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Divorced parents introductions
What is appropriate for the wedding introductions of divorced parents? My fiance's parents have been divorced since 2006 and his dad now lives with his girlfriend who he has been dating for 3 years but his mom is single. They aren't on the best terms so do we have them walk in separately with escorts?
Also... is it appropriate for his dad's girlfriend to be his escort in the bridal party introductions? Who should we have walk in with his mother?
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Re: Divorced parents introductions
Is there a brother, uncle, or other relative who could walk in with MOG?
Whatever you do, don't make a divorced couple walk in together.
And then there's always the option of not doing WP intros.
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Is there another male relative she can walk in with, who she's close to? Her brother, or father, or someone like that?
DH's parents are divorced and both got remarried, and then both got divorced again. Luckily they are on good terms with eachother. DH made the decision for them that they would walk in together. MIL is now dating someone else, but we didn't want her new boyfriend walking in for introductions. DH made the decision that they would walk in together, and they were fine with it. They also were fine to sit together at dinner so I know its a unique situation.
I would ask them. I'm with you that I wouldn't want to skip it altogether out of respect for my parents. But I think its totally fine to do introduce "FOG John Smith walking with Jane Doe." Then "MOG Mary Lou Who escorted by cousin of the bride Jimmy Dean."
But to answer your question, it is perfectly acceptable to have FFIL walk in with his GF and FMIL to walk in with a male relative assuming all of them are comfortable with it.
Married in Vegas - June 2011
[QUOTE]Hmm, I hadn't thought of this issue. My parents are divorced, my mom was re-married but my step father died a few years ago; dad is remarried. She has no other family that will be attending the wedding other than me and I wouldn't want her to feel uncomfortable. Can I walk my own mom down or is the groom supposed to already be at the alter? Or should I have a groomsman walk her down?
Posted by vegasgroom[/QUOTE]
Have a groomsman walk her down. It would be nice if you did, but I've never seen a groom not be at the altar the whole time. Do you have a GM that's a good friend that knows your mom well? If you do go with him, if not just pick one that you would like to give the extra honor to.
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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Divorced parents introductions : Have a groomsman walk her down. It would be nice if you did, but I've never seen a groom not be at the altar the whole time. Do you have a GM that's a good friend that knows your mom well? If you do go with him, if not just pick one that you would like to give the extra honor to.
Posted by dnbeach12[/QUOTE]
Yeah, my best man and one of the groomsmen both know her; can one of them go back to get a bridesmaid or would that be weird and I should just have one of the bridesmaids come down alone? There's even numbers of them.
Married in Vegas - June 2011
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And now please welcome the groom's father, Mr. Mark Smith, with Ms. Candy Apple!!
/>>Who should we have walk in with his mother?
Whoever she chooses. Like maybe her father or her brother or her guy friend she's bringing or a cousin.
And here's the groom's mother, Mrs. Nancy Jones, escorted by the groom's grandfather Mr. Horace Doe.
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Divorced parents introductions : Yeah, my best man and one of the groomsmen both know her; can one of them go back to get a bridesmaid or would that be weird and I should just have one of the bridesmaids come down alone? There's even numbers of them.
Posted by vegasgroom[/QUOTE]
I don't know how your ceremony will be set up, but ours was in a church, and the best man stood up at the altar the whole time with my H. H's parents are divorced, so he had one of his brothers, who were both groomsmen, walk his mom down (he picked the older of the 2 brothers). From there he was just going to turn around and walk back to the rest of the GM. Our church has aisles down the side as well so he was going to go down the side. What we ended up doing though, which is another option if you are having an aisle runner, is that after H's brother walked him mom in he stood next to her for a minute while my brother walked my mom in. Once both moms were seated the 2 brothers grabbed the aisle runner and walked it down the aisle for the BM's to walk on. After that, my brother returned to his seat, and BIL was with the rest of the GM's again. Sorry if thats confusing.