We have a huge guest list and definitely can't afford to feed them all. We've managed to get all the important people onto the A list, but are left with a decent amount on the B list. We're having a mini-destination wedding (about 5 hours from home) and don't know what to do about save the dates. How do we go about inviting the B list people later without letting them know they're not number 1? Is it ok not to send save the dates to those people? Help please!!
Re: A List B List
[QUOTE]We have a huge guest list and definitely can't afford to feed them all. We've managed to get all the important people onto the A list, but are left with a decent amount on the B list. We're having a mini-destination wedding (about 5 hours from home) and don't know what to do about save the dates. How do we go about inviting the B list people later without letting them know they're not number 1? Is it ok not to send save the dates to those people? Help please!!
Posted by chimmicheesecake[/QUOTE]
Invite whom ou can afford from the beginning. B lists many times can cause problems.
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Besides, sending STDs still doesn't give you a guest count as people aren't required to respond to STDs anyways so you're not going to be any further ahead.
There is no way to tastefully do a B-list. People will figure it out pretty quick if they are on the B-list to your wedding (didn't get a STD, got an invitation close to the wedding).
I just went to a wedding last week where I didn't get a STD, got an online invite about 2 weeks before the wedding, and then when I saw their online guest book, noticed people have been signing it since May - yeah, I was B-list. (I'm not the type to get offended by this, but some people are).
I agree with everyong about not doing a B list. Arrange your wedding and budget to accomodate who you can, and invite accordingly. I think B lists are bad no matter what, but especially with a destination wedding, as you need to give people ample time to make travel accomodations and plans. If you sent me a B list invite 3 weeks before I wedding I had to travel 5 or so hours to I would definitely say no.
If there are more people you want to include, would having a local wedding help cut costs? If most people are local, you could do something at a non-meal time and have appetizers and cake with limited alcohol options. Check out the budget brides board if you want to stretch your wedding budget.
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