cheater cheater where'd you meet her

laurenclaire1386

I cheated, and it was a one time thing, and stayed in the relationship for another three months after I cheated. Then we break up and few days later he tells me he's been doing cocaine the whole time we were together. Which was equivalent to cheating on me, to me. I knew before we started dating that he liked to dabble with the coke, and when he asked me if we could be exclusive, I told him he'd have to choose between the coke and being with me. He chose both, but neglected to tell me.

salt78

H has never cheated on anyone. I have. I used to be a real jerk.

FutureMrsTR

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[QUOTE]Anyone been cheated on and stayed? Or cheated and stayed?
Posted by kkchisholm[/QUOTE]

I cheated and stayed with my long-term highschool/college boyfriend.  Like I said, I was immature, bored with the relationship, but too comfortable and scared to actually end it.

MeaghanandMichael

Interestingly enough, if Mike slipped up and cheated on me, I don't think I would leave. If it was long and drawn out affair, maybe. In general, I oddly don't view cheating to be as big of a deal as many other people do.

I also think what constitutes cheating, how much it would hurt you, and if you would leave, depends on your specific relationship with the person. For example, I have had plenty of bfs who would probably have cheated on me to hurt me. If Mike cheated on me, I would know he legitimately just wanted sex and made a horrible decision. I trust Mike and I know he wouldn't hurt me intentionally. This may sound naive, but it is hard to convey by typing the amount of trust I have for him and how much he means to me in my life.

kd.joseph

Cant read the survey at work. But, I cheated when I was younger and stupid. But when I was commited and married I never cheated, even though he cheated on me countless times. I have been the other woman, before I was married, but I wasnt his first nor his last. I apologized to her and was able to make amends, she knew it wasnt about me per se. He eventually left her again for another woman.

But, as I grew older and have been through being cheated on myself, you learn (or I hope people do). Even My ex-husband has apologized to me quite a few times for his behavior.
I would never cheat on FI, he is the dearest man. He was married for 20 years, only to go on a business trip and come home to an empty house. She had run off with someone she met online.

TurtlesAllTheWayDown

None of the above. Neither FI nor I have ever cheated on anyone, though we've been cheated on in the past.

MissLeahM

I choose other because the only other boyfriend I've had was in HS and I had a really good guy friend who was cuban, so I thought he was just an affectionate guy, but apparently he thought I was his girlfriend. I know this because he was pretty pissed when I told him I had a bf.

We kissed but it was more of a hello, goodbye thing.

laurenclaire1386

I'm not entirely sure I could get over it if FI cheated on me. I don't know that I could stay. Although I cheated with the best of them, for some reason, cheating in a marriage is vastly different to me than cheating on some guy you're dating. I don't know why. Marriage is so serious to me that I just cannot fathom cheating on a spouse.

kkchisholm

M&M... I don't know if I could leave, and I don't know if I could stay. It would be so incredibly hard either way. let's hope none of us have to go through that.

The guy that I found a girl in his bed I had only been with a few months so it wasn't as hard as say leaving your husband.

baystateapple

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[QUOTE] Anyone been cheated on and stayed? Or cheated and stayed?
Posted by kkchisholm[/QUOTE]

My first boyfriend, yes.  <strong>TWICE</strong>.  I was clearly seventeen and stupid.  The two times he cheated with his ex, I stayed.  It wasn't sex, it was just kissing, but we both considered it cheating.  I didn't know better than to leave.  But it taught me a lesson.  The other boyfriend, I left without thinking twice.

tannymcgee

I was a real a*shole in college.  i had one boyfriend from home who in school out of state, and another boyfriend at school.  i wouldn't advise it.  it was a logistical nightmare. 

but i didn't really love either of them; I didn't really love anyone (or understand what it was about) until my fiance. 

golden1215

When FI and I started seeing each other it was very casual and we lived in different cities.  Before we cemented anything I ended up sleeping a guy I had been seeing before FI.  The next morning I felt so guilty that I knew I had true feelings for FI.  I called him and told him what happened.  He wasnt happy, but he understood that he couldnt really be tha upset since we weren't an established "couple".  After that we made a committment to each other and have never had an issue since.  So, I answered #1 but I dont regret it, because it helped me to see what I really wanted. 

To the best of my knowledge I have never been cheated on my by any guy...

dandan83

I was cheated on constantly by my first serious b/f. (the guy who took my v-card) I could never catch him however, and the people who whould mention it had never earned my trust so it just went on till I got tired of his sh*t and left for other reasons. In a later relationship I suppose you could say I cheated but it's rather complicated. lol I was dating a guy that lived a few states away. Really didn't know anything about him except I thought he was amazing. He goes back home and the comunication kind of dries up... I hadn't talked to him for a couple of weeks so I wind up getting some comfort from my ex. (Bad idea, I don't advise it. Ex's are that for a reason!) Well, come to find out, back home he has a live in g/f and 2 kids! I almost don't want to count what I did as cheating as compared to his.