cursor:default;">flaw.</span>", or a slang term for a cigarette. Simila</font>rily, "retard" also means "
<div class="dndata"><span><span style="color:#333333;cursor:default;">to</span> <span>make</span> <span style="color:#333333;cursor:default;">slow;</span> <span style="color:#333333;cursor:default;">delay</span> <span style="color:#333333;cursor:default;">the</span> <span style="color:#333333;cursor:default;">development</span> <span>or</span> <span style="color:#333333;cursor:default;">progress</span> <span>of</span> <span>(an</span> <span style="color:#333333;cursor:default;">action,</span> <span>process,</span> <span>etc.);</span> <span>hinder</span> <span>or</span> <span style="color:#333333;cursor:default;">impede." </span> </span></div>
WORDS ARE WORDS. I think OP was trying not to use a cuss word so she changed it to a rhyming word. She did not mean to insult Wiccans, Halloween trick-or-treaters or anyone else. Had she used the actual word, she would not have been meaning to insult female dogs.

Girlie1030

Laurstar, if it makes you feel any better, I had to invite (by name) my sisters boyfriend and there are very few people in this world I like less than him.  He is rude, inappropriate and unbelievably obnoxious (he actually told my photographer to get out of his way because he wanted to take a picture).  I hardly noticed him at all that night. 

Hopefully this girl will be long gone from your friends life by the time you send out invitations but if not, invite her by name and remember it's not the end of the world. 

lalaweddingdiva

No worries. Some of the girls on here are the worst. So ironic some of the rudest people be never met ) thank gd) and they have balls to give advice on etiquette meanwhile they don't know what it is or where it comes from. Lol.

Laurstar31

Thank you girls for your positive responses! The reason I talked about her on here was bc I knew I could get it off my back, and not be judged. I know I'm not always going to hear responses I agree with or agree with things I've said but I think people take it as a free pass to be nasty and hurtful. I was feeling pretty upset about some of the things said, and I'm not a super sensitive person. It will all work out in the end. Anyways, that is a good insight into it though. At least I know I won't even be phased by her if she even is still around! Thank you, ladies! :

[Deleted User]

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_very-good-friend-and-a-witch-sorryvent?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:82446bc0-f81e-4666-b1b0-00dd41a14157Post:6797940b-40dc-4b9b-b26b-d344c0a17240">Re: Very good friend and a WITCH! Sorry..Vent!</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Very good friend and a WITCH! Sorry..Vent! : Using "witch" as an insult could be offensive to some Wiccans. That's where Jill is getting "religious slur" from.
Posted by burntofferings[/QUOTE]
Yes. That's exactly what I said - that using it as an insult is not ok. I don't know what OP isn't getting about that.

It's like summer's twin in here.

Rosie109

Your wedding sounds like its going to be a blast. 

Laurstar31

In Response to Re:Very good friend and a WITCH! Sorry..Vent!:[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Very good friend and a WITCH! Sorry..Vent!:In Response to Re: Very good friend and a WITCH! Sorry..Vent! : Using "witch" as an insult could be offensive to some Wiccans. That's where Jill is getting "religious slur" from.Posted by burntofferingsYes. That's exactly what I said that using it as an insult is not ok. I don't know what OP isn't getting about that. It's like summer's twin in here. Posted by daffodil_jill[/QUOTE] I am getting it. And I'm not going to defend myself anymore about this topic. I already apologized 3 times for the witch comment, that i wasn't even being mean about in the first place. So thank you all for your positive comments and energy but I'm gonna just leave it at that so thanks everyone!

Laurstar31

In Response to Re:Very good friend and a WITCH! Sorry..Vent!:[QUOTE]Your wedding sounds like its going to be a blast.nbsp; Posted by Rosie109[/QUOTE] I know it will be an amazing time for my family and friends! Everyone that is invited is a huge part of my life and I love them! So I'm super excited

Rosie109

Really? thats amazing. do go on. 

Laurstar31

it's going to be an amazing day as I wish everyones wedding day is! It will be the first thing my family has to celebrate since the death of my father and grand mom within a month of each other so I'm excited for everyone to come together and celebrate something happy instead of somber!

[Deleted User]

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_very-good-friend-and-a-witch-sorryvent?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:82446bc0-f81e-4666-b1b0-00dd41a14157Post:48912350-282f-4f14-bed5-920a084b387d">Re:Very good friend and a WITCH! Sorry..Vent!</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re:Very good friend and a WITCH! Sorry..Vent!: I already apologized 3 times for the witch comment
Posted by Laurstar31[/QUOTE]
Oh, I didn't realize arguing, defending yourself, and being sarcastic counted as apologies.

Laurstar31

Allllrighty well thankyou all for your comments and suggestions I hope you all have a blessed day/night. Sorry if for whatever reason I offended you. Thanks!

Rosie109

Corey is going to have such a good time at your wedding. I can just tell. 

Laurstar31

Yes he will! We have been friends for about 20 years and he is super close with my family so he is excited too! Thank you sooo much:) have a great day!

Laurstar31

I know you guys are blatantly making fun of me. I'm not an idiot, I know sarcasm well. I know you guys want me to fire back and say something nasty to you both but I'm not going to. I'm not a mean person. I have about 10 people that agree with my opinion about corey's gf, 8 are his family members. So that is all that matters. I came on here to get an opinion, I didn't think everyone was going to agree with it, but I also didn't expect to be bullied. Some of the people on here are acting completely out of control, rude, and inconsiderate. I wish nothing but the best to all of you, bc I don't know you. You guys shouldn't mock me, my wedding saying " your wedding is probably going to be a lot of fun". Or " Corey is going to have a great time". Completley juvenile. I appreciate your opinions, I took the witch part out, I'm sorry If I offended anyone bc that was not my intention. My intention was to come on here and share my story. I'm sorry it escalated into what it did. Im not talking about this anymore, and im not apologizing another time. Everyone have a great time planning. God bless.