So, I have two good friends of mine that have babies. By the time of the wedding, the babies will be 7-8 months old. One of them, for sure, is bringing her baby with her. Now, FI's mother told me it's inappropriate to have babies at the wedding and FI agrees with her. My mom, who knows my two friends, told me that if I tell them that they can't bring their babies with them, they will feel offended. Personally, the babies don't bother me. I may be a loud place to bring babies, but I guess that's up to the parents to bring them or not. What do you think?
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This is just something to work out between you and your FI.
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Have you thought of hiring a babysitter for your friends? Just a question.
If you don't mind them, and your FI doesn't mind them, then it's really not your FMIL's problem.
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You can really go either way on this one, some people prefer child-free weddings and others don't.
Your mom could be right though, some parents are offended when their children are not invited and they may not attend. However, I do think you would be okay to not invite the babies.
Even if you are having an adults only wedding, it is generally recommended that breastfeeding infants are the exception to the "no kids" rule.
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I also want to point out that at 7-8 months old they may still be breastfeeding. OP, do you know if they are?
Sorry I missed the part about your FI not wanting them there, did he recently change his mind on this?
Also, you mentionned one of your friends is bringing her baby "for sure", have you already invited her and her baby? It would not be appropriate to uninvite the baby.
[QUOTE]I also want to point out that at 7-8 months old they may still be breastfeeding. OP, do you know if they are? Sorry I missed the part about your FI not wanting them there, did he recently change his mind on this?<strong> Also, you mentionned one of your friends is bringing her baby "for sure", have you already invited her and her baby? It would not be appropriate to uninvite the baby.</strong>
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This. If you already said it was okay it would look pretty bad to go back and change your mind. You can still have no kids if you didn't invite them already, but make the exception for breastfeeding infants.
Well, the only children at the wedding will be my flower girl (FI niece, 4 and a half years old) and the two babies. I know that my friend is bringing her baby because she told me that she already bought the baby a cute dress to wear at the wedding. That's how I know she is bringing her. My FI still doesn't want any baby at the wedding, but we are talking about that. Again, the babies don't bother me, but I still have to get to an agreement with my FI.
I will have about a 6-week-old baby at the time of my friend's wedding. I'm a BM in said wedding, and it is across the country from where I live. She was one of the first people I told about the baby. She knows that the only way I can be there is if the baby is there, and she is 100% fine with that. My two older children will be staying home with my parents though.
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DH and I will have a baby in early Dec. Depending on the distance, we may not be able to leave the baby overnight if I can't pump that much.
And even if we can leave the baby, you'll possibly have to leave space either in the bridal suite or another location so that I (or the moms) can pump. You can't just hold in your milk until you feel like it. Pumping it or nursing is about as necessary as making sure you go to the bathroom.
FWIW, babies are rarely an issue anywhere. Your FG is more likely to be a concern.