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Megbo2012

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: help! how to ask for a bridal shower or bachlerette party? : Geniunley curious, why are you so obnoxious. I wasnt even directing anything at you and you got all jerky. And namecalling.
Posted by doalittlejig[/QUOTE]



I don't like when people give bad advice. And you got "jerky" first calling Chrissy, someone I really like, unintelligent.

doalittlejig

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: help! how to ask for a bridal shower or bachlerette party? : I don't like when people give bad advice. And you got "jerky" first calling Chrissy, someone I really like, unintelligent.
Posted by Megbo2012[/QUOTE]

I dont even know a chrissy, so i wasn't jerky. 

But you can jerk off, twatwaffle.

stupid8d

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_help-how-to-ask-for-a-bridal-shower-or-bachlerette-party?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:87ad807a-3781-42c0-951f-e392d06136afPost:b0b64219-bde6-442a-89d7-b8e0c9e15892">Re: help! how to ask for a bridal shower or bachlerette party?</a>:
[QUOTE]Print out a list of bridesmaid/MOH duties. It will be on there.  Highlight it and give it to each of them. And at the party you should ask them to do a danceoff to decide who is your number #1 bridesmaid.  
Posted by doalittlejig[/QUOTE]

<div>i like this idea!</div>

StephBeanWed61502

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_help-how-to-ask-for-a-bridal-shower-or-bachlerette-party?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:87ad807a-3781-42c0-951f-e392d06136afPost:29536b3e-e0dd-4459-8337-fc2c3a96c17b">Re: help! how to ask for a bridal shower or bachlerette party?</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: help! how to ask for a bridal shower or bachlerette party? : i like this idea!
Posted by stupid8d[/QUOTE]

Please tell me you're kidding.

SweetTea87

oh. dear. lord.  what is WRONG with you people?  you people referring to jigalig and stupid (way to pick an accurate SN btw).  wow.

stupid8d

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_help-how-to-ask-for-a-bridal-shower-or-bachlerette-party?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:87ad807a-3781-42c0-951f-e392d06136afPost:5ce0cc2b-f9da-4c49-95d6-276f3bc66cc1">Re: help! how to ask for a bridal shower or bachlerette party?</a>:
[QUOTE]1) You don't ask someone to throw you a party.  Period. 2) It doesn't necessarily have to be the MOH who does offer to throw you a party.  Someone else may want to. 3) You don't have to have her approval on how you want to plan your wedding.  If all she's doing is shooting down your ideas, stop sharing your ideas with her.  A MOH (or any bridesmaid for that matter) is not required to help you with anything. 4) What she does with her money is her business.  If she wants to spend $200 on a dress and it fits any guidelines you've given her, that's her own dealing. 5) You make a mention of a new MOH.  If you're talking about "demoting" your current one, don't.  That's a terribly rude thing to do and could very well be friendship ending.  If you're talking about "promoting" one of your bridesmaids and having two MOHs, I would ask you why you would want to do that.  If it's only because this one isn't living up to your expectations of what a MOH should be, don't do it.  As I've said before (and as I saw other PPs said in another post), a MOH is not required to help you with anything.  You don't pick one based on her ability to pitch in or willingness to throw you parties. 6) If you want to rent a mansion for people to stay in, that's fine, but you need to pay for it.  You can't say "I've decided we're doing this, here's how much you owe me". 
Posted by dogsandfrogs[/QUOTE]<div>
</div><div>Im promoting one of my bridesmaid because i want more support! my curent moh is unexcited and puts down every idea, basically says this sucks and mentions what she would do for her wedding.. i would just like someone who has a more similar vision as me and not make snarky comments at everything. & i will not do the mansion thing anymore. I just thought it was a way for them to stay at a nicer place while in vegas instead of a cheap motel.

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ceh789

I find gimmick accounts really boring and uninspired.

elldee333

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_help-how-to-ask-for-a-bridal-shower-or-bachlerette-party?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:87ad807a-3781-42c0-951f-e392d06136afPost:3685f5fe-6433-41cf-9b31-28f9ce54d3a6">Re: help! how to ask for a bridal shower or bachlerette party?</a>:
[QUOTE] But you can jerk off, twatwaffle.
Posted by doalittlejig[/QUOTE]

LOL seriously!?

considering you just joined today and stupid8ed liked your ridiculous idea, and just joined yesterday, I'm guessing you're the same person or a couple of friends with nothing better to do with your time than act like a couple of 5 year olds.

Congrats, your plan worked dumb and dumber.

Meghannsix

I'm sorry, but there is no excuse for poor grammar.  Total credibility fail

doalittlejig

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_help-how-to-ask-for-a-bridal-shower-or-bachlerette-party?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:87ad807a-3781-42c0-951f-e392d06136afPost:9893abbb-b408-481a-8702-4d07676f211c">Re: help! how to ask for a bridal shower or bachlerette party?</a>:
[QUOTE]oh. dear. lord.  what is WRONG with you people?  you people referring to jigalig and stupid (way to pick an accurate SN btw).  wow.
Posted by SweetTea87[/QUOTE]

Yes there obviously is something wrong with me as i never thought of having a child carry a sign at my wedding encouraging my groom to run. What's wrong with you?

doalittlejig

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_help-how-to-ask-for-a-bridal-shower-or-bachlerette-party?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:87ad807a-3781-42c0-951f-e392d06136afPost:b1099ed1-d8e9-438f-b13f-b3f9b99549d5">Re: help! how to ask for a bridal shower or bachlerette party?</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: help! how to ask for a bridal shower or bachlerette party? : LOL seriously!? considering you just joined today and stupid8ed liked your ridiculous idea, and just joined yesterday, I'm guessing you're the same person or a couple of friends with nothing better to do with your time than act like a couple of 5 year olds. Congrats, your plan worked dumb and dumber.
Posted by LauraD1406[/QUOTE]

Wrong. Just because I'm not "BFF4EVA!!!!!!!!!!11111!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! ZOMG!!!!" with the mods like the chick upthread doesn't make me a troll or stupid8ed.

mbody

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_help-how-to-ask-for-a-bridal-shower-or-bachlerette-party?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:87ad807a-3781-42c0-951f-e392d06136afPost:3de69338-ddd9-4a71-9287-1b6da25ff48f">Re: help! how to ask for a bridal shower or bachlerette party?</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: help! how to ask for a bridal shower or bachlerette party? : Im promoting one of my bridesmaid because i want more support! my curent moh is unexcited and puts down every idea, basically says this sucks and mentions what she would do for her wedding.. i would just like someone who has a more similar vision as me and not make snarky comments at everything. & i will not do the mansion thing anymore. I just thought it was a way for them to stay at a nicer place while in vegas instead of a cheap motel.
Posted by stupid8d[/QUOTE]
::head desk::

stupid8d

Thank you everyone for your input! I took everything into consideration. I will be deleting my post now just in case she goes on the knots forums! Thanks again.

MiksChick23

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_help-how-to-ask-for-a-bridal-shower-or-bachlerette-party?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:87ad807a-3781-42c0-951f-e392d06136afPost:3de69338-ddd9-4a71-9287-1b6da25ff48f">Re: help! how to ask for a bridal shower or bachlerette party?</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: help! how to ask for a bridal shower or bachlerette party? : I<strong>m promoting one of my bridesmaid</strong> because i want more support! my curent moh is unexcited and puts down every idea, basically says this sucks and mentions what she would do for her wedding.. i would just like someone who has a more similar vision as me and not make snarky comments at everything. & i will not do the mansion thing anymore. I just thought it was a way for them to stay at a nicer place while in vegas instead of a cheap motel.
Posted by stupid8d[/QUOTE]

Being in a wedding party is an honor, not a job. Hence, the MOH is not the "premium position" that one should aspire to be promoted to. If your current MOH is so horrible, why did you even ask her to stand up in your wedding?

Also - your original question "how to ask for a bridal shower...?", you don't. A BM doesn't have to be the one throwing it for you either. My aunts are throwing mine. From the looks of your profie, you already had a wedding...so...when exactly is your wedding? Bridal showers are usually in the 3 month time-span beforehand. Give it time (assuming that you have it), someone might throw one, and if they don't, it feels a little crummy, but, that's life.

dumdumfroggie

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[QUOTE]Thank you everyone for your input! I took everything into consideration. I will be deleting my post now just in case she goes on the knots forums! Thanks again.
Posted by stupid8d[/QUOTE]

<div>Uh, you were quoted.  Several times.</div>

StephBeanWed61502

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_help-how-to-ask-for-a-bridal-shower-or-bachlerette-party?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:87ad807a-3781-42c0-951f-e392d06136afPost:51294028-e80b-42df-8a9a-d1a181057d54">Re: help! how to ask for a bridal shower or bachlerette party?</a>:
[QUOTE]Thank you everyone for your input! I took everything into consideration. <strong>I will be deleting my post now just in case she goes on the knots forums!</strong> Thanks again.
Posted by stupid8d[/QUOTE]

Deleting your post is considered the height of rudeness around here, just FYI.

mbody

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_help-how-to-ask-for-a-bridal-shower-or-bachlerette-party?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:87ad807a-3781-42c0-951f-e392d06136afPost:51294028-e80b-42df-8a9a-d1a181057d54">Re: help! how to ask for a bridal shower or bachlerette party?</a>:
[QUOTE]Thank you everyone for your input! I took everything into consideration. I will be deleting my post now just in case she goes on the knots forums! Thanks again.
Posted by stupid8d[/QUOTE]
You've been quoted so DDing it really won't make it go away.

dogsandfrogs

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_help-how-to-ask-for-a-bridal-shower-or-bachlerette-party?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:87ad807a-3781-42c0-951f-e392d06136afPost:3de69338-ddd9-4a71-9287-1b6da25ff48f">Re: help! how to ask for a bridal shower or bachlerette party?</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: help! how to ask for a bridal shower or bachlerette party? : Im promoting one of my bridesmaid because i want more support! my curent moh is unexcited and puts down every idea, basically says this sucks and mentions what she would do for her wedding.. i would just like someone who has a more similar vision as me and not make snarky comments at everything. & i will not do the mansion thing anymore. I just thought it was a way for them to stay at a nicer place while in vegas instead of a cheap motel.
Posted by stupid8d[/QUOTE]

A MOH is not required to support you.  Is it nice if they do?  Yes of course, but she has her own life, and while she may be happy for you she doesn't have to like everything or talk about your wedding all the time.  If she's making snarky comments, stop talking about the wedding with her.  That's it.  This isn't a job.  Asking someone to be a MOH or a bridesmaid is about saying "you're special to me, and I want you to be a part of this special day in my life".  If you choose people based on their ability to talk wedding with you, help you plan, throw you parties, etc, then you've lost sight of what it really is about.

SweetTea87

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: help! how to ask for a bridal shower or bachlerette party? : Yes there obviously is something wrong with me as i never thought of having a child carry a sign at my wedding encouraging my groom to run. What's wrong with you?
Posted by doalittlejig[/QUOTE]

Haven't gotten married yet ding dong jigglypuff - it's a picture off of Pinterest I thought was FUNNY.  You know, humor?

doalittlejig

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_help-how-to-ask-for-a-bridal-shower-or-bachlerette-party?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:87ad807a-3781-42c0-951f-e392d06136afPost:a1850c6c-cee7-4bd3-8e11-ed3b477fd8da">Re: help! how to ask for a bridal shower or bachlerette party?</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: help! how to ask for a bridal shower or bachlerette party? : Haven't gotten married yet ding dong jigglypuff - it's a picture off of Pinterest I thought was FUNNY.  You know, humor?
Posted by SweetTea87[/QUOTE]

Sourtea, I think your future husband should take the little boys advice and you should stop taking other peoples stuff on pinterest.

SweetTea87

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_help-how-to-ask-for-a-bridal-shower-or-bachlerette-party?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:87ad807a-3781-42c0-951f-e392d06136afPost:80665005-13a1-445a-a061-04cc050bad1b">Re: help! how to ask for a bridal shower or bachlerette party?</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: help! how to ask for a bridal shower or bachlerette party? : Sourtea, I think your future husband should take the little boys advice and you should stop taking other peoples stuff on pinterest.
Posted by doalittlejig[/QUOTE]

Umm do you understand how pinterest works?

stupid8d

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_help-how-to-ask-for-a-bridal-shower-or-bachlerette-party?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:87ad807a-3781-42c0-951f-e392d06136afPost:3957240a-cdcb-4dbf-a9e6-e8f49aea9a9e">Re: help! how to ask for a bridal shower or bachlerette party?</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: help! how to ask for a bridal shower or bachlerette party? : A MOH is not required to support you.  Is it nice if they do?  Yes of course, but she has her own life, and while she may be happy for you she doesn't have to like everything or talk about your wedding all the time.  If she's making snarky comments, stop talking about the wedding with her.  That's it.  This isn't a job.  Asking someone to be a MOH or a bridesmaid is about saying "you're special to me, and I want you to be a part of this special day in my life".  If you choose people based on their ability to talk wedding with you, help you plan, throw you parties, etc, then you've lost sight of what it really is about.
Posted by dogsandfrogs[/QUOTE]<div>
</div><div>you're right but would it be bad if I promoted one of my bridesmaids who would love to do everything with me? I wont demote my current moh just add another. Shell probably do it even if I dont promote her but shouldnt I honor her for doing all the extra work? That way my current moh can just come with a pretty dress and still get honored. I am not a troll! I liked the dance off idea because all my friends are dancers and I thought it was cute. I joined yesterday because I just started planning my wedding.  and stupid8d is just a nickname i had since I was a kid that my MOH gave me actually.
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SweetTea87

You don't have to "promote" a bridesmaid to "MOH status" just to plan things with her.  The word promote bothers me here - it's not a JOB to be a bridesmaid.  Geez.  I probably talk to my MOH the least about wedding planning because she's a fulltime student, has a part time job and is a part of multiple dance productions.  She doesn't have time to oooh and aaaah over every little detail.  Which is 100% ok.  Just be thankful for what you have and stop trying to make your friends something they're not. 

Bkseller13

Just get whatever bridesmaid helps you the most a real kickass gift.  The end.

missy68

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_help-how-to-ask-for-a-bridal-shower-or-bachlerette-party?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:87ad807a-3781-42c0-951f-e392d06136afPost:00961260-7cd0-482a-b21a-2c23ec0bad79">Re: help! how to ask for a bridal shower or bachlerette party?</a>:
[QUOTE]After reading these I have decided I will throw a party myself for my girls. I didn't know I could do that. I thought the only partys were the bachlerette and the bridal. The mansion thing is for all of us <strong>because it costs $200 + a day to rent a nice hotel in vegas</strong>. A cheap motel would cost $50 a day which is what they'll be paying if we stay at the mansion. And this mansion would be a way for all of the birdesmaids and groomsman to have a private hang out. I only thought of this option to help them out. I will be paying for over half of their stay there. I have other options that don't include something like that. But my problem with my maid of honor is that she doesn't care about my wedding at all and is making me feel like it's all a mistake. I was thinking of getting an extra maid of honor or matron of honor. She's just not excited, if she was engaged today I would be super excited for her. She knows how important this day is to me and I feel like she should at least be a little happy for me. Its not like she doesnt approve of my wedding, she loves my fiance.
Posted by stupid8d[/QUOTE]

I only got to this part. Oddly enough, rates at the hotel we stayed at were $36 during the weekdays, then $100 Friday and Saturday. Sunday was considered a week rate.

mkrupar

psssttt OP: If you want someone to "share your vision" and someone who will ooohh and aaahhh over all your details. Hire a wedding planner. That's what they're paid to do. Your MOH? Not paid for anything.